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WALK WITH ME

Recently, God blessed me with a few days away from my normal outside distractions & demands.  My main goal was simply to allow God to refresh, refocus, and detox my soul.  I went into this time physically tired, emotionally overwhelmed, and quite honestly feeling spiritually stuck. I knew in my heart, God was calling me […]

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What Is Your Secret?

The church I pastor has been growing rapidly over the past two months. In fact, all of June and July we’ve had way more in attendance than most churches will ever see on any Easter Sunday. I had a gentlemen recently ask, “What is your secret to success?” From the look on his face I’m […]

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Praise Him In The Storm

Another late night just hoping for sleep. I can’t believe I still ache this much almost a year after back surgery. I keep hoping that I’m going to wake up and this storm will be over. However, I can’t deny how God continues to use this purposeful season in my life to draw me closer […]

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WHAT NEXT ?

I don’t think I’m far off to assume that the average American is just thinking, What Next? Where will the next riot take place? Who will be the next crazy gunman who makes CNN headlines? When will the next terrorist attack happen? Yes, these same thoughts periodically go through my mind. I don’t dwell on […]

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60 Days And Counting

I have to admit, I never thought I would still be recovering 60 days later after major surgery. I simply blame my perspective on ignorance and I guess thinking I would just be the exception to the rule. But, here I am on a journey like many before me. I still recall day 20 thinking […]

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Creating A House Of Love

A huge goal of mine is that our family always be full of God’s love. I believe it’s the glue that keeps everyone together. I know it’s something that will carry on for generations to come. In our house, loving everybody is not an option. It is not acceptable at any time to think you’re […]

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Lessons In The Storm

I’ve not written an article in quite some time. Why? Because I’ve been consumed for almost 8 weeks with recovering from major back surgery. God has taught me so much during this storm. I would like to share with you just a few of those lessons learned. #1 God doesn’t always calm the storm. However, […]

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Walking In The Rain

  I don’t even know where to begin right now. One month into recovery from major back surgery God is teaching me so much. I can honestly say it’s been the most painful, purposeful journey I’ve ever been. In fact, I believe this “Faith Walk” journey has just begun. How was I to know that […]

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Caught In A Storm

Not sure I can explain the long battle I’ve been in the past many months. Every step has been a struggle. Most nights have been filled with pain and often time restlessness. The battle is real, relentless, and more than disruptive to life as I once knew it. Even after making every adjustment possible, I […]

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This May Be Your Biggest Problem

What I’m about to write comes out of great conviction. All of us have our share of problems. Not every problem can be solved or easily diagnosed. But, I believe I’ve discovered one of my biggest problems. Sadly, it’s one I really hate to admit as a pastor. Here it goes…. I don’t pray enough. […]

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Are You Leaking?

Recently, my physical battle has been great as I battle with a lower back issue doctors say will likely only be fixed by surgery. Friday a week ago, I received my 3rd Lumbar Epidural Steroid Injection in just 4 months. Everything felt like normal until everything didn’t. As I attempted to get up off the […]

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Hold My Hand

I know many remember the song by Hootie And The Blowfish called “Hold My Hand.” Or what about the oldie, but goody that says “Lean on me. When you’re not strong. And, I’ll be your friend. I’ll help you carry on. For, it won’t be long. Till I’m gonna need. Somebody to lean on.” I’m […]

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More Than A Test Drive

Recently I took my oldest son out for lunch. Afterwards, I told him he could drive us home. All it took was him backing the car up and putting it in drive. Next thing I knew my blood pressure was rising very similiar to the last time we tried that experiment. In hopes of not […]

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She Won The P.H.T. Award

Let me begin by saying this is far from my wife’s idea. She has no clue I’m about to tell the world what makes her so awesome. Honestly, she would rather be punched in the face repeatedly than to be swarmed by recognition. That is just one more reason I love her. What in the […]

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Will You Rub My Feet?

  Recently, I was visiting one of my favorite patients. He is literally in his last days. The least I can do is provide him some spiritual comfort. This man always tells me he loves me and never grows tired of me singing his favorite hymns. I mean never grows tired. I usually just have […]

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The Brain Is Broke, The Spirit Is Alive

He was lying in bed seemingly asleep. I entered the room and our eyes met for the first time. Some would think he was totally confused. Many would not even attempt to have a conversation with someone doctors say has lost their mind. But, experience has taught me that as long as the soul is […]

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Are You Color Blind?

