I Almost Killed Myself
What I’m about to share with you could literally change your life. At the very least, it could keep you from hitting a brick wall that is straight ahead for any leader who chooses to ignore this truth. As I sat down with pen and paper and starting writing down all the things I was presently responsible for I honestly could not believe it. No wonder I rarely found time to rest, look ahead, and even breathe at times. If I observed anyone else doing the same things, I would have called them fools for even thinking they were super human. Of course, I did all of this with the great desire of making a difference in other people’s lives. I believe it almost cost me my own.
I’ve always believed life is about keeping things in perspective, pressing forward and allowing God to have full reign. There was not a day that went by in the past twenty years of ministry that I’ve not prayed “Father, not my will but yours be done.” The problem is right after I prayed for everything and everyone I continued to take matters into my own hands. I literally tried to be everything for everyone. I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to recognize that my entire approach to leadership was wrong and unhealthy. Not just for me, but for those around me.
Well, the old way is becoming history. No more will I try to play God. No more will I operate as if I’m irreplaceable. No more will I stand in the way of giving others the opportunity of stepping up. Leadership is not about how much you can do personally, but how much you can influence others while making a greater difference than you alone could ever make. Listen to me leaders of today and tomorrow. If you try to do everything you will be limited to what only you can do. Which quite honestly is nothing compared to an army of folks coming together for a greater cause.
Back in the Old Testament we read of a great leader named Moses. This man impacted many lives, but at first he was going about things totally wrong. After being visited by his father in law Jethro, Moses life was changed for the better. As he shared with Jethro all that he was doing and how much he had sitting on his shoulders his father in law could not help but share his wisdom. His father in law said the following to his son in law because he care very deeply about him and knew that if he didn’t intervene soon Moses would likely have a stroke from being so overwhelmed. You can read the full dialogue found in the Book of Exodus, Chapter 18. I will just share with you a few verses you should take note of concerning the exchange between Moses and His father in law.
(Exodus 18:13-20) “And so it was, on the next day, that Moses sat to judge the people; and the people stood before Moses from morning until evening. So when Moses’ father-in-law saw all that he did for the people, he said, “What is this thing that you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit, and all the people stand before you from morning until evening?” And Moses said to his father-in-law, “Because the people come to me to inquire of God. When they have a difficulty, they come to me, and I judge between one and another; and I make known the statutes of God and His laws.” So Moses’ father-in-law said to him, “The thing that you do is not good. Both you and these people who are with you will surely wear yourselves out. For this thing is too much for you; you are not able to perform it by yourself.” “Listen now to my voice; I will give you counsel, and God will be with you: Stand before God for the people, so that you may bring the difficulties to God. And you shall teach them the statutes and the laws, and show them the way in which they must walk and the work they must do.”
Here is the bottom line of what Jethro was telling Moses. Son, you’re trying to do everything by yourself and it’s too much. Plus it’s not good for you and it’s not good for them. Figure out what you can delegate and start delegating whatever that takes. Listen, this is not about trying to get out of a job, but understanding what true leadership is all about. Leadership is not being a lone ranger, but about being a catalyst with great effort to lead others to make a greater difference.
You know when you’ve had one of those moments where what you know connects with what you believe. I finally got what Jethro was trying to telling Moses. My motto from this point forward will be this simple. If, you can give it away, DO IT. Give it away so that more can be accomplished and others can have the opportunity to step up and grow.