Life Issues Category

What Are You Worried About?

For many of us our minds are filled with emotions. We over think so many things and situations. What could go wrong? What might go wrong? What has gone wrong? Next thing we know we need somebody to give us a chill pill before we totally freak out. No, you’re not the only one that […]

Read More

Hilinski: Bringing Hope Beyond Football

Ryan Hilinski is just another 18 year old. However, he was one of the most sought after college quarterback recruits in the nation. At least 32 top 50 schools offered him a full scholarship to play quarterback. Schools such as Georgia, LSU, Ohio State, Oregon, Texas A&M, Stanford and his state’s pride and joy the […]

Read More

3 Reasons Marriages Struggle

This August my wife and I will have been married 22 years. We started dating 26 years ago. I thought we would’ve mastered this marriage thing by now. The truth is it’s always a challenge. Loving one another is easy. Learning how to do so in an understanding way is a constant roller coaster. I’ve […]

Read More

We All Need A Valentine

As Valentines Day approaches my gut tells me that somebody feels a little less loved. Whether it be because you’ve not yet found your true earthly love. Or for some reason you’ve lost your once true love. I know there are no words that heal a broken heart. I know we all have the need […]

Read More

Don’t Bury Your Story

Yesterday, I had to wait an extensive amount of time at my pain specialist’s office. My lower back was long overdue for another pain injection. While in the waiting room God placed beside me a divine appointment. All I needed to do was open my eyes, heart, and mouth when necessary. This middle aged lady […]

Read More

Christmas Shopping

My wife and I have always set a very clear budget for Christmas. Our 4 boys know they will not be getting gifts beyond our means. I doubt we’ve ever spent over $100 per child. When times were tougher we didn’t spend more than $50 per child. If Santa can’t pay his light bill he […]

Read More

“Just Say No” to Media Madness

Many people have an addiction to something just as toxic as many drugs. It’s called world news, but in reality it’s worldly opinions. Even worse than their opinions are their agendas. Most of what the media feeds us is intended to lure, anger and divide us. Even still most Americans hang on every spoken or […]

Read More

Dear Rivalry Fan

Many know its the day before the big game. Yes, the one that you really hope your team wins no matter what. It doesn’t matter how the season has gone so far. If you could pick just one game to win this would be it. Since you were a young child you’ve been clearly on […]

Read More

Look For Reasons To Celebrate

It’s that time of night again. That point I reach daily where the pain just finally wears me down. Something like electricity keeps running throughout both feet all the way up into my face. I’m tempted to throw a full blown pity party. To tell you how bad life is for me at this present […]

Read More

Parents Wake Up

For a long time I was asleep as a parent. Sure I love my children dearly and I would do anything for them. However, I believe it’s when they hit the teenage years that most of us really wake up. Why? Because what once seemed simplistic gets very complicated. Before the teenage years you’re just […]

Read More

I’m Going On Strike

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had enough. We live in a society that puts too much undeserved pressure on people. Everybody wants things to happen overnight. There’s never enough hours in the day mentality. You’ve gotta do it all and have it all now.  Now, I’m all about seizing the moment in front […]

Read More

The Spirit Of Big Blue

What I’m about to share is not just for those who love the Walterboro Band of Blue. However, it’s something we all can learn from and celebrate. My seventeen year old son has been in the Band of Blue for four years and will graduate this year. It’s something I celebrate, but really hate to […]

Read More

Watch Out My Friend

How often do we plan stuff and just expect things to all work out? Then, unexpectedly something goes on that we never expected. It might be our car breaking down, a sudden tragedy, an argument with our spouse, or an issue with one of our children. The list is endless of what can happen in […]

Read More

I Feel Out Of Sync

I don’t mind at all having a break from the scorching heat. However, it’s obvious this colder weather is doing my body no favors. Every joint and piece of metal within me appears to be screaming for help. The only relief I find in these moments are heating pads and hot baths. I truly need to […]

Read More

Just Glad To Be There

Just got home from watching our home town high school Cougars play some football. They ended up losing in the fourth quarter, but I was just glad to be there. Had the honor of walking out on the field with my next to oldest son for senior night. This is his last year to march […]

Read More

Living On Fantasy Island

The younger you are the more you live in a fantasy land. You grow up with dreams of how you picture life will be. Then as you get older and older true reality sets in. You realize grade school wasn’t that bad after all. That you thought you knew stress, but then you started paying […]

Read More

4 Ways Parents Shouldn’t Communicate

I’m presently trying to adjust to being a parent of a college student, a high school senior, a freshman and a third grader. Often it’s like riding a bull that at any moment could throw you off. Like most parents my heart’s desire is to be a perfect parent. Unfortunately, I fall short daily of […]

Read More

3 Things Every Leader Must Know

Anyone who ever thinks leadership is easy has simply never been a true leader. Whether at home or on the job you’re gonna have to make tough decisions. Not every decision you make will be popular, but you’ve got to do what’s best and trust God with the rest. If you know something needs to […]

Read More

Dads Matter Too

We live in a society that doesn’t celebrate dads anywhere near as much as moms. However, even as a dad I understand why to a certain degree. We don’t actually give birth to any child. We usually aren’t near as patient. We usually aren’t around near as much. And, compared to most moms we aren’t […]

Read More

Still Fighting For Me

I just spent 3 1/2 hours straight in the tub. While it’s my greatest source of relief I can’t stay in there forever. My skin has definitely been reacting negatively to so much time in water. Even still, I’ll take the breakouts sometimes in exchange for the relief. Overall, my pain has been manageable. Even […]

Read More

PLEASE HELP ME

Last night I had a series of dreams. Not about imaginary things but of things I’ve observed in the past that still deeply move my heart in the present. In these dreams were people I had the joy of helping throughout Colleton County back when my health was much better. It was as if each […]

Read More

Will Life Ever Be The Same?