 I’m about to ask you a question I believe matters deeply to the heart of God. It’s a question everyone needs to be asked. Or we can just ignore an issue that is very near and dear to the heart of God. That question my friend is “Are you color blind?” Growing up in the […]

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If I Only Had One Year Left

What if 2016 was the last year you had on planet earth? Suppose your doctor after studying test results looks at you and says, “I’m sorry, but based on what we’ve discovered you have only a year or less to live.” No doubt this revelation would change the way you approach this life. Trust me, […]

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Pain Speaks Loudly

Pain comes in many forms. Physically, emotionally, or mentally we can all be knocked down quickly. Maybe you’re processing the sudden loss of someone you never imagined living without. Maybe you’ve experienced some tragedy that has changed every bit of life as you once knew it. It really doesn’t matter where the pain stems from […]

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Find Your Shut-Off Valve

You’ve got to hear what I’m about to say. Ignoring this message will affect your marriage, your family, your sanity, and many other things in between. Many reading this right now need to realize this message is not just for your neighbor, but it’s one we all need to take to heart.      We live […]

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My Family Almost Drowned

     We had just gotten the news that a nearby dam broke. We knew the flood waters were headed our way. There was simply no way to escape this natural disaster. My heart was pounding as I frantically sought to prepare my wife and four boys for the unknown ahead.     Through a house […]

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When You’re Going Through Hell

I’ve been in one of the toughest, most intense battles of my life. I feel like flaming arrows are coming from every direction. Physically I’ve never felt worse. Emotionally, I’m one step away from the crazy house. Yet, spiritually I actually feel stronger than ever before. Put all that together and I’m a pretty hot […]

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Lessons From The “Band Of Blue”

  The band of blue is about to kickoff a new season. It’s my son Joel’s second year playing in the Colleton County High School Band of Blue. Tom Finigan and his staff do an amazing job of assembling together one of the best high school bands in the state. Anyone looking closely can see […]

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A Big Lesson From The Head Ball Coach

The college football world has been dominated with the recent and sudden resignation of University of South Carolina Head Football Coach Steve Spurrier. For years, he has been a proven winner on the field. He certainly carried an average USC football program to greater heights than ever on the field. Yet, I feel one of […]

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God’s Not Done With Me Yet

As I write this, tears are rolling down my face. I’m exhausted from getting up at 4am to see a dear friend prior to his triple bypass surgery. I’m even more relieved that God is not done with my friend just yet. At just 38 years of age, none of us saw this day coming. […]

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My 5 Year Old Missionary

     Recently, a dear friend and former next door neighbor become one of my hospice patients. We had not seen each other in a few years. The patient had not seen any of my growing boys in at least four years. I was grateful for the opportunity to see my friend even if it was […]

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They Say Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice…

 Every generation has lessons and legends they pass on to the next. Like who ever discovered a rabbit’s foot brings good luck? Who ever decided it’s just not good luck to have a black cat cross your path? I hope it wasn’t the same people that said lightning doesn’t strike twice. Which is to say […]

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THANK YOU JESUS

Recently, I stopped to fill my car up with gas. I couldn’t believe the sign read $1.88. Inside my heart, I was doing the chicken dance. For whatever reason, this prompted me to consider many other blessings. In the gas station parking lot, I thanked God for giving me two jobs I love. I thanked […]

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My Love Story

Aimee and I just celebrated 18 years of marriage together. In celebration of that I would like to share our love story. Hope it encourages someone who is praying for that special someone. We met in high school a few years after her family moved to Dorchester, South Carolina. We had just one class together and […]

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Back To School Prayer

It’s that time of year again. When back packs, pencils, and notebooks are flying off the shelves. Kids and parents have to get used to being on school schedule after a possible lazy summer. This year we’ve got children headed to 11th grade, 9th grade, 6th grade, and Kindergarten. It will certainly take a tag […]

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“It’s Such A Cute Church”

Recently, I over heard two adults talking about how sad it was that so few attended their church. The lady said with all sincerity, “And, it’s such a cute little church.” I’m sorry but I just couldn’t keep my mouth shut about a matter that is so dear to my heart. They both looked so […]

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Carolina or Clemson, WHO CARES?

Recently, Clemson Tigers Head Football Coach Dabo Swinney lost his dad after a long battle with an ugly disease called cancer. I really was not aware of this family’s loss until I read the following facebook post from another die hard Gamecock fan. She said, “..”Some may consider this treason, but that’s their problem. Tonight, […]

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Come Near And I Will Shoot Myself

I’ll never forget a man who just found out his wife of several years was leaving him for another man. He was devastated to say the least. His emotions really got the best of him. He made threats he didn’t mean and did things he would never do in his right mind. Things got so […]

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I QUIT TRYING

Ever just not know what to say? Ever reach your limit of heartache? Ever realize that you just can’t handle anything else? I personally have reached the end of myself. In fact, the only thing I’m certain of right now is there is a God and I’m not him. I’m surrounded by things I can’t […]

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Be All That YOU Can Be

I’ll never forget the words of a fellow pastor early in my ministry. He said, “Craig, you don’t have to be Billy Graham. Just be the best you that God created you to be.” It took a few years to really understand that statement, but no truer words have never been spoken. Too often we […]

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Flag Up, Flag Down: WHO CARES?

