Find Your Shut-Off Valve
You’ve got to hear what I’m about to say. Ignoring this message will affect your marriage, your family, your sanity, and many other things in between. Many reading this right now need to realize this message is not just for your neighbor, but it’s one we all need to take to heart.
We live in a world that only knows one speed called “Wide Open.” We run here and we run there. Often we say, I just don’t know how I’m going to get everything done. I’ve got so much on my schedule and there just aren’t enough hours in the day. Does this sound too familiar?
I readily admit that for too many years I’ve run around like a chicken with my head cut off. Of course, my excuses were very convincing. I just HAD to go to that next meeting. This person over here needs me right now. And, if I don’t do this or that the world will certainly fall apart. I’m not just choosing to be busy, life is just busy. We all just need to put our big boy britches and accept it.
Well, I’ve finally concluded that I can’t keep up with this world. In fact, I’ve quit trying to see how fast I can run. I’ve discovered that all it guarantees is that you will neglect your family, you will lose your joy, and burnout will come. Honestly, I just got sick and tired of being sick and tired.
It wasn’t until my health slowed me down that I found my shut-off valve. I realized that I was so busy living life that I was missing key moments in my life. I had a vision to help everyone else, but no true plan in place to keep myself or family healthy. One of the first steps I had to take was learning how to say “No”. I realized that saying no often is not only an option, but necessary.
You see, man brings guilt, but God brings conviction. God has clearly convicted me that I need to slow down. There has to be cut-off points in my life. There has to be times that I make my marriage and my family a top priority. I have to constantly make sure that I live with clear boundaries and most importantly healthy boundaries. Otherwise, I will live life too fast like everybody else. And, I will be miserable like everyone else.
I presently do one third of what I used to do. I say no often to the wrong things, so I can say yes to the right things. I seek to remind myself daily how running too fast will cost me way too much. I can’t follow the patterns of this world and expect different results. I have to use my shut-off valve often and not get caught up in the rat race around me.
(Romans 12:2)(NLT) Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
(1 Corinthians 10:23)(NLT) You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is good for you. You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is beneficial.
(Matthew 5:37)(NIV) Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one