Pastor Craig Crosby

My Next 40 Years

Posted on March 2, 2015     Leave a Comment

Forty, its just a number. But, in my heart its a turning point. A time to reflect on the past. And even more a time for me to seize the present and future.

In just a flash, I’ve reached what is considered by many to be the halfway point of life. I was born on March 4th, 1975 in an Oklahoma City hospital. Some might say the best days are behind me. But, I say the best days are still to come. In fact, I’m claiming and believing God to do in my life what He did for a man named Job.

(Job 42:12a)The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part.

Like many my age and older, I know enough to be dangerous. But, if I waste my knowledge and experiences it will all be meaningless. As a dear friend used to say often,”it took all I’ve been through to get me where I am today.”

Over the past forty years, I’ve had some high and low moments. I’ve felt on top of the world only for life to humble me very quickly. By God’s grace I’ve tasted many successes, but I’ve also experienced the pains of defeat. Through it all, God has sustained me and carried me to this point in time.

As each day passes, I’m reminded just how short life is here on earth. One day we’re born and before we blink our days are over. For this reason, I plan to make the most of what time I might have left. Here are my top three goals moving forward:

1. I Plan To WALK WITH GOD. I’m not just talking about going to church, saying some prayers, and spitting out bible verses all day long. I’m talking about taking time each day to seek God’s face and listen to His voice. I want to know God’s love, see God’s power, and follow God’s will. With whatever time I have left I don’t want to waste another minute doing things my way, but God’s way.

2. I Plan To BE A GAME CHANGER. I don’t want to be just another person simply existing. I want God to use my life in such a radical way that everyone I encounter is encouraged and inspired to change. When I’m dead and gone, I want my funeral full of folks that were touched by God through my life. When I get to Heaven I hope to find countless folks that I had the joy of introducing to Jesus. I don’t want to just be different, but be a difference maker.

3. I WANT TO FINISH WELL.  I truly believe it’s not how you started, but how you finish that matters most. I know many trials still await. I know that I will grow weary, be discouraged, and life will continue to throw curve balls my way. But, no matter what come my way, I pray I stay the course God has mapped out for me. Until, I breath my last I will aim to remain faithful to the God who created me and called me to Himself.

(James 4:13-17)(NLT)Look here, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.” How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone. What you ought to say is, “If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that.” Otherwise you are boasting about your own plans, and all such boasting is evil. Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.

*Join Pastor Craig any Sunday 10:30am @ RefugeChurch. Come as you are, but don’t expect to the leave the same!

Cold Outside, Warm In My Heart

Posted on February 23, 2015     Leave a Comment

Before I write one word I’m praying this is much more than a cute story, but something that touches the deepest part of you. What I’m about to share has shaken, moved and broken the deepest part of me. Hopefully, I can share this with justice.

Recently, at Refuge Church we collected and purchased some heaters to help those struggling to keep warm during this cold time of year. After running out of our stored inventory, I set out to several local businesses in hopes of purchasing more. I discovered that due to extremely low temperatures the local demand was so great that electric heaters were no where to be found in most of the Low Country.

After locating several more heaters through donations and from my own home, I posted on the internet their free availability. In no time at all, my phone was ringing off the hook with local needs. On one of the coldest nights in Colleton County I found myself a distributor of some much needed heat. And as much as I feel those who received them were grateful, I was touched much deeper.

As I travelled to several cold homes throughout our County I met a wide variety of folks. I met widows fighting daily just to survive. I met families who just hoped to keep their lights on one more day. I saw a dad’s eyes filled with tears as He longed to keep his children safe and warm. I saw a single mother who was doing all she could day and night, yet still lived in a place most would call an absolute shack. But, what I really felt I saw was the heart of Colleton County.

Attention! News flash my friends. Colleton County is a struggling county. Physically, emotionally, mentally, financially, and spiritually. Sure, I love living here and I love the people. But, please understand that most of the residents here are struggling just to survive. Maybe someone reading this is one of them. I want you to know that because of you I can’t just go to sleep at night without thinking about you or your family. I can’t just kick back in my warm house, knowing that someone else is freezing at their house.

Too often those of us who have been so richly blessed waste the platforms God has given us. We all need to step out of our house and check on our neighbors more often. Especially as believers and followers of Christ we need to quit just talking about what we should do and actually get out in the community and do something that touches a life.