I typically stay away from hot topics, politics and cultural wars. But, I actually believe the lowering of a Confederate Flag has opened a huge window. A window to speak truth into the hearts of all who will listen. Here are some things I feel led to share to anyone who might listen. 1. IT’S […]

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5 Ingredients For A Great Family Vacation

Just got back from a week long vacation with the family. This year we rented a lake house with a great view of Lake Murray. Vacation has always been a really big priority for my family and my sanity. We’ve been on a lot of trips over the years, but this year’s getaway was the […]

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More Than A Catfish

This past Father’s Day was one of the best I can remember. After worship that Sunday, I took my two oldest boys fishing. God has blessed me with a house full of boys ages 15, 13, 11, and 5 years old. Of course, there are few dull moments at our house, but I wouldn’t trade […]

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DEAR STRANGER, I’M SO SORRY

I was raised in the south where no one can argue that putting racism behind us has been quite a journey. Also, looking back in history no one can argue that progress has been made in this area. Maybe I’m just strange, but the recent shooting at the Emmanuel AME Church in Charleston, SC has […]

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4 Reasons To Quit Your Job

I believe our life decisions should always be under review. We need to often evaluate our priorities, movtives, and even progress. Otherwise, we’re likely headed down a dead end road if we simply go with the flow of society. Here are four reasons you might need to quit your job. #1 IT’S KILLING YOU. Health […]

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What Cancer Couldn’t Take (A Tribute To Julie Smoak)

Several months ago, I had a private conversation with Julie Smoak on one of her many stays at Trident Hospital. Julie was of very clear mind and heart at that time. She said, “Craig, if I had time, I would write a book about what God has shown me through this time.” I promised her […]

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Getting Up With The Sun

As I write this, I’m literally sitting at a Myrtle Beach pier just an hour prior to daylight. All I hear are waves crashing. All I feel is a cool morning breeze that reminds me God is always is still awake. It’s been quite awhile since I’ve actually watched the sunrise. I’m certainly not a […]

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COLLETON COUNTY: A Great Place To Love

Unlike some of you, I’ve not lived here all my life. I did however grow up in a small town called St. George, where everyone literally does know your name. Before God moved my family to Walterboro, I really wasn’t sure what it would be like to live in Colleton County. Yet, as each day […]

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Dear Child: Have Your Forgotten?

What a journey it has been since “I knit you together in your mother’s womb.” I’ve watched you grow each day. Sure there were times you wondered how things would work out. Yet, how could you ever deny or forget my faithfulness. Never once have you had to worry about where you would live, what […]

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Sky Diving Should Not Top Your Bucket List

Many know the lyrics by heart of Tim McGraw’s famous song “Live Like You’re Dying.” You know where he says “I went sky diving, rocky mountain climbing, I went 2.7 seconds on a bull named Fumanchu. I’m sorry, but if I just found out that I had only months left to live none of those […]

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God Used The Rice Festival

Over two years ago, my wife and I setup a booth at the Rice Festival to let our community know about the start of Refuge Church. It was to be a place where we will always meet people on their front porch with God’s love. Long before we would ever hold a Sunday morning worship […]

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Colleton County Got Talent

I feel many folks may feel like Colleton County is just a struggling bunch of folks. Full of rednecks, thugs, and poor educational systems. If that’s how you feel, nothing could be further from the truth. Yes, there are many who struggle paycheck to paycheck and live life recklessly. But, those kind of folks live […]

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Does Anybody Care About Me?

I tossed and turned in my bed prior to writing this article. No matter what I seemed to do I just couldn’t get comfortable or fall asleep. While struggling in a way I’m not accustomed to I could not help but think of the many whose tossing and turning have become a way of life. […]

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The Preacher’s Life

It’s been considered one of the top five hardest jobs in America. Every month at least 1700 ministers leave the ministry for reasons other than retirement. 50% of ministers won’t make it more than 5 years before calling it quits. One of those reasons is the unrealistic demands many have embraced. Allow me to shed […]

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Dear Self: 3 THINGS YOU MUST DO

I wrote the following inspired words down for myself. Maybe someone else can relate and needs the reminders. May God use these words in your life as He continues to do so in mine. DEAR SELF, 1. SLOW DOWN. Life is not a race. The one who runs the fastest does not get extra points […]

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Dear Colleton Medical Center

I’ve spent most of my life in ministry. I understand what it takes out of you to come alongside people in need. You give at times when you feel you have nothing left to give. You care at times when you really need someone to care about you. I know how rewarding it is to […]

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Dear Worthless

    Someone reading this feels worthless, unworthy, and like you are the root of everyone’s problems. You wonder why you were even born and how you alone could have made such a mess. You just wish you could numb the pain and fix all the issues. At this point, you wonder why am I even […]

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Why I Fight For Hospice

Recently, someone told me that I really needed to separate my real ministry from hospice care. I quickly told that person, “that’s impossible because hospice is ministry at it’s highest level.” If you want to start a fight you’ll never win, just tell me that hospice is just a business. I will fly out my […]

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My Next 40 Years

Forty, its just a number. But, in my heart its a turning point. A time to reflect on the past. And even more a time for me to seize the present and future. In just a flash, I’ve reached what is considered by many to be the halfway point of life. I was born on […]

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Cold Outside, Warm In My Heart

Before I write one word I’m praying this is much more than a cute story, but something that touches the deepest part of you. What I’m about to share has shaken, moved and broken the deepest part of me. Hopefully, I can share this with justice. Recently, at Refuge Church we collected and purchased some […]

