PARENTS Category

5 Characteristics Of Great Parents

I’m far from being a perfect parent. In fact, I’m afraid no such human exist that I’ve met. However, I have been a parent for over 20 years. Even better I was raised by two great parents. Plus, I’ve had a close up view of many other great parents. Here are five things that set […]

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Parents: Tough Love Is Mandatory

I have four boys ages 19, 17, 15, and 9. Each one of them have totally different personalities. Each one has to be approached in an understanding way. Each one just like myself has certain strengths and weaknesses. Each one of them are in different seasons of life. Time has proven that growing up is […]

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Christmas Shopping

My wife and I have always set a very clear budget for Christmas. Our 4 boys know they will not be getting gifts beyond our means. I doubt we’ve ever spent over $100 per child. When times were tougher we didn’t spend more than $50 per child. If Santa can’t pay his light bill he […]

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Parents Wake Up

For a long time I was asleep as a parent. Sure I love my children dearly and I would do anything for them. However, I believe it’s when they hit the teenage years that most of us really wake up. Why? Because what once seemed simplistic gets very complicated. Before the teenage years you’re just […]

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Continue To Learn

I still recall what my professor said on the first day of my journey towards getting my masters degree. He said, “I’m not here to teach you everything you need to know. I’m here to teach you how to be a life long learner.” Those words have never left my mindset the past twenty years. […]

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Dads Lives Matter

Tonight we celebrated my dad’s 70th birthday. It was a surprise party and total family affair. He clearly appreciated our thoughtfulness. My brothers and I clearly recognized the significance of the moment. You see, we’ve each been blessed to call him dad for well over forty something years. I’m well aware that many never get […]

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Watch Out My Friend

How often do we plan stuff and just expect things to all work out? Then, unexpectedly something goes on that we never expected. It might be our car breaking down, a sudden tragedy, an argument with our spouse, or an issue with one of our children. The list is endless of what can happen in […]

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Just Glad To Be There

Just got home from watching our home town high school Cougars play some football. They ended up losing in the fourth quarter, but I was just glad to be there. Had the honor of walking out on the field with my next to oldest son for senior night. This is his last year to march […]

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4 Ways Parents Shouldn’t Communicate

I’m presently trying to adjust to being a parent of a college student, a high school senior, a freshman and a third grader. Often it’s like riding a bull that at any moment could throw you off. Like most parents my heart’s desire is to be a perfect parent. Unfortunately, I fall short daily of […]

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3 Things Every Leader Must Know

Anyone who ever thinks leadership is easy has simply never been a true leader. Whether at home or on the job you’re gonna have to make tough decisions. Not every decision you make will be popular, but you’ve got to do what’s best and trust God with the rest. If you know something needs to […]

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Dads Matter Too

We live in a society that doesn’t celebrate dads anywhere near as much as moms. However, even as a dad I understand why to a certain degree. We don’t actually give birth to any child. We usually aren’t near as patient. We usually aren’t around near as much. And, compared to most moms we aren’t […]

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A Tribute To My Mom

This past Mother’s day I felt led to reflect on how thankful I am for my mom. This is not an exhaustive list by far. But, it’s 5 of the things I love most about my mom. These things have been demonstrated all my life and I’m grateful God chose her to be my mom. […]

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The Preacher’s Family

Earlier my wife and I had a normal argument that was escalated by the fact we are both exhausted. No, we’re not on the verge of a divorce. Yes, we still love each other. But, God prompted me to shed light on some things that someone reading this might need to hear. The preacher, his […]

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Dear Parents Who Are Separated

Earlier I was sitting inside a Chick-fil-A restaurant with two of my boys. Across from me nearest the playground area was this young couple who were clearly still in the honeymoon phase of dating. They had 3 little kids with them in the play area that didn’t appear to be their own. Mainly because they […]

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Give Us Childlike Faith

  Earlier my 7yr old and I got down on our knees to pray together. He asked me to pray first so I followed his request. First, I reminded him how awesome it is that we can come to God with anything. He shook his head yes in a way I knew he believed every […]

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A New Year’s Perspective

As the clock got closer to midnight on New Year’s Eve  I was reading my Bible. Sitting right beside me in bed was my youngest son Asher. I really didn’t think he was paying any attention as he was playing with some toy. Next thing I know my 7 year old says, “Look daddy I’m […]

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Don’t Blink Parents

If you have kids you will especially understand what I’m about to say. One moment you’re celebrating their birth and the next you’re bracing yourself for their departure. You hear people tell you early on that they grow up so fast. Well, those people are absolutely correct. I still recall the dramatic entrance of my […]