I would imagine this is a question that many ask themselves after a deep sense of loss. I know many feel this way after the loss of a very close loved one. Crazy thing is I’ve not had any recent loss of a loved one. No one in my strong circle of family or friends […]

Read More

Scared Of The Future

    I believe most of us today have a fear of many things. We especially worry about what the future might hold. When it comes to our family, finances, and health just to name a few. So much going on around us on the outside triggers our deepest concerns on the inside. It is […]

Read More

Forced To Regroup

When life throws you a curve ball you’re often forced to regroup. Especially if what happens takes you by total surprise. It’s amazing how just one life event can force so much change. In just a moment everything you once knew as normal can be flipped upside down. Then, it takes quite some time to […]

Read More

Grief Is Always A Process

I’m not sure I agree with the statement “time heals all wounds.” That’s definitely not true concerning all griefs in this life. Some things you don get over, but God carries you through. With time some things may get a little easier. But, anytime you’re grieving the loss of someone or something you can’t reverse […]

Read More

Getting Rid Of A Guilty Conscience

I’ve often said satan makes us feel guilty, but God makes us feel convicted. What’s the difference? Conviction is when we know something needs to change in our heart or life. Conviction can lead to a much needed positive change. Feeling guilty just pure leaves miserable over things. It’s when you just beat yourself up […]

Read More

When The Pain Is Insane

I’m praying the Valium I took will settle me down soon. And, I’m believing the prayers of many will accomplish the rest. Outside of just pure misery this level of nerve pain crushes my spirit deep within. As strong as my faith is I’m still human. Each time I feel I’m headed towards the mountain […]

Read More

When You Can You Must

It has been over a week since I had the strength to do anything towards my recovery. Nerve pain still won’t let me just take a long walk. I’ve spent most all my time either in the bed, tub, or headed to the next doctor’s appointment. I’ve had to keep myself from driving anywhere that […]

Read More

It’s Now 3am

If my heart rate was not alright I would be heading up to the emergency room. I’ve been here many, many times before, but never with my legs hurting this bad. I believe I have felt the edge leave a little since turning the stimulator totally off. But, I’m talking pain that takes your breath […]

Read More

Just Before I Preach

It’s 9:10am as I write this knowing I’ve got to preach two worship services this morning. No one really understands but God exactly what I feel. Anyone evaluating what’s going inside my body right now would yell “Just Give Up.” But, everything within me is saying “Just Hold On.” I’m constantly hearing both voices around […]

Read More

The Preacher’s Family

Earlier my wife and I had a normal argument that was escalated by the fact we are both exhausted. No, we’re not on the verge of a divorce. Yes, we still love each other. But, God prompted me to shed light on some things that someone reading this might need to hear. The preacher, his […]

Read More

The Tide Is Rising

I’ve cried more today than I ever have in my life. My body has been shaken to the core. My entire nervous system is a train wreck. It’s an understatement to say that my strength is gone and I’m out of breath. By far this is the most intense battle I’ve ever faced. Fortunately, I […]

Read More

Dear Younger Me

I figure I’m at least midway through my life. I’ve thought deeply about some things I would tell the younger me. And while I can’t go back and relive any of my past I’m hoping what I’ve learned might help someone just starting out their life journey. These are just a few things that I […]

Read More

Invisible Until Visible Diseases

Ever heard of things like anxiety, grief, depression, or addiction just to name a few? These things make up part of a list a mile long of things many struggle with all the time even if most people only see the major side effects some of the time. I never fully recognized such things until […]

Read More

The Moment I Lay Down

  As crazy as it may sound to some the moment I lay down is when my greatest battle begins. It instantly exposes the things inside my back that were not God-made. I do believe God uses doctors, surgeries, technology and medications. However, nothing done to me has brought me much relief. When I lay […]

Read More

Do I Have An Identity Crisis?