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Think I’ll Get Drunk

“Honey I’m home and I had a hard day. Pour me a cold one and oh by the way.” I believe Shania Twain might have been on to something in her hit song. For certain, I believe most of the world can relate. Life is hard, some days are longer than others, and we’re all […]

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No Such Thing As An Offseason

   This past year was one of the most challenging times of my life. After injuring my lower back I missed over 5 ½ months of work. Somehow, God kept giving me strength to get up each day and provided for my every need. As some know, I ultimately loss my job with hospice. For […]

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A Leap Of Faith

    I’ll never forget the summer of 1999. Why? Because it was my first BIG leap of faith. Just two years after graduating from Charleston Southern University, I was back living in my hometown of St. George, SC. I was serving full time as a youth/children’s pastor at a local church.     My wife and […]

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COMPLICATED PEOPLE

Originally posted on Craig Crosby:
They are family, friends, co-workers, classmates, neighbors, acquaintances and even church members. You stumble into them and know that a war awaits. They raise your blood pressure and always seem ready to fight. They are “Complicated People.” Usually we do our best to avoid them. If we see them coming…

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Don’t Trust Your Feelings

I find there are always seasons that I’m just lucky to survive. You know, get up and show up. My heart feels torn in a million directions. Even the strongest and most spiritual person faces these reality checks. Here are some things I’ve found are critical to helping keep me grounded and not misled by […]

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WARNING: Don’t Visit Refuge Church

Originally posted on Craig Crosby:
This past Sunday, Refuge Church celebrated its 1st year anniversary. Since kicking off morning worship @ the Colleton Recreation Center, Refuge has seen hundreds come through those doors. This church is designed for the multitude of unchurched living both in and around Colleton County. Now, before you or someone you…

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I LOST MORE THAN A JOB

     In the past four years alone I’ve been a hospice chaplain to hundreds. Being by the bedside of those making an eternal transition from this life to the next has never been a job to me, but always a calling. For this reason alone, I was heart broken when I discovered I would […]

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Most Read Blogs 2014

My 2014 annual report..

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3 Things I Pray My Kids Never Say

     Outside of your personal relationship with God there is nothing more important than your relationship with your family. Speaking of family, here are three things I pray my kids never say, especially after they leave my home. #1 Daddy Never Had Time For Me. I know firsthand how easy it is to get […]

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A Life Defining Question Heading Into 2015

          Was the night before Christmas and all through my house. Not a creature was stirring except for this preacher’s wife’s spouse. He was working late into the night as he often does. Preparing messages and making plans for future ministry. When all of sudden he noticed his wife asleep on […]

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Make The Most Of This Christmas

Merry Christmas I don’t mind admitting that I’m still much like a child when it comes to Christmas. You can feel the magic and anticipation in the air. However, to make the most of any Christmas we all need the right focus and perspective. Here are five things I believe will help us make the […]

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When God Does More Than You Think

Originally posted on Craig Crosby:
God’s Angels      Last year this time a local young mother was struggling with her health and to keep her lights on. She certainly didn’t have any extra funds to buy Christmas presents for her three small children. After being made aware of the need, some folks with big hearts…

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When God Does More Than You Think

     Last year this time a local young mother was struggling with her health and to keep her lights on. She certainly didn’t have any extra funds to buy Christmas presents for her three small children. After being made aware of the need, some folks with big hearts at Refuge Church made sure those little […]

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LISTEN TO YOUR SPOUSE

Or don’t and wish you did. I can’t speak for every man, but I still have a lot to learn even after all these years of marriage. My wife speaks one word to my every one thousand. But, when she speaks there is usually much to be heard. Words that don’t need to be ignored, […]

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Confessions Of A Pastor

Not quite sure why I’m sharing all this with you. I do know confession brings healing. And, if God can use this to encourage even one struggling preacher or brother in Christ, it was worth every confession. I can’t speak for every pastor, but I’m pretty sure these things apply to most. We spend a lot […]

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Dear Grandma & Granddaddy

I think I’ve discovered something that can go a long way in helping you process the loss of a loved one. At least I can say it helped me a whole lot to write this letter.  Dear Grandma & Granddaddy, Hard to believe it’s been a few years since your eternal transition. Granddad, you always […]

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God Used The Worst Meal Ever

Recently, I was out of town on a spiritual getaway. I had not eaten much of anything all day, so I was very eager to find some good eating. I stopped at the first steak and seafood restaurant I saw and was shown to my seat. The waitress highly recommended the evening special which was […]

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DIVORCE PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE

Originally posted on Craig Crosby:
One of my highest goals in this life is to stay happily married to the same woman for a lifetime. I honestly believe many couples want to grow old together, but based on statistics the majority won’t make it to the finish line. Every day thousands of marriages that started…

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Put Down Your Guitar

           By now millions have heard the news about a recent Garth Brooks Concert. While in the midst of playing music, Garth noticed a lady that was battling cancer in the audience. She was holding up a sign that read “Chemo this morning, Garth tonight, Enjoying the dance.”      It really […]

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Life Lessons From Peyton Manning