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Parents We Must Teach Truth

I’m reaching that point with my boys where it’s impossible to avoid uncomfortable conversations. I know they live in a world that doesn’t clearly distinguish right from wrong. The least I can do and should do as a parent is guide them with unchangeable truth. And, I plan to do just that as long as […]

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Approach God Like You’re 7

It’s so refreshing having a seven old in your home. He reminds me what it’s like to have a childlike faith. Whatever he prays he expects God to answer. Everyday he thanks God for what he calls the “best day ever.” He still thanks God for watching over his “Boo Boo” our family dog that […]

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Young Parents Please Read

I’m writing this shortly after watching a slide show my wife made for my oldest son’s graduation party. The first time I watched it I’m sure I cried a bucket full of tears. The second time just a gallon of tear drops fell. But, by the fifth time I cried zero tears as there was […]

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Dear Son, I’ll Try Not To Cry

Anyone who has ever watched a child grow up right before their very eyes will totally get what I’m writing. Anyone who has ever heard someone say years ago “before you know it that child will be all grown up”, you now understand. Anyone that is about to watch their son or daughter walk across […]

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Daddy, Can We Play?

I’m a Pastor to many and husband to one of the greatest women on the planet. But, I’m beyond blessed to have four boys that call me daddy. Very soon I will have a 17, 15, 13, and 6 year old. Of course the youngest is beyond spoiled by us all. Recently I bought him […]

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Creating A House Of Love

A huge goal of mine is that our family always be full of God’s love. I believe it’s the glue that keeps everyone together. I know it’s something that will carry on for generations to come. In our house, loving everybody is not an option. It is not acceptable at any time to think you’re […]

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Dear Mom & Dad

I’m about to turn 41 years old. I’ve been happily married for 18 and 1/2 years. I’ve got four boys ages 16, 14, 12, and 6. I’ve been a minister for 21 years. I realize more everyday how blessed I am to have the parents that raised me. I would like to explain and express […]

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More Than A Test Drive

Recently I took my oldest son out for lunch. Afterwards, I told him he could drive us home. All it took was him backing the car up and putting it in drive. Next thing I knew my blood pressure was rising very similiar to the last time we tried that experiment. In hopes of not […]

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When Pictures Move You

I’m not one of those guys that just sits around looking at old pictures. But, every time I do my mind drifts and my heart is moved. Recently, my two oldest sons turned ages 15 and 13. Not only did I realize we now officially have two teenagers, but the pictures my wife showed me […]

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Adjustments Every Parent Must Make

  I’ve said the following for years. No one loves a child more than a parent. The question that remains is does that parent know how to show that love to their child? I believe any parent in their right mind wants to do their best, but that requires continued adjustments to our approach. Here are […]

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Are You A REAL DAD?

       It’s been said that anyone can be a father, but not every father chooses to be a dad. I’ve been a dad for almost 15 years. I’ve been blessed to have a dad all my life. I’m not sure this qualifies me to write the following words. However, with Father’s Day right around […]

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5 Things You Must Know About Money

     Recently, I was out with my 14 year old, on our weekly daddy day. During our times together we usually discuss many topics, but this time money matters topped the list. That night, I took the time to write down some things I believe God would have me model and teach my kids about […]

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Lessons From Great Moms

     I’m not sure there is a more deserved holiday than Mother’s Day. They’re not perfect, but most I know are a huge blessing to their family. Moms teach us so much by the lives they live, the sacrifices they make, and the love they lavish upon us. I would like to share three things […]

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Dads Please Read This

     I don’t need to read any more books, check any more stats, or live one day longer to know that dads matter. You show me a child with a missing in action dad and I’ll show you someone who will struggle. No, this doesn’t mean every child without a dad is hopeless. What it does mean […]

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Confessions Of A Pastor

     They say confession is healing, so here goes nothing. I was raised by two God fearing parents who did their best to raise us to have a healthy love for God, love for our neighbors, and live completely devoted to God’s word. Of course, there is no such thing as a perfect home. I […]

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Living In A Make Believe World

Once upon a time there was a different world. A world where kids actually played with one another, television didn’t exist, and just listening to the radio was a big deal. Then came 500 satellite channels, cell phones, the internet, and what everyone must now have “the smart phone.” Slowly but surely the world changed […]

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“Mother F…..Yes, I said it”

          Awhile back I was at my 12 year old’s last football game of the season. Suddenly I heard a lady shouting behind me. Someone had just laid a big hit on a kid and she yelled out, “Mother F….., that was a hit.” I couldn’t help but whip my head around to see who […]

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The Parent’s Job Description