I’ve been reading the last few weeks a book that has really spoken to my heart. It’s called “When Your World Falls Apart” by Dr. David Jeremiah. I’ve realized that I really didn’t even know what I was made of until my world as I knew it literally flipped upside down 30 months ago. I […]

Read More

I Want To Jump Off A Bridge

There is no way I can fully describe today’s doctor visit in just one article. Thank God for a great friend driving me an hour there and back. I desperately needed someone who at least is trying to understand my situation. Earlier I went to see my pain specialist and just as I expected absolutely […]

Read More

My Phone Spoke To Me

Many of you know that follow my journey I’m known for sharing the good, the bad and the ugly. Well when my first medicine alarm woke my exhausted body up this morning at 7am I found the following words typed, but left unposted on my phone. All I remember is it was after 3am and […]

Read More

When You’re Just Not Sure

There always seems to be something or someone you’re just not sure how to approach. Usually when you’re just not sure it truly is best you move forward with precaution and preciseness. Obviously it’s something you feel like is fragile and possibly risky. So, the situation demands you begin by being still before God. Here […]

Read More

It’s Like A Death Except

It’s only been 30 straight months of dealing with uncontrollable nerve pain. I’ve gone through more medications in that time than many will see all their entire life. Everything has been a process of trial and error. I’ve tried surgery, a spinal cord stimulator, therapy, walking, pain shots, Rhizotomy, natural supplements, counseling, prescription medications, lots […]

Read More

Dear Unchurched Friend

I feel led to share just a few words with you. Nothing that I will say will be from a condemning or judging attitude. In fact, I know plenty of people who go to to church that act worse than most outside of the church. But, this has nothing to do with comparing anyone or […]

Read More

How To Fight With Your Spouse

Originally posted on Craig Crosby:
You name it and we’ve fought about it. Finances, house chores, children, pets, he said, she said, and everything else in between. I honestly believe that any married couple that says they don’t fight is either still on their honeymoon or just never sees one another. In the course of…

Read More

Are You Being Tested?

God must have some BIG plans ahead for me. I bet I can’t even fathom what lies ahead on the other side of this fiery trial. Don’t get me wrong I’ve faced many seasons of adversity in the past. But, none of it ever held a candle to the nonstop torment in the present season. […]

Read More

In The Wilderness

I’ve been in the bed the past 12 hours in a somewhat sleeping state. Had to sit up in the bed and sleep due to something continuing make my heart feel like it’s racing. Anytime I check my heart rate or blood pressure both are fine. All this morning my legs and my chest have […]

Read More

What If I Were Lost?

I’m sure many think I’m just complaining all the time. That I’m just struggling like everybody does and can’t handle much. But, I can assure you that being in my painful body is pure torcher. I’m dealing with head to toe pain that just won’t let up. Discomforting sensations have constantly run through my entire […]

Read More

The Anchor Holds

As I sit in this tub for physical relief I’m not able to run from my emotional distress. As we all know you could leave the country and your feelings would still be with you. It’s hard when all your energy to fight is gone. When you’ve had nothing but countless hours to think about […]

Read More

Dealing With My Nerves

I’ve learned how to cope with most of my greatest issues. I usually know when to take it easy. I know when to elevate my legs to calm my back pain. I know when I simply need a healthy walk. I know when I need to phone a friend or family member. But, I just […]

Read More

Pain Changes You

You would think by now I would be used to it. But, I’m afraid there is no totally getting used to dealing with pain that constantly interrupts your life. It’s with you when you wake up. It’s with you when you leave your house. It’s with you when you sit up, lay down, and go […]

Read More

God Is Making Me Over

I know deep in my heart that I must officially say goodbye to the old me. Gone are the days that I can live as a daily oncall chaplain. Gone are the days that I can go play baseball or basketball with my boys. Gone are the days that I can go out with my […]

Read More

Honesty Is Healthy And Purposeful

I periodically go see a professional counselor and make sure I process my pain honestly with those I feel I can trust. The truth is not everyone can be trusted with your honesty. Someone who doesn’t know your heart can be very quick to judge your heart. However, we all need a safe place to […]

Read More

Let Faith Arise

Still no sleep as I lie here itching from the constant vibrations of nerve pain throughout my body. There seems to be only two states of living for me. Either thinking the worst is behind me or absolute misery. The unpredictable misery drives me insane. I would pay any amount of money to get rid […]

Read More

Afraid Of The “What If”

Well I’m back in the tub seemingly the only place I can find some relief. To say I’m exhausted is an understatement. My body has been throbbing constantly since 3am this morning and it’s past 3pm now. I can barely even stand up on my on two legs. How I preached two Sunday services today […]

Read More

3 Traits Of A Great Caregiver

While making it through anything difficult your support system is always critical. I know I would not be near as sane or strong without mine. My support system is a collective group of family, friends, and of course Jesus. But, while imperfect I believe my wife is the absolute perfect caregiver when it comes to […]

Read More

Still Broken, But Encouraged

My pain had been very bearable and my soul at peace for close to 36 hours. So, I was excited to get out the house and ride with my parents to Cracker Barrel. I had not one sign that would indicate my body was about to crash. However, I was very uncomfortable trying to sit […]

Read More

I Know I’m Depressed

Maybe it’s been the case for some time. Maybe I’ve just been in denial. But, I can no longer deny what is obvious to me every day God allows me to wake up. I am actively battling this thing called depression. The following definition by Merriam Webster defines how I feel. “ Depression is a […]

Read More

The Biggest Storm Of My Life

What I’m about to say I know many of you can relate. Personally I’m in the biggest storm of my life. I’m extremely miserable about 70 percent of the time. The other 30 percent of the time I’m asleep. My body feels like it’s burning from the inside out. It still appears that someone has […]

Read More

Will You Be Faithful Even When It Hurts

Written: 1/23/18 I’m back in the tub and honestly my back feels like I just had surgery yesterday. It physically hurts so bad in the surgical area in a way I’ve not felt in quite sometime. I really don’t know what to do to improve things. This level of pain just sucks the air and […]