God never called any of us to just go to church, but to be the church. Jesus said the greatest commandment is to love God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength. Secondly, Jesus says we’ve been commanded to love our neighbor as ourself.

When you love your neighbor as yourself, you are reflecting God’s love at its greatest. There is not a person around of any race, background or status that God does not dearly love. God sent His only son Jesus to die for all the world, not just a chosen few. If Jesus was willing to do anything to show His incredible love for us, we need to be willing to go the extra mile to show His love to our neighbors.

I pray this for us all. That as Christ representatives we won’t just pass peoply by and do nothing. That we will always care for those who are cold, hungry, lonely, less fortunate and just in desperate need of encountering some Jesus with skin. For I know, its when we most embody a Christ-like nature that we ourselves will feel the closest to God’s heart.

*Looking for a place where you will always feels loved, Christ will always be lifted and you will always leave encouraged? Join Pastor Craig Sundays 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center.

Think I’ll Get Drunk

Posted on February 13, 2015     Leave a Comment

“Honey I’m home and I had a hard day. Pour me a cold one and oh by the way.” I believe Shania Twain might have been on to something in her hit song. For certain, I believe most of the world can relate. Life is hard, some days are longer than others, and we’re all just looking for an escape from reality.

I’m about to address a topic that is far overdue. You will be hard pressed to find one person that has not been touched by someone’s out of hand drinking. You know, someone who said I’ll just have a few drinks and next thing you know they are intoxicated. While drunk who knows what one might say or do to harm themselves or those they love. I’ve seen firsthand that anything is possible.  I guess that’s why they call it under the influence. Because at that point you aren’t you, but you are a million miles from reality.

Now, I understand there are many issues that could be addressed, but I feel led to touch on this one. One, because I know this issue affects the majority of the population. I bet you or someone you know is struggling with a drinking problem right now. Two, I actually understand why so many have turned to the bottle. So, please allow me to share what I’ve discovered.

First of all, I don’t think less of anyone who likes to have a drink. I do have a healthy fear of what alcohol can become in a person’s life and the havoc it can create in many lives. But, I have this same healthy fear about many other things such as the misuse of prescription drugs or the internet. Satan will use anything he can to ruin lives. So, this article has no intentions of bashing those who drink casually or consistently.

What I would like to point out is why so many just can’t drink enough. Outside of socially wanting to be with their friends or drink a cold one, I believe that anyone practically drinking themselves to death is crying out for help. They are doing all they can to drown out what they’ve done, where they’ve been and what they’ve been through. Internally their hearts are bleeding and for whatever reason they have not discovered how to stop it. Most of them would give anything to turn things around and get a handle on life. Yet, within they honestly feel hopeless and powerless concerning their life situations.

Honestly, I believe far too many professing Christians are more concerned about the bottle than the person. When God sees these people he doesn’t see what they are drinking, he sees straight to their heart. He sees their longing for peace, forgiveness, and a second chance in this life. God understands that their deepest thirst is not for some man-made drink. But, their deepest thirst and longing is for a right relationship with God through His son, Jesus Christ.

You see, we’re all looking for relief. Until we invite Jesus Christ in our life our heart will remain unsettled. This unsettledness leads us down a lot of dead end paths. Those paths often disappoint and devastate those we love. I can promise you this: There is not a rehab facility on the planet that can take credit for delivering you from alcohol or any drug. God may have used those people and process, but only Jesus can stop internal chaos and bring lasting healing.

God has really put a huge burden on my heart for those struggling in this area. And, if you’re one of those people I want you to know I’m praying earnestly for you. I pray that you will discover that it’s impossible to drown your hurt and heartache and I hope you discover that God cares even more. He loves you unconditionally, offers full forgiveness and knows how to put a heart back together. Just run into His arms!

(John 4:13-14)(NIV) Jesus said, “Everyone who drinks of this water will thirst again; but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him shall never thirst; but the water that I will give him will become in him a well of water springing up to eternal life.”…

Are you looking for place where you can always come as you are, but will never leave the same? Then, join me any Sunday 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center. www.RefugeChurch.org.

No Such Thing As An Offseason

Posted on February 9, 2015     Leave a Comment

   This past year was one of the most challenging times of my life. After injuring my lower back I missed over 5 ½ months of work. Somehow, God kept giving me strength to get up each day and provided for my every need. As some know, I ultimately loss my job with hospice. For me it was more than a job; it was a passion.