Sunday night, millions watched quarterback Peyton Manning break Brett Favre’s record for most touchdown passes all time in NFL history. I know some of you reading this could care less about football, but let me share some things we can all learn from a man named Peyton Manning. 1.  HEALTH MATTERS.  Peyton Manning would have […]

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5 Things The Church Must Hear

I still believe God has great plans for His church. We just have to make sure that as humans we don’t mess up those plans. I often remind myself and others. The greatest thing we can do as believers is to stay out of God’s way and let Him have his way both in us […]

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What Every Sport Fan Needs To Hear

Anyone who really knows me has seen my passion for college football. I can rattle off statistics that most don’t care about. I can’t wait for Saturdays. I love to watch every minute of the game. Like most real sports fans during that time I’m in the zone. For those hours anything that can wait, […]

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I Just Want To Be Happy

I hear so many people tell me this from time to time. “I just want to be happy.” Unfortunately, it usually accompanies them wanting to use this statement to justify their actions. The problem is that nowhere in scripture does God’s word tell us to seek happiness. In fact, one could strongly argue that true […]

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When You Just Don’t Know ?

I have missed over 3 ½ months of work since early March. After trying to catch a lady who passed out grieving her brother, I’ve really never been the same. Doctors say I have a muscle tear and a bulge in my lower back. I’ve been through weeks of physical therapy and have already gotten […]

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When Pictures Move You

I’m not one of those guys that just sits around looking at old pictures. But, every time I do my mind drifts and my heart is moved. Recently, my two oldest sons turned ages 15 and 13. Not only did I realize we now officially have two teenagers, but the pictures my wife showed me […]

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17 Lessons Learned Since We Said, “I Do”

17 years ago, we exchanged sacred vows with each other. It’s never been perfect, but it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. We dated 4 1/2 years before we walked the aisle and said, “I Do.” Of course, dating and being married are two totally different things. Here are some things I’ve learned […]

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BACK TO SCHOOL

No one is more aware that school is resuming than our family. This year our boys will be in grades 10th, 8th, 5th and our youngest will take part in a half-day 4K program. As we dive into another school year, God is opening my eyes to many things. 1. TIME FLIES. I feel like […]

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DEER HUNTERS & FOOTBALL FANS

     Someone reading this will thank me later. Sadly, we are coming up on that time of the year where passions run high, but many things that matter are neglected. Yes, I’m talking about deer hunting and football season. These two hobbies have proven deadly in many relationships overtime. Please allow me to explain […]

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I’ve Got To Run Away

This week has been long awaited by my entire family. I’m one of those guys who often has just a little too much going on. I can’t even remember what it’s like to not have someone calling my name. I’m a local pastor, hospice chaplain, writer, husband, father and person who never feels there is […]

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My Son Almost Drowned

Recently, I was swimming with my two youngest boys at a local pool. Earlier, I told my 10 year old that under no circumstance was his 4 year old brother to take off his life jacket. Side tracked by conversation with someone outside the pool, I turned around to see my 4 year old gasping […]

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Where Hope Rises

Everywhere you turn, someone is going through something. You don’t have to flip on the TV or your computer. Just walk across the street and talk to your neighbor. I can see that huge smile on Satan’s face as he’s convinced many that the best is behind them. Many Christians spend too much time talking […]

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Learning To Slow Down

Maybe it’s my age, maybe it’s my body speaking, or maybe I’m just learning that moving at the speed of light is rarely a good thing. I know what it feels like to run every time someone calls your name. To go through life like you’ve got something to prove and always have somewhere you […]

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10 Ways To Find Out If You’re Normal

I run into many people, who feel they are the only ones who feel certain ways. They feel abnormal because they wonder if they are the only ones struggling with certain things. Here are 10 things that might indicate whether you’re normal or not. #1 You feel like you’re on a non-stop Roller Coaster. Your […]

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Pre-Plan Your Funeral

     A few years ago, I attempted to pre-plan my own funeral service. I considered who I would have speak, the music that would be played and where I might be buried. I know firsthand those things have importance. However, I concluded I was totally missing one very important truth.        If you’ve ever seen […]

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If I Was 18 Again

  Oh, to be 18 years of age again. Many graduate and think they have arrived. As I watch young people everywhere make careless decisions, I just had to shed some light on this matter. Maybe a young man or woman will benefit from reading this insight. Here are five things I wish I would have realized […]

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Don’t Miss This Party

     Many throughout the world are looking for a party. That place where they can feel like somebody, celebrate with their friends and later say I was there. There is a party coming up that you don’t want to miss. It’s an annual party that many still don’t understand its’ significance, otherwise they would not […]

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Tim McGraw Is Now A Preacher?