Read More

I JUST DON’T KNOW

Written: January 21st, 2018 (PM) I always hate to admit it, but my body still can’t handle a full day of anything. I have been absolutely thrilled today to celebrate all God has done in just 4 years of Refuge Church’s existence. However, most of my spine can’t even be touched it’s so sore and […]

Read More

He Will Never Leave Or Fail

Written: January 21st, 2018 Today has been another God made day. This makes the 4th day in a row that my meds have kept my nerve pain under control. However, I’ve been back in the hot tub for over two hours and counting. But, I’m not complaining because it’s easing the pain in my legs […]

Read More

GOD OF MIRACLES

It’s 4am Sunday, January 21, 2018 and my aching body has me back in the hot tub. My medication has actually been keeping my nerve pain bearable for 3 days straight. I just simply have issues that apart from a miracle just won’t be healing this side of heaven. But, I believe in miracles because […]

Read More

I Reflect At Night

Written: January 19th, 2018 pm Often it’s not until I totally slow down and lay down that I’m forced to reflect. So much goes through my mind and rest on my heart. I believe most of us are our own worst critics. However, I definitely believe we need to have a daily time of personal […]

Read More

Tormented In The Night

Written: January 19th, 2018 All night Satan has tormented me in my sleep. I’ve woken up basically every hour with my heart pounding. Each time I’ve had to sit up in the bed and just keep taking deep breaths. I’m pretty sure I’ve freaked my wife a few times as I wasn’t sure myself what […]

Read More

We All Need Somebody

  Written: January 18th, 2018 Today has been a very special day. It’s going to sound minor, but I’m thrilled that I’ve not had to take a Valium all day long. My doctor has increased my meds in hopes of keeping the edge off of my nerve pain. And it appears to be working. Today […]

Read More

Anxiety Can’t Just Be Ignored

                I’ve now approached exactly 28 months since nerve pain took over my body. Yet, even after surgery, a spinal cord stimulator, countless shots, daily therapy and a continued increase in medications I feel back to square one. Today, I’ve experienced another crash, burn and cry session. I’ve […]

Read More

Use The Platform God Gives You

Woke up today feeling better than yesterday so far and the hot tub is at least soothing me some. I’ve definitely discovered over time that my nerve pain is just so easily triggered. It doesn’t take much critical or deep conversation for things to switch into high gear. Then shortly after that I can hardly […]

Read More

It’s Not About Me

Back in my favorite most relieving spot the hot tub. Man on man does God continue to affirm that my present struggle has such purpose. I may not like how I feel, but it creates a straight bridge of understanding to so many hearts. Many others can identify with my pain and sorrow. Today it […]

Read More

Feeling Misunderstood Hurts

Written: Jan 13th, 2018 Earlier I was in the middle of a simple conversation with my boys. Next thing I know I feel my nerve pain flooding throughout my body. It’s in that moment I know I need to cease conversation immediately and exit the room as soon as possible. Why? Because the moment my […]

Read More

Another Raw & Real Moment

Written: Jan 12, 2018 (Late Night) Please don’t take a word I’m about to share as whining or just wanting attention. What I’m about to write is just for my own sanity, healing and hoping to let someone else not feel so alone in their journey. Extreme pain for too long takes you to a […]

Read More

Frozen In Time

Written: Jan 12th, 2018 One thing about chronic illness is it’s hard to separate your days from nights. Every hour feels like a day and everyday feels like forever. You feel like life is standing still and often like it’s passing by without you. Everyday feels the same as your pain leaves you feeling like […]

Read More

THANK YOU GOD FOR MY SUFFERING

I’ve reached a point I never thought I could or would. I’m beginning to thank God for my pain. Even as nerve pain continues to radiate through my body I just can’t deny what I’m sensing and seeing. God is using my pain for my good, the good of others, and for His glory. Once […]

Read More

Living Without My Full Legs

It’s been well over a year since I’ve ever gotten an ounce of sleep without medication. Even still I’m thankful for rest any way I can get it. It’s my only chance at recharging and possibly healing. Asleep is the only time I’m totally without pain and some level of discomfort. Everyday I’m learning how […]

Read More

“Don’t Waste A Failure”

It really caught my attention the moment it was spoken. I certainly didn’t expect God to speak to me while I was watching ESPN’s coverage of the College Football Championship. But, then a sports analyst quoted the following words spoken by one of the winningest football coaches ever. Alabama’s Head Coach Nick Saban has said […]

Read More

Waiting On My World To Change

Written: January 6th, 2018 I struggle these days to even describe how I feel. It’s nothing new I can tell you. The words freshly on my tongue are tormented, miserable, painful, perplexed, impatient, distracted, discouraged, exhausted, shocked and waiting on things to change. I feel like I’ve been waiting for eternity, but it’s actually only […]

Read More

Hoping For Change In 2018?