    You see, I feel called to come alongside folks in their darkest hours. To help people regardless of their life circumstances find hope. Hospice allows me the opportunity to meet people wherever they are with God’s love, peace, and comfort.

    During what felt like an offseason, I often felt out of control. Yet, God proved over and over that He is still in control. What appeared to be an offseason was just a time of personal reflection, refocus, restoration and replacement. It certainly made me grateful for even the little things in life.

    I’m excited and thankful to announce that God has placed me back in hospice. I’ll once again be serving Colleton County and its nearby surroundings. Starting this coming week, I’ll be a proud part of Patriot Hospice. We specialize in taking care of Veterans and all those battling a terminal illness. We provide palliative care and full hospice services. We travel to homes, hospitals, and assisted living facilities to come alongside patients and their families. Please contact me for more info and to see how we can serve your loved one @ scraigcrosby@gmail.com. You can also check out their website www.PatriotCares.com.

    Maybe you feel like you’re in an offseason. But God never takes off. He is always at work both in you, for you and around you. His timing is perfect and He knows better than anyone what He has purposed for you. Keep your head up, seek God’s will daily, and expect God to work all things out for your good and His glory!

(Romans 8:28)  And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

(Ecclesiastes 3:1) There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.

A Leap Of Faith

Posted on February 2, 2015     Leave a Comment

    I’ll never forget the summer of 1999. Why? Because it was my first BIG leap of faith. Just two years after graduating from Charleston Southern University, I was back living in my hometown of St. George, SC. I was serving full time as a youth/children’s pastor at a local church.

    My wife and I had a nice house, great support and few challenges. We were living just minutes from family and friends and for sure enjoying life in our comfort zone. Then God asked us to take a huge leap of faith.

     Aimee and I had been visiting a few different schools seeking to determine what school God would have me attend to get my Masters in Christian Education. We visited a seminary in North Carolina, Kentucky, and then drove 18 hours away to Fort Worth, Texas. After our visits, we felt certain that God was leading us to move to the Lone Star state.

     So, when we got back home from our visit we began preparing for our move. We sat down with our families and informed them we would be moving away for a few years to Texas. Then God willing we would move back close to home.

     Two weeks went by after feeling so certain and excited about this decision. Then, Aimee and I found out that we were expecting our first child. Suddenly this decision did not feel so easy, nor did it excite us anymore. How could we move 18 hours away from home with our first child?

We were scared, unsettled, and doing everything we could to tell God why we should stay in South Carolina. I even took out a sheet of paper and created two columns for my argument. Column A read: “REASONS TO STAY”. Column B read: “REASONS TO GO”. Under “Reasons to stay” I had an endless argument of why we should stay in SC. Under “Reasons to go” I could only write down three words.           GOD SAID SO.

     Night after night, I tossed and turned over this decision. I cried, I prayed and I finally quit fighting with God. I finally, said YES GOD, wherever you lead, I will go. Whatever you want I will trust is best for me and my family.

     So, we loaded up a 25 foot long Moving Truck, packed in all our belongings, and made this God move. (THIS HUGE FAITH MOVE) to Fort Worth, Texas. (Just me, Aimee, and now a 5 month old) Honestly, we had no idea how we would make it. But, from that point forward we just followed God’s leading every step of the way. God provided, guided and rewarded this huge faith step in our lives.

     Since that day, we’ve learned to follow God promptly. No matter what and no matter where He leads. He has proven His faithfulness to us time and time again. I sincerely believe that had I not taken that faith step then I would have missed many faith steps thereafter.

    Someone reading this right now is at a crossroads. You hear God calling you to take a BIG leap of faith, but you’re afraid to leave your comfort zone. My friends, the only way to reach your God-given potential is to “walk by faith, not by sight.” Once you cross that bridge to God’s will you’ll discover a life otherwise impossible. God will take you places you never dreamed or imagine.

 (Hebrews 11:6)(NIV) And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

*Join Pastor Craig any Sunday, 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center. Come as you are to Refuge Church and learn how to walk by faith, not by sight.

COMPLICATED PEOPLE

Posted on January 26, 2015     Leave a Comment

Don’t Trust Your Feelings

Posted on January 22, 2015     1 Comment

I find there are always seasons that I’m just lucky to survive. You know, get up and show up. My heart feels torn in a million directions. Even the strongest and most spiritual person faces these reality checks. Here are some things I’ve found are critical to helping keep me grounded and not misled by my up and down feelings.