       “I drank a lot from my point of view and I needed to stop,” McGraw said. “I felt quitting was something I needed to do. I didn’t feel I had any moral high ground with my kids in the long run.” I believe he has been sober since 2008. You know he is married […]

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My First Shot Of Vodka

          Recently, I went to a local restaurant hoping to watch a ball game that wasn’t provided by my cable provider. I found myself a seat at the bar closest to the televisions on the wall. While doing something I rarely have time to do, I discovered God had greater plans. Part of this plan […]

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I Almost Killed Myself

     What I’m about to share with you could literally change your life. At the very least, it could keep you from hitting a brick wall that is straight ahead for any leader who chooses to ignore this truth. As I sat down with pen and paper and starting writing down all the things I […]

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When Life Knocks You Down

     I still recall the words of a man years ago who had just loss all his family’s belongings in a house fire. He said, “Pastor, I sure would rather be on the other side of things. That is reaching down to help you up.” Over time, I’ve come to understand exactly what this wiser […]

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Don’t Read This, Love Satan

Over the past few weeks, I’ve never faced greater amounts of adversity in my life. Some will say its coincidence, but could it be related to my seeking to give God more than ever. While I’ve seen God do miracle after miracle around me and through me, I’ve been attacked every step of the way. […]

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How I Finally Found Rest?

     As I write this, I’m fighting the Benadryl within me. Not only has it made me sleepy, but I’ve not been getting proper rest for some time. I’ve decided that things must change. There is nothing more spiritual I can do at this time than just rest. I don’t need counseling, I’m not stressed […]

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Caught In A Storm

    As I write this, I’m sitting in a house that is only lit by candle light. Like many of you, the recent ice storm has left our family without electricity. We all prepare the best we can, hope for the best, and yet feel in control of so little. Sudden storms often push us […]

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A Bus Hit Our Family

     Recently, we had a Monday our entire family won’t soon forget. After hearing my wife shout, I lept out of my bed still half asleep. She says, “Help, Boo just got hit by a bus.” I ran as fast as I possibly could to rescue our cocker spaniel who was no match for a […]

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Before You Start Your Journey

     Too many Believers want easy street. They just want to show up, wave a magic wand, and watch God work. I’ve often said that faith is doing all you can while trusting God to do what only He can. Amazing things happen when your faithfulness combines with God’s amazingness. Our job is to plant and […]

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We’re Having Another Baby

I know we’ve already got four healthy boys, only four bedrooms in the house and not a lot of free time to spare. There is no doubt in my mind that God has led us to this point in time. Yes, it has been quite challenging with four boys 14, 12, 10, & almost 4. […]

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The Freaks Come Out At Night

     There is no doubt in my mind that most can relate. You go to lay your head down to sleep and then your mind goes wild. You do your best to count sheep, but all you can do is ponder stress. Flooding through your head is what you didn’t do, what others might think, […]

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Cry Your Eyes Out

     I’ve always been a pretty sensitive guy. My heart goes out to anyone going through a tough time. I hate to see another person hurting and I’m always looking for a way to lend a helping hand. While my compassion for others has only grown over time, I’ve found that I don’t cry very often. […]

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What Are You Worried About?

For some reason, worry always seems to catch us off guard. Just when it seems like things are going well and life feels in control. Suddenly, you run into another moment that leaves you feeling uncertain and wondering how you can make it through what lies ahead. You would think with enough life experience we […]

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Living In A Make Believe World

Once upon a time there was a different world. A world where kids actually played with one another, television didn’t exist, and just listening to the radio was a big deal. Then came 500 satellite channels, cell phones, the internet, and what everyone must now have “the smart phone.” Slowly but surely the world changed […]

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We’re Moving Again

I know most think I’m crazy and wonder why I can’t stay put. After all this will be our 14th full move in sixteen years of marriage. Who could really blame my wife if she up and left me tomorrow? Yes, at the end of this month we will be moving again. I totally dread […]

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Read Before “Black Friday”

I’m afraid we’re only a few weeks away. That dreaded day when blood is shed and no one is safe with a shopping cart. It’s the busiest shopping day of the year, the day after Thanksgiving. I’m hoping to get this message to you before the madness begins and it’s too late. Forget about black […]

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Can’t Take Much More?

You wonder just how much more you can take. Your strength is gone, troubles surround you, and you wish you could catch your breath. Every direction you look there is something you can’t control. One more thing and you will certainly collapse under the stress. What should you do at this point? I can’t exactly […]

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Just say “Thank You”

Recently, I received a note from someone I had the joy of helping this past year. As I read their thoughtful words it reminded me that a simple “Thank You” still has power. Just as much as kids these days need to be taught to respect their elders, all of us need to know the […]

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Carolina or Clemson: Who’s Better?

This time of year, you are bound to run into someone who is passionately cheering on their favorite college team. Here in the state of South Carolina its either “Go Gamecocks” or “Go Tigers”. If you’re standing beside a passionate fan you can bet they will quickly let you know where their allegiance stands. I’m […]

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What The Average American Needs To Hear

I consider myself a very blessed man. I have a wonderful family, great friends, a job that I love, a roof over my head, food on the table, and peace in my heart. So, what keeps me up at night? Simply put the Average American. You see the average American I know is struggling to […]

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Are You Hired or Called?