I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait for the new year to begin. I realize it’s just another year and that nothing will dramatically change over night. However, I find we all need seasons of reflection, refocus, and renewal. We can’t just keep running on autopilot and expect things we never aimed for […]

Read More

God, Please Slay This Giant

I spent most of January 1, 2018 dealing with lots of nerve pain. I’ve now woke up on January 2nd with nerve pain running through my body once again. Just had to call and cancel my first physical therapy session of the New Year. Knowing I’ve got irreparable nerve damage “by man” stinks. It is […]

Read More

Let ‘Em Work, Let ‘Em Live

A believing mindset really does make a huge difference. For reasons I still don’t understand I have such peace. Peace that everything will work itself out with time. Peace that God is still purposely using my hardship to shape me and encourage others. Peace that if I keep doing my part God will certainly do […]

Read More

Old Feelings Were Resurrected

Written: 12/28/31 Ever have something unexpected happen that quickly reopens an old wound you thought was scarred shut? Suddenly the pain takes you back in time to a place you would rather forget. Before you know it you’re anxiety is sky rocketing. Satan has you thinking that any perceived progress made was all in your […]

Read More

Dear Lonely, Grieving And Confused

I can’t say I know how you feel. But, I’ve looked in enough of your eyes to see the magnitude of your pain. My heart sincerely aches for those who are missing loved ones dearly this holiday season. I truly don’t think there is anything harder than feeling alone or abandoned. Maybe the love of […]

Read More

Bad Day, Good God

I had to look back at my own Facebook timeline to recall the last time I felt so badly. To my surprise it was only a few days ago. Yet, in my mind I feel like I’ve not felt this badly in months. My nerve pain is raging and my pain level is at least […]

Read More

In His Time

Went to bed last night in great discomfort, but my medication finally knocked me out. Then, I was awoken after cooler temperatures caused my entire nervous system to go haywire. The good news is my recent pain shot has not created as much pain as it usually does the days following. The bad news is […]

Read More

Our Weakness, God’s Platform

Written: 12-20-17 I’ve not been able to sleep one minute since my pain injection this morning. However, I’m finally getting more comfortable with my nighttime medications digesting. I’ve been trying all I can to put finishing touches on my Christmas Eve message for this Sunday. Preaching to a couple hundred folks is not something I […]

Read More

Lord, I Need You

Written: 12-19-17 Here I go again. I’m back in the hot tub due to nerve pain running throughout my body. Had to take another Valium for the first time in about 2 weeks. All evening has been rough as I just don’t feel comfortable in my own skin. Lord knows I would give anything for […]

Read More

Can I Get A Hot Tub?

12-18-17 Here I go again having to lay back in our jet tub. Seems I reach a point everyday where it’s the only thing that will calm my flaming nerves. I spend an average of two to three hours a day in a hot tub. Laying here brings such such peace to my body and […]

Read More

Miracle Of Mercy

Written: 12-17-17 Well today has been a pretty awesome day. Seeing God work around me, despite me and through me always lifts my spirits. I’m learning that I don’t have to be at my best for God to deliver His best. All I need to do is surrender the best I have to offer for […]

Read More

Suffering Is Everywhere

Written: 12/16/17 This post is less about my pain and more about awareness of the struggles of so many young and old. I’ve felt uncomfortable in my own body since early this morning. I’ve adjusted my spinal stimulator twice today and I’ve done everything to help better my situation. Still I wait second by second […]

Read More

I Met A Man With No Hands

Recently, I was inside a store looking to buy some ginger bread houses. While searching the shelves I realized the boxes I needed were out of my reach. I then asked a gentleman on the other side if he would kindly hand me the boxes I needed. At first, he gave me a look like […]

Read More

God Will Pick You Up

A little over 3 weeks ago I finally reached all I could take. I was truly having a nervous breakdown. My body was exhausted, my energy was gone, and my belief that anything would change was almost gone. I felt compelled to wave my white flag of surrender. I even concluded that I could not […]

Read More

You Never Get Used To It

Written: 12/13/17 Right now my lower back feels like a huge piece of metal is misplaced inside. Oh, what I wouldn’t give for someone to take it out. Some people say that pain is just something you’ve got to put mind over matter. Well, unless I can be hypnotized I’ve found no way to totally […]

Read More

The ELEPHANT In The Church

Before you even get started reading this article I need to make something very clear. I believe very strongly in the church and its mission to tell the world about Jesus. Therefore, nothing I’m about to write has anything to do with putting any church down or comparing churches. I only write articles after God […]

Read More

Evil Has A Face

More than ever before in my life I feel I’ve seen the face of evil. I’m not just saying this because we’re living in troubled times. I’m not just saying this because of things I’ve only seen recently. I’m saying this because it took me many encounters to see the many faces of evil. When […]

Read More

A Sad World We Live In

Earlier I sought to pick up an item my wife ordered online on Craigslist. Of course, nether of us ever met personally the man she talked with by phone. All we knew was it was an older man who moved to the Low Country from Minnesota. He sounded totally harmless for sure. So coming upon […]

Read More

Control What You Can

My therapist just spoke some simple, but life changing truth into my life. He said, “I know you feel like you’re drowning in pain. And I know your pain affects every area of your life. But, instead of focusing on all you can’t control focus on what you can.” While nothing he said was new […]