Parents, none of us have really been given an official job description, but here is a top ten list of things I’m pretty certain should be included. Before I attempt to share any of this with you, I’ve taken note of this in my own heart. Parenting is a journey that will test you, breaks […]

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A Key Family Moment

This summer we decided to split our week of family vacation into two long weekend getaways. Our last step away from normal life was to Myrtle Beach. As expected with four boys there was never a dull moment. Now, I could bore you with what we did, but I would like to share with you […]

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Out Of Order

I am deeply sorry for the following. I apologize to my wife and I will be begging my kids for forgiveness. No, they didn’t tell me I have a problem, but a person knows when they are living life backwards. I’m afraid there are many more like me all around. As I write this, I […]

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5 Keys To A Healthy Family

Maybe it’s because I see so many unhealthy families I’m writing this. Maybe it’s because I’m trying myself to discover the answer to this question. As I write this I understand that every family is different and there is no one size fits all. However, I do believe there are key ingredients that are critical […]

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10 Reasons I Love My Dad

Before I go any further, I want to wish all you dads a belated Father’s Day. As a father of four boys myself, I know that being a dad is not a small order, unless you choose to water it down. I’m also afraid that due to all the dads missing in actions, dads that […]

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Parents Must Monitor Online Activity

I think we all can agree that we live in an online world. Kids growing up today don’t know what it’s like not to have the internet and immediate access to just about anything. Every parent should have a healthy fear of the internet. You need the kind of fear that compels you to monitor […]

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What Makes A SUPER MOM?

As I write this, I realize that every mom is priceless. I also realize that not everyone has been blessed with the kind of mom I was raised by in this life. I thank God every day for my mom and her commitment to doing her best to raise me up in the way that […]

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You’re Gonna Miss This

       God has blessed me with four boys ages 13, 11, 9, and 3. As a pastor of a brand new church and a full time hospice chaplain, I must admit it’s very hard to find time and energy to spend with my family. Of course, I love them dearly, but some weeks are just […]

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Lessons From Little League

I’ve been involved in Little League since I was a young man. I can still recall the butterflies, excitement, and the crowds that came to watch us under the bright lights.. Years later, I’m now a coach watching my own boys take their turn on the baseball diamond. Today, Little League is not near as much of […]

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5 Keys To A GREAT FAMILY VACATION

I just finished cleaning out the family van which resembled the aftermath of a severe hurricane. This experience was something I would not wish on anyone, but I was motivated by the fact that tomorrow morning we leave for family vacation. Here are five goals I have for this special week of our lives. #1: […]

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Originally posted on Craig Crosby:
This weekend my wife and I will be getting away without our four boys. For months I’ve been waiting for our next getaway. One of my boys said, “Daddy you can’t go to Myrtle Beach without us, that’s not fair! You don’t love us?” I said, “Son, it’s because I…

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Why Parents Need To Get Away ALONE

This weekend my wife and I will be getting away without our four boys. For months I’ve been waiting for our next getaway. One of my boys said, “Daddy you can’t go to Myrtle Beach without us, that’s not fair! You don’t love us?” I said, “Son, it’s because I do love you that we […]

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WE FAIL OUR CHILDREN WHEN……

Parents = People who aren’t perfect, but are responsible for raising and taking care of another person. There is nothing that qualifies any of us for this God-sized endeavor called parenting. At the very same time we seek to help someone else grow up, we ourselves are still under development. Our children are highly impacted […]

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Gifts Every Child Needs This Christmas

It’s usually around Thanksgiving that family members start requesting every child sends them a Christmas list. There is absolutely nothing wrong with gift giving and enjoying things you’ve been given. However, too many parents will spend hundreds of dollars on gifts for their children that will quickly lose their value. What I’m about to share […]

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THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME

I hear people constantly talking about how bad this world has become. I hear parents talking about how terrified they are when it comes to the schools their children attend. I will not attempt to argue with either of these concerns, but I will say that there is no place like home. The home is […]

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7 THINGS EVERY PARENT MUST REMEMBER!!!

*DISCLAIMER: Please know that I am not saying this because I think I am a perfect parent. I miss the mark daily! However, I do believe that these are ageless and priceless principles that can keep us all on track as we seek to be the parents God designed us to be! Every word I […]

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MY KIDS INHERITANCE

I don’t think there is a parent on the planet that in their right mind doesn’t want the best for their kids. That is something that I rarely question. What I do question is “Do they really know what is best?” Many dads and moms will work countless hours hoping to give their children the […]

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3 Things Every Parent Should Know

1.  Your kids need you! More than the bills paid, more than pop corn and the movie, your kids need you. Yes, I know you’ve got to work and you are very busy. But, you must make time to spend with each of your children. As you know, they grow up quick and you will […]

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