#1 My Feelings Can’t Be My Guide. 

Too often we allow what we feel or don’t feel to dictate what we do or don’t do. If you go by feelings alone you might never go to work, be responsible, or even get up in the mornings. Because feelings come and go, they are never a trustworthy guide for our lives.

#2 My Feelings Can’t Be My God.

How often do things happen we can’t understand? Life is full of moments that leave you shaking your head for answers. This is why we can’t rely on our own understanding or how we feel about the matter. Only God knows all and sees all. Trying to humanize things will only lead you in circles. My feelings can’t be my God because my gut is often mislead.

#3. My Feelings Can’t Be My Truth.

Your heart can so easily by deceived. Your emotions can lead you to believe things that just aren’t true. For this reason alone we have to stay grounded in God’s truth. God’s word never changes even in an ever changing world. Too many allow their feelings and perceptions to determine the truth they believe. We live in a world that continues to fall because they are living by their feelings, not walking by faith. 

(Proverbs 3:5-6)(The Message)Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.

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I LOST MORE THAN A JOB

Posted on January 8, 2015     Leave a Comment

     In the past four years alone I’ve been a hospice chaplain to hundreds. Being by the bedside of those making an eternal transition from this life to the next has never been a job to me, but always a calling. For this reason alone, I was heart broken when I discovered I would no longer have this opportunity with hospice.

     Yes, a few months ago I had that conversation that anyone who loves their job dreads. I was suddenly informed that I would be let go because the company could not afford to keep me and the other chaplain. It was Halloween Day and I felt like I was getting a trick without a treat. I felt like someone took from me something I knew God gave me in the first place.

     Now, let me say this very quickly. I’m fine, my family is blessed, and God will take care of us. I hold no ill feelings towards anyone involved in this matter. Just because I’m a pastor doesn’t mean tough things won’t happen to me. I’m confident that many reading this article can identify with my disappointment, my struggle, and even my feelings of what next. I’ve had some time to ponder this matter and here are some things I’ve learned.

     One, who I am is not dictated by what I do. I’m still a child of God’s and able to be used by God daily. Yes, I wish things didn’t have to change, but its not the end of the world. I can still come alongside the dying, reach out to those in need, and live out my God given purpose. A job does not define you, but is simply a window God has given you for a certain season.

     Two, God is my provider. Let’s face it, in today’s world a good job is hard to find. Yet, even the best job holds no guarantees for tomorrow. If we put our stock in this world we will be disappointed every time. Over the past few months I have seen God show up and show out in my life. He pays my bills, He makes a way, and He is my soul provider. Any job I have or ever will have is simply a venue through which God provides.

     Thirdly, God is still in control. Sudden changes for any of us can rock us all to the core. In fact, if we dwell on the seeming uncertainty too long panic will set in. Job or no job, sunshine or rain, mountain or valley, God is still God. I can trust that no matter what my circumstance looks or feels like, God is still in control.

     Now, I don’t know what might be going on in your life. Maybe you’re flying high or maybe you’re going through a very tough valley. Just know that God will take care of you, He will never leave or forsake you, and He will carry you through even the most difficult times.

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3 Things I Pray My Kids Never Say

Posted on December 31, 2014     Leave a Comment

     Outside of your personal relationship with God there is nothing more important than your relationship with your family. Speaking of family, here are three things I pray my kids never say, especially after they leave my home.

#1 Daddy Never Had Time For Me. I know firsthand how easy it is to get consumed with things around you while missing what is right in front of you. We all know kids grow up way too fast. I still recall my dad saying to me once, “Son, make sure you spend more time with my grandkids than I spent with you.” I knew that was a man speaking from experience saying, don’t let these moments pass you by. I’m determined to be an involved and engaged parent. For this to happen, I have to make time for my kids!

#2 Daddy Never Loved Me. I was raised in a home where I love you was common language. I tell my kids I love you about every other breath. I feel it’s really important that no matter what comes between us, they know that love is constant. They need to hear me communicate my love for them. And, my actions need to speak loudly that those aren’t just empty, careless words.

#3 Daddy Never Led Our Family. Call me old fashioned, sexist, and whatever else comes to mind. But, I still believe God has called dads to lead their families. I believe the only reason many ladies are playing this role is due to dads who have never stepped up. Being a dad is more than just having a child, drinking a beer, sitting in a chair, and going to work. Being a dad is accepting your God-given responsibility of loving and leading your family towards God’s best for them. It starts by being an example of how God would have us all to live. Then doing all you can to lead your family to do the same.