Read More

Deep Confessions Of A Pastor

Every time you read my posts on this page you are hearing directly from a broken pastor. My humanity can’t help but reveal itself as I’m forced from within to be honest. My honesty is key to my own processing and healing. I would hate for anything I write to make you discredit my faith […]

Read More

The Best & Worst Of Times

Written: November 28th, 2017 Everyday has been an uncertain challenge for over 26 months. Yes, I still battle with as much uncertainty now with my back and nerve pain as I ever did prior to any surgery. This has been the most painful and meaningful journey of my life. I do my best not to […]

Read More

Take Your Mask Off

I’m used to meeting people in difficult places. In the middle of great crisis is where most ministry opportunity begins. One thing I’ve noticed over time is how so many people feel compelled to apologize for how they are feeling and where they are in the moment. I just feel compelled to tell them it’s […]

Read More

God Is Not Done Yet

Everyday is such a physical struggle for me. Even when I look like I’m fine I feel I’m just one step away from not getting back up. My legs feel so heavy, my lower back aches continually, and my limitations are many. But, I can feel God at work every step of the way. Yes, […]

Read More

Dear Confused

I would like take the time to introduce myself. I’m a born again believer in Jesus Christ. My life was forever changed the day I asked Jesus into my heart to be my savior and Lord. Now, I’m not perfect but by God’s grace, through faith in Jesus Christ alone I’m heaven bound. No longer […]

Read More

You Just Don’t Understand

Written: November 1st, 2017 I’m just leaving my 2nd Of 3 physical therapy sessions this week. And here soon I will call an older gentleman I just met for the very first time. You see, while there may be nearly 25 years between us there is so much we have in common. Most of all […]

Read More

355 Posts/ 71,000 Views / 128 Countries

Source: 355 Posts/ 71,000 Views / 128 Countries

Read More

My Breaking Point

I’m passionate about being able to help others sort through life’s most difficult moments. I simply help them apply God’s never changing truth to their ever changing circumstances. But, I’ve learned that sometimes I must say “It’s me, It’s me oh Lord. Standing in the need of prayer.” Now, please don’t inform others that the […]

Read More

Don’t Assume Things

I’ve said this often and I believe it wholeheartedly. You don’t really know anyone until you know their story. We have all been guilty of assuming things about others based on what we think we know from outside perception. You have to take the time to get to know someone before you can know much […]

Read More

You Never Get Used To It

Maybe it’s been building? Maybe it can just be triggered in the blink of an eye? But, regardless of how it happens I never get used to it taking my breath, confidence, and joy away. I just had to pull out my heating pad and take a Valium. Once again nerve pain is surging through […]

Read More

Nights Are Most Painful

What is it about the night that makes your pain so much stronger? Why is it you’re so exhausted all day, but then can’t sleep so easily at night? Why do things seem so much more unbearable at night? I think I’ve got some answers to those questions. One, its in the stillness of the […]

Read More

Day 762 Of Nerve Pain

PROGRESS for me these days is a very big word. As much as my morning and evening therapy is stirring up my nerves like crazy I can feel some mobility returning. My body has just been stuck for so long it needed help awakening. I really do feel this is doing more good than harm. […]

Read More

A Breakthrough Moment

I just finished up my second session of Physiotherapy. During this time I’ve had to move body parts that have been protected and stiff for sometime. Basically I was at ground zero with the motions needed to move forward in my lower back recovery. Honestly, every pain I felt was a good kind because I […]

Read More

He Will Carry You

For quite awhile I’ve felt like an outmatched boxer just one punch away from being knocked out cold. One moment I feel I can beat this battle the next my head is spinning. If I was sizing things up based on odds alone I would been thrown in the towel. However, I must admit I’ve […]

Read More

When You’re Being Rocked

There are moments that all you can do is just hold on to the God of all understanding, peace and power. You feel the boat you’re in presently is rocking so much you’re just not sure how much longer you can “fake it.” Yes, I said “fake it” because many are just trying to pretend […]

Read More

In The Valley

You would think I’d be used to this by now. But, you never get used to something that keeps you miserable all the time. Every night especially feels much like a nightmare until my medication finally drifts me off to sleep. Right now my entire body feels like it’s vibrating. It’s as if my nerves […]

Read More

Please Forgive Me God & Mr. President

I’ve got something to admit that God has convicted me about. I have never “liked” Donald Trump before or now. However, God has made clear to my heart that acting just out of my feelings is rarely best. You don’t have to like someone to treat them how you would want to be treated. You […]

Read More

I Needed Real Life Support

Lately it’s been hard just to breathe. Trying to process anything other than my next breath has been a huge challenge. Lord knows I’ve tried so hard to be strong. Lord knows I’ve tried so hard to get well. Lord knows I’ve prayed and prayed things would turn around. Then, to my complete surprise things […]

Read More

He Breaks My Fall

Right now as I write this he is on the top bunk and I’m on the bottom. I’m just lying here as it settles him to fall asleep quicker. But, little does he know that it’s his presence and his prayers that settle me. But, how can you fully explain that to a 7 year […]

Read More

A Nervous Wreck

The nerve damage within my body is so sensitive to everything. It’s triggered by every move, every thought, and even loud machinery. Awhile back my dad was grinding a stump nearby and it felt like he was literally grinding me. Within just a few minutes it took my pain from a level 4 to a […]

