I Don’t Feel In Love Anymore

2014 Fall

The longer you’ve been married the more sense this will make. This applies to any married couple beyond the honeymoon stage. We all know marriage is a lot more than candle light dinners and love at first sight. But, most of us don’t realize this truth until we’re married. In fact, the first morning you wake up together may scare you depending on the severity of your bed head. Let me speak frankly to those who think that marriage can only work if you still “feel” in love.

I’ve officiated a lot of weddings. And, I’ve been happily married for over 20 years myself. Every successful marriage I know is rallied around one thing “mutual commitment.” It’s not just about feelings that are subject to change. It’s about two people choosing to love each other for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, as long as they both shall live.

If your perspective of a great marriage is only based on feelings alone you’re in for a very rude awakening. In fact, one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high is people are more led by their gut than the commitment they made before God and family. Most married people look for a way out of their marriage instead of how to work through their differences.

So, please understand that marriage takes commitment, work, and is way more than following your ever changing feelings. Therefore, if you hope to still be married fifty years later then you need to choose to truly be committed to being the best marriage partner you can be for life. The decisions you make each day will determine whether you see a happily ever after.

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Mark 10:7-9

 

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