     Dads and Moms, maybe in the past you’ve not done a great job in one are all of these areas. There is no time like the present to turn things around. Admit your shortcomings to God and your family. Put yesterday behind you and don’t miss another key moment with those you love so dearly.

     Would love to have you join me @ Refuge Church Sundays 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center. This could be a new year and a new you!

A Life Defining Question Heading Into 2015

Posted on December 24, 2014     Leave a Comment

      Was the night before Christmas and all through my house. Not a creature was stirring except for this preacher’s wife’s spouse. He was working late into the night as he often does. Preparing messages and making plans for future ministry. When all of sudden he noticed his wife asleep on the couch. She was exhausted from caring for him and their kids all week. He then realized he could learn a lot from her going forward into 2015.

     What I’m about to share with you is not a laughing matter, but likely one of the most life defining questions. What are your priorities? A priority is “something that is more important than other things and that needs to be done or dealt with first.” So many things flood through my mind as I read this definition from Webster’s dictionary. In fact, the main thing is how much my actions contradict my intentions. You know, we all like to spit out of our mouths that God, family, and others come first in our lives. But, do they really?

     I have to say that even though it took years to admit it, my wife is usually right about a lot of stuff. One of those things is what it means to be in a state of being with your family, not just doing for your family. For example, while I’ve been headed in a million other directions thinking about my family, she has been busy loving and nurturing our family. This is something I’ve seen firsthand in her and her mom. Maybe the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

     You know and I know that talk is cheap. You can say all day long what you plan to do and how you really feel. But, your actions will always speak louder than your words. For example, if my family is a greater priority than my work I will make time for them. They won’t consistently get leftovers and second hand time. I won’t be so wrapped up doing for others that I fail to do for my own family.

     In 2015, one of my greatest resolutions is to establish clear and worthwhile priorities. I don’t want to be full of just empty words and good intentions. I want to say yes to the right things and no to the wrong things that can wait. I want to live with Godly conviction, which I know will bring with it God’s peace and success.

     So, what are your priorities going into 2015? Jesus already made it clear what should come first in our lives. “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” (Matthew 6:33)(NLT)

Starting Sunday, January 4^th 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center, Refuge Church will kick off a very practical and powerful message series called a “New Year, New You.” Would love to have you join us @ Refuge if you don’t already have a church home. I’m certain these messages will help you get the new year started off right! Happy New Year!

Make The Most Of This Christmas

Posted on December 24, 2014     Leave a Comment

Merry Christmas

I don’t mind admitting that I’m still much like a child when it comes to Christmas. You can feel the magic and anticipation in the air. However, to make the most of any Christmas we all need the right focus and perspective. Here are five things I believe will help us make the most of this wonderful season called Christmas.

#1 Enjoy Time With FAMILY & FRIENDS. We live in a world that is seeking to part ways with everything God values most. One of those things is family. In the process, the American family continues to fall apart. We pride ourselves in staying busy, living independent, and doing things our way. God designed us all to do life together. God made us to live in close fellowship with himself and others. Who knows what will happen between now and the next time you gather. Forget about football, deadlines, and anything else that can wait. Enjoy the time you have with your loved ones and don’t assume those times will come again.

#2 Remember The LESS FORTUNATE. Nothing is more Christ-like than being mindful of the needs of others. Not everyone will have plenty to eat and family gathered around them. Jesus went above and beyond to show His love for us and others. He gave up His life in hopes of having a personal relationship with each of us. We too should go above and beyond to show others that same kind of love. Invite the lonely to join you. Do what you can for those who are struggling and need their spirits lifted. Anything less is simply ungodly and unacceptable if we call ourselves Christ followers.

#3 Count Your BLESSINGS. I still recall the hymn we used to sing often at church. “Count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your blessings, see what God has done.” Often we focus on what we don’t have instead of realizing all that surrounds us. Yes, pull out a piece of paper and list all the blessings in your life. I guarantee your list of blessings will be much longer than your list of wants and complaints. Remember every good gift comes down from God above.

#4 Look For GOD MOMENTS. There is something about the holidays that opens hearts. Hearts that might otherwise be cold. Look for moments to share God’s love. Look for moments to testify of God’s faithfulness in your life. Look for God-given windows that provide opportunity to share God’s love and hope with others. The shepherds who encountered baby Jesus for themselves didn’t just keep the good news to themselves, but they couldn’t wait to share the hope of Christ with others.