Read More

It Hit Me Like A Hurricane

September 17th, 2017 marked the two year anniversary of the most life altering event of my life. I had just finished visiting with several hospice patients inside a nursing home facility. I was walking towards the cafeteria for lunch. Next thing I know I’m three feet in the air right before pounding the cement floor […]

Read More

God You Must Think I’m Strong

I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying “God won’t put more on you than you can handle.” Well, I beg to differ with that statement. God has put way more on me than I can handle for quite awhile. And just when I feel like I can handle things I realize I just can’t. The […]

Read More

Approach God Like You’re 7

It’s so refreshing having a seven old in your home. He reminds me what it’s like to have a childlike faith. Whatever he prays he expects God to answer. Everyday he thanks God for what he calls the “best day ever.” He still thanks God for watching over his “Boo Boo” our family dog that […]

Read More

When Relationships Go Wrong

I don’t think there is anything harder to heal from than relational hurt. Especially when someone you really love has left you with a feeling of betrayal. You’re left lying awake for countless hours wondering what you could have done differently. Not to mention the fact you feel like you are slowly bleeding inside.So, what […]

Read More

Confession Is Healing

I realize not everybody finds it easy to share what’s on their heart and mind. And, I’m not saying it’s best you always say what you’re thinking or feeling. But, I do know it’s very healthy to have somewhere you can just unload your heavy heart. If you can’t be honest with your friends are […]

Read More

Watch Your Mouth

It seems these days everyone’s mouth is a loose canon. Yet, because words do matter society is ripped apart one careless word at a time. I know I’ve needed my mouth washed out with soap more than a few times. And you don’t have to be using profanity to be in the wrong. The Bible […]

Read More

In The Repair Shop

For quite sometime I’ve felt like I’ve spent more time on the bench than in the game. Knowing my present limitations and knowing my body must have time to heal. Of course there are many things I feel I’ve missed. But, I’ve come to realize this is not wasted time. God just has me in […]

Read More

Why You Gotta Be So Mean?

I’ll never forget the words of someone back when my pain was totally unbearable and driving me insane. This professional said, “Oh that pain is all in your head. I’ve got some mind therapy recordings I can let you borrow to get it out of your mind.” I have to admit that over 18 months […]

Read More

Flat On Your Back

You really don’t know who you are, where you are and what you’re made of until life knocks you flat on your back. It’s then you’re introduced to your humanity and desperateness for an Almighty God. It’s then you learn to value things that really matter and trust things that really last. It’s then God […]

Read More

I Just Had To Try

After months of research and great anticipation the big day finally arrived. I got to try for 7 days a temporary spinal cord stimulator in hopes of finding significant pain relief. Wires were put into my back and connected to a battery back. Then, everything was taped so much to my back that even the […]

Read More

Why You Gotta Be So Rude?

Recently my oldest son Matthew graduated from Colleton County High School. There could not have been two prouder parents watching that day. We took every picture we could and enjoyed all that day had to offer. The only thing I didn’t like was what we encountered in our attempt to exit the school parking lot.  […]

Read More

Uncomfortable In My Own Skin

Mother’s Day started out as a pretty good day. I woke up very grateful for the mother I’ve been blessed to have all my life. In fact, I preached about how grateful I was before many others at church. Everything was great until nerve pain began to surge throughout my body. I’m talking about the […]

Read More

Miracle On Chestnut Street

I received the following text message from a friend on Saturday night, April 22nd at approximately 11:26pm. “Sorry to bother you so late. Chris and Fannie’s baby John is being flown to MUSC. He has a fractured skull and is not responding. He walked behind a bat after it was swung and was hit in […]

Read More

Thank God For The Pain

Unless I take knockout medication I’m usually not getting any sleep before 2am. Yet, even through the long nights and days I can hear God’s voice so clearly. As much as this journey has exhausted me I’m thankful for all the ways God has used the pain. I see life totally different than before. I’m […]

Read More

Don’t Be Afraid To Wait

PATIENCE. I’m just not sure that any of us are born with this ability. Yet, it’s something we all must develop if we plan to accomplish anything great. Why? Because life is full of waiting seasons. However, waiting never seems to be easy for most of us. Before we ever even breathe our first breath […]

Read More

It’s Just Tough To Be Here

The days and nights are so long. I’m so far from feeling like myself. In fact, I’m simply somewhere in life I’ve never been before. I desperately wish things could just go back to normal. Yet, even after much prayer the pain is still real and the reality is constant. I can so relate to […]

Read More

Just Get It Off Your Chest

As I write this I’m sitting in bed with a brace around my neck, ice on my shoulders, and a heating pad on my lower back. I would like to say this is an abnormal experience, but lately it’s become rather normal. For over 11 months since my major back surgery recovery has been a […]

Read More

Dear Married Man

Almost everyday in the midst of many Christian songs, I intentionally listen to the song “Better Man” by the country group Little Big Town. Why? Because I want to remind myself what I’ve seen over and over again in counsel situations. I’ve looked in the face of so many “used to be married” eyes where […]

Read More

Dear Sick & Healthy

One of the biggest things I’ve learned in this health battle journey is what many long term patients feel. Life changes for you. You have few moments you come up for air, but most of the time you feel under the weather (Just Not Yourself). You never feel quite normal and you can never fully […]