Regardless of the job at hand, there is a drastic difference between those who are hired to do something versus those who feel called by God to do that same thing. I’ve often said, “Many are hired, but few are called.”Not everything is for everyone. Here are some things that separate the hired from the […]

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A Key Family Moment

This summer we decided to split our week of family vacation into two long weekend getaways. Our last step away from normal life was to Myrtle Beach. As expected with four boys there was never a dull moment. Now, I could bore you with what we did, but I would like to share with you […]

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Out Of Order

I am deeply sorry for the following. I apologize to my wife and I will be begging my kids for forgiveness. No, they didn’t tell me I have a problem, but a person knows when they are living life backwards. I’m afraid there are many more like me all around. As I write this, I […]

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What No One Wants

Recently, I started back working out at the gym. I’m not as young as I once was, but I still enjoy playing sports. The other day I went out to play a game of pickup basketball. It was pretty obvious to me that the young guys had no plans of putting this old man on […]

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What Defines Success?

I don’t believe there is a person on the planet who wants to be considered a failure. Unfortunately, there are many who feel they have failed and even more that have a wrong perspective of success. Please allow me to explain myself. For many, success is having more than everyone else around them. A better […]

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When You Can’t Take Anymore

If I had a penny for every time I’ve heard these words, “I just don’t know how much more I can take.” Of course, this is often an indication that someone is about to either blow up or experience a nervous breakdown. Someone reading this right now is feeling like they’re going to crumble if […]

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5 Keys To A Healthy Family

Maybe it’s because I see so many unhealthy families I’m writing this. Maybe it’s because I’m trying myself to discover the answer to this question. As I write this I understand that every family is different and there is no one size fits all. However, I do believe there are key ingredients that are critical […]

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Can’t You Do Something?

Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’m just too worked up about other people’s business. But, it still keeps me up at night, on my knees daily, and sometimes in tears when I consider how most people live on this earth. Maybe I should just live carefree like many, mind my own business, and let those […]

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Keys To “REAL RELATIONSHIPS”

My friends, some things you have to see to believe. Others things you have to hear to understand. Most people have surface relationships, not real relationships. Recently, I was reminded how real fellowship with one another takes place. It has nothing to do with where you’ve come from, where you are, or who you are […]

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3 Things God Hates

I actually encountered each of these things today in one form or another. These aren’t the only three things that we should be concerned about, but they should definitely top each of our list.  #1: God hates RACISM.  I don’t care what you’ve been through or how you feel about other races. God hates racism […]

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When Life Throws A Curve Ball

     Recently, my oldest son Matthew spent eight days at MUSC Children’s Hospital. The surgery had been expected for months to repair his sunken chest, but what would happen next was not expected. Sure, I knew in my mind his recovery would be painful and the results would be worth it. What I didn’t expect […]

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Why God Likes Facebook

Back in 2004, Facebook had only 1 million active members. That number has grown to well over 1 Billion active users here in 2013. Many children, teenagers, adults, moms, dads, and even grandparents are daily posting pictures and comments for the world to see. Many on the outside looking in can’t make sense of all […]

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Tribute To Big J.O.E.Y.

I’ve been a part of a few hundred funerals, but none more inspiring than recent. Cars lined the street and the parking lot was full as many gathered to celebrate a man who touched so many lives. Death never comes at a welcome time when you lose someone you love, but there is no doubt […]

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Never Give Up On Anyone

THIS IS AN AMAZING STORY OF A MAN CHANGED THROUGH THE FAITHFULNESS OF A FRIEND AND CIRCUMSTANCES. I found this man’s story on the internet and believe its worth sharing! Some of you may already know my story or parts of it. Others have no idea. It’s amazing what it takes for God to finally get our attention. […]

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When “Quit” Is Not An Option

You feel like everything is coming down on you at once. It’s hard to breath, to see beyond what’s in front of you and everything within you just wants to yell, “I QUIT.” Been there, done that, got several T-shirts. I bet anyone who has ever taken on the noble task of commitment or leadership […]

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Lessons From Little League

I’ve been involved in Little League since I was a young man. I can still recall the butterflies, excitement, and the crowds that came to watch us under the bright lights.. Years later, I’m now a coach watching my own boys take their turn on the baseball diamond. Today, Little League is not near as much of […]

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MAKING THE MOST OF YOUR TIME

“…How short is life, and how full of trouble! 2 Like a flower, we blossom for a moment and then wither. Like the shadow of a passing cloud, we quickly disappear. 5 You have decided the length of our lives. You know how many months we will live, and we are not given a minute […]

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I THOUGHT I HAD CANCER

My heart is still pounding as I process the news I earlier received. I had gone to the doctor for what I thought was just a routine visit, only to hear those dreaded words, “You’ve Got Cancer.” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing and was desperately hoping it was just a dream. I quickly […]

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5 REASONS TO QUIT YOUR JOB

Without knowing your exact situation, I would never say, QUIT YOUR JOB. I understand we all have to work and make a living to pay the bills. However, here are five reasons you might need to look for new employment. #1: YOUR HEART AIN’T IN IT At any organization, some people are hired and others […]

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DON’T FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS

I know way too many people who have chased the “American Dream” only to discover a real American nightmare. Sure, every one of us would like to be somebody and make something out of our lives. But, the way most go about it will not lead to a happy ending. Here are some thoughts that […]