#5 Focus On The REASON FOR THE SEASON. We say Christmas is all about Jesus and then we make it all about us and buying gifts. We talk a lot about a reindeer named Rudolph and a jolly man named Saint Nick. Yet, outside of our little manger scene figurines, Jesus is hardly discussed even for his birthday. We must put forth an intentional effort to make the main thing, the main thing. Otherwise, Christmas becomes just another man-made holiday instead of the God made celebration it should be. Ever Christmas Eve our family gathers and sings together Happy Birthday to Jesus. Why not? He is the reason for the season.

(Isaiah 9:6)(NIV) For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU & YOUR FAMILY!

When God Does More Than You Think

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When God Does More Than You Think

Posted on December 15, 2014     1 Comment

God’s Angels

     Last year this time a local young mother was struggling with her health and to keep her lights on. She certainly didn’t have any extra funds to buy Christmas presents for her three small children. After being made aware of the need, some folks with big hearts at Refuge Church made sure those little ones had some special gifts come Christmas morning.

     Recently, this same mother contacted me. Except this time, she wasn’t asking for anything for her or her family. Instead she wrote the following words. “Mr Craig you and your members made Christmas for me and my children last year. My children wouldn’t have gotten anything had it not been for y’all. I would like to pay that blessing to someone else if you know of a small family please call me. This has been weighing heavily on my heart so I’m guessing God is either leading me to help your family or someone you know.”

Here is what I wrote her in response. “My friend, it’s great to hear from you. We were glad to help your family last year through what I know was a difficult time. I will let you know of any family I know in need. But, your offer to help someone else has already blessed my heart. It means God used last Christmas not only to bless your family, but to turn you into a blessing to others in need. You’ve learned something very few others ever do. That Christmas is not about what you can get, but what you can give to touch other lives. I pray you and your family have a wonderful Christmas season. God bless!”

    This mother went on to say, “Maybe this will help someone else who is in the same shoes. There is hope. And though I could have missed the pain, I’m grateful that God loved me enough, loved my children enough to help us. I honestly pray that I always remember how amazing it felt and how it truly was a miracle for me. I can only imagine that Heaven must be that same amazing, heart wrenching feeling. I now pray everyday that God uses me throughout the entire year to help others in need. I’ve already helped four other families recently.”

As I read her words and listened to her God story I could not help but smile and be moved. We thought we were just helping someone at Christmas? We thought we were just doing something that would touch a life that moment? Instead, it has become the gift that is still giving. God bless this mother, her family, and all those who might find themselves in a very difficult place this time of year. I pray God supplies all your needs and uses others to be an angel in your life.

(Acts 20:35)(NIV) “…We must help the weak, remembering the words of the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

LISTEN TO YOUR SPOUSE

Posted on December 1, 2014     Leave a Comment

Or don’t and wish you did. I can’t speak for every man, but I still have a lot to learn even after all these years of marriage. My wife speaks one word to my every one thousand. But, when she speaks there is usually much to be heard. Words that don’t need to be ignored, misunderstood, or taken lightly.

If it makes you feel better I still put my foot in my mouth quite frequently. I can easily get wrapped up in my own wants and needs. Fortunately, I have a wife who I love dearly who knows how to help me see reality.

I’ve said many times the only thing that has spared my marriage from divorce has been the grace and undeserved love of my wife. But, there comes a point when you have to wake up, step up, and be the man God has called you to be.

Several years ago, while reading a book called “The Ten Commandments of Marriage” God hit me upside the head. I was actually preparing a message series on marriage to preach to others. Well, God had a message for me. I was only in the first chapter of the book when conviction came all over me. The author said, “Thou shall not have Pigitis”. He went on to explain how we can’t be all about us, but we have to seek to understand our spouse.

I remember that day like yesterday because it actually broke my heart. How many times did I miss what was going in the heart of my spouse? How many times was I so focused on my thoughts that I failed to even consider hers? What had I missed for nearly ten years of marriage that could have enriched our relationship? I can answer that quickly, I missed a lot!

If we want our marriage to not only survive, but thrive we have to listen. Don’t be so focused on being understood, but seek to understand your spouse. You can’t love well anyone you don’t really know. You have to get to know their struggles, fears, disappointment, hopes and dreams. Anything less just leads to two strangers at odds