Read More

A Fight Beyond The Flesh

Anytime you get closer to the goal line the defense rises to another level. I can feel the enemy’s attack even greater than before. There is no making sense of it except to call it spiritual warfare. I know some of you think this is just preacher talk. But, trust me when Satan sees you […]

Read More

Dear Stuck

Sometimes you just find yourself in a tougher season where nothing feels easy and momentum just can’t be found. It doesn’t mean God is not at work, but you just feel stuck. In these moments you must “Be still and know He is God.” In these moments you need not panic about anything, but you […]

Read More

When You’re Going Through Hell

For those right now going through a battle way beyond your control. I know you are scared, hurting, and wondering when it will all come to an end. I’ve been in that kind of season for over 17 months now. Here are some things I’ve discovered will help you deal with things. #1 Be honest […]

Read More

Let Go And Let God Work

I spend a lot of time daily with my heating pad, bible, and note pad. Sometimes late night and always early morning. I can thank my present trial for a lot of present gifts. Now, I know I’m not the only one in pain. Every time I even head out my house I run into […]

Read More

What About The Caregiver?

What I’m about to write comes from a lot of firsthand observation. Not just outside my home, but inside my house. When someone is sick and struggling the patient normally gets the bulk of the attention. The concern and prayers are often focused on an audience of one. But, what about the caregiver? My own […]

Read More

I’m So Tired Of Fighting

The hardest tests to deal with in life are the ones that last much longer than you would like. In fact, you wonder if they will ever end. These tests change life as you once knew it. You are forced to make drastic adjustments and free fall in the arms of the Almighty. For a […]

Read More

Keep Faith Walking!

It’s been exactly 7 months since my back surgery. I feel like I’m at the halfway point of a very big game. I’m exhausted, I’m sore, and I wish things were easier & faster. But, quit is not an option. So, I’ve got to keep taking the next right step forward. I can’t focus on […]

Read More

Are You Ready For The Big Game?

           This week many will get ready for the big game. Those who might not have watched a second of football all season will suddenly scream for either the Gamecocks or the Tigers. In fact, if you grew up in the state of South Carolina you completely understand this rivalry game […]

Read More

After You Vote….

       Saturday, I voted early for the next president of the United States. I approached this moment with a little anxiety, but after much prayer and processing. When it finally came time to vote I was actually way more nervous than I thought I would be. Suddenly, making such a big decision didn’t […]

Read More

WHERE AM I ?

                    Please allow me to say something before I start writing. This article requires me to take off my mask and may compel you to do the same. As I continue to go through one of the most challenging seasons in my life I’ve found myself often […]

Read More

Lessons From A Hurricane

God taught me this a long time ago. Things are always different when they are in your own backyard. Well South Carolina and beyond certainly got hit hard recently by Hurricane Matthew. Unfortunately, no matter how much you prepare there are always things such storms reveal. One, we were never in charge from the beginning. We […]

Read More

Ageless Truths

No matter what you’re age it’s always important you keep life in right perspective. Here are some timeless truths all grounded in God’s word that can help us all continue to live wisely.  #1 Live In The Now.  Too often we’re caught looking back in our past or waiting for what we think lies ahead. […]

Read More

Don’t Give Up

  Recently I reached the four month mark since major back surgery. I would like to say I’ve been miraculously healed, but I’m still struggling. Over time my recovery process has worn me down physically, emotionally, and mentally. Satan has tempted me often over the past month to just give up and accept things will […]

Read More

WALK WITH ME

Recently, God blessed me with a few days away from my normal outside distractions & demands.  My main goal was simply to allow God to refresh, refocus, and detox my soul.  I went into this time physically tired, emotionally overwhelmed, and quite honestly feeling spiritually stuck. I knew in my heart, God was calling me […]

Read More

What Is Your Secret?

The church I pastor has been growing rapidly over the past two months. In fact, all of June and July we’ve had way more in attendance than most churches will ever see on any Easter Sunday. I had a gentlemen recently ask, “What is your secret to success?” From the look on his face I’m […]

Read More

Praise Him In The Storm

Another late night just hoping for sleep. I can’t believe I still ache this much almost a year after back surgery. I keep hoping that I’m going to wake up and this storm will be over. However, I can’t deny how God continues to use this purposeful season in my life to draw me closer […]

Read More

WHAT NEXT ?

I don’t think I’m far off to assume that the average American is just thinking, What Next? Where will the next riot take place? Who will be the next crazy gunman who makes CNN headlines? When will the next terrorist attack happen? Yes, these same thoughts periodically go through my mind. I don’t dwell on […]

Read More

60 Days And Counting

I have to admit, I never thought I would still be recovering 60 days later after major surgery. I simply blame my perspective on ignorance and I guess thinking I would just be the exception to the rule. But, here I am on a journey like many before me. I still recall day 20 thinking […]

Read More

Creating A House Of Love

A huge goal of mine is that our family always be full of God’s love. I believe it’s the glue that keeps everyone together. I know it’s something that will carry on for generations to come. In our house, loving everybody is not an option. It is not acceptable at any time to think you’re […]

Read More