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WHEN LIFE IS KILLING YOU

There are times you feel stuck, overwhelmed, and without a moment to breathe. You wish you could take a vacation, but you just can’t get away. You wish you could stop the madness, but things just keep getting crazy. You wish a hot bath and a good night sleep would make things all better. But, you wake up […]

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10 Reasons To Smile

In this world full of doom and gloom it’s so easy to get caught up in what is going wrong. We can quickly decide to throw a pity party and of course we love to invite others to join us. I wholeheartedly believe the only way to get rid of the negativity is to counter […]

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HOW I MET MY WIFE

It’s really hard to believe this story took place nearly 20 years ago. I still recall going back to the high school where I had just graduated. I thought I was just going to watch a football game, but actually I was there to meet my future wife. Aimee and I had known each other […]

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IF I DIED TONIGHT….

I know none of us want to think about the what if. But, the what if could happen at anytime. Maybe its because I see the what if take so many by surprise that I feel so compelled to prepare myself for what lies ahead. Here is my top 5 prayers if I should not […]

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5 KEYS TO MAKING A BIG DECISION

If you live long enough you will be faced with a BIG decision. Big decisions are those decisions that will affect our life and the lives of many around us. Before you make that BIG commitment, before you make that BIG purchase, before you take that BIG job, before you make any BIG decision please […]

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10 WAYS AMEDISYS HOSPICE CAN HELP YOU

      As I write this article, I am well aware that there are several misunderstandings when it comes to hospice care. Many people see hospice as a death sentence. Many see hospice as a place that just knocks you out with pain medicine. Many see hospice as a group of people who just take away […]

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SATAN IS OUT TO GET YOU

The bible is clear that we all have an enemy and it’s not your mother in law, your spouse, your neighbor, your boss or anyone else that comes to mind. Our enemy’s name is Satan and is he out to rock your world and totally wreck your life. Yes, God has plans for your life, […]

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I HAD A DREAM

I’ve never been one to put much stock in dreams. Yes, I believe in having goals and ambition, but dreams have always been sketchy to me. Maybe that’s because I’ve had so many meaningless dreams after eating some late night burgers. I had a dream a some years ago that has made me believe that […]

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Dear Santa

Here is my 9 year old son’s letter for Santa fresh off the press! “Dear Santa, I love you so much. You are my biggest hero! I think you should give all my presents to kids who need them more. I’m trying to be just like you and share just like you and share the […]

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We’ve Created A Monster

As most of you know, I have four boys ages 16, 14, 12, and almost 6 years of age. Of course they look forward to seeing what Santa and others will bring them this Christmas. The older I get the more I feel things have really got out of hand. It seems that people everywhere […]

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Are You Dreading Your Family Gathering?

It’s been said for years, “You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.” Most of us will gather with family and friends this Christmas season. Some of us will do so out of a sense of obligation and others will look forward to gathering near. Someone reading this now is dreading their […]

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How Do You Respond?

Each of us process things differently in response to what’s raging within us and around us. Some pull away and others draw closer. Some are silent and others feel they have to get things off their chest. Some are paralyzed, while others are compelled to action. Some deal with things head on and others just want to […]

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WHAT NEXT?

If you’re like most of us you find yourself just wanting to know why and how such a tragedy could have occured. This is an elementary school for crying out loud and most of the victims were 5 & 6 year old. A nation is in shock and countless family members grieve deeply as we all stand in […]

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THINGS YOU LEARN WHEN YOU’RE SICK….

Not sure why I’m writing this blog. I guess just too much time on my hands as I’ve been cooped up in this house all day sick as a dog. Maybe it’s meant to do something for someone. Hope we all feel better soon. You are not HEALTHY When you aren’t healthy you can’t expect […]

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I THINK WE’RE ALL BI-POLAR

Do you feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster? Feeling on top of the world one moment and then right back at the bottom the next. Life throws a lot our way and it can feel very overwhelming at times. We can feel like we’re drowning, like there is no way out, and that […]

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Do You Feel All Alone?

There are times when we all, feel alone in this life. Through heartache, pain, and all sorts of strife. We feel so abandoned, and out of control. We can barely see light, at the bottom of the hole We pray without ceasing, but worry much more. We don’t have the strength, to pick ourselves off […]

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5 THINGS WE MUST REMEMBER

Each of us are in the midst of a battle. A battle of the mind,  body, and soul. Even believers in Jesus Christ face this battle and maybe in even greater ways. The good news is we don’t face this battle alone. Let’s look at some things we must always remember in order to stay […]

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SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE

It’s that time of year again my friends. Along with the excitment of Thanksgiving and Christmas comes the exhaustion of the rat race most of us have associated with it all. Somehow in the midst of what should be some of the best times of our lives we find ourselves tired and just hoping to […]

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WHY HALLOWEEN SHOULD BE CELEBRATED

I grew up in church all my life. I recall that there were always some who sought to protest the celebration of Halloween. I do understand that some feel this holiday was birthed by darkness, but I think very few of us who celebrate Halloween today ever see it as a time of darkness. I’ve celebrated Halloween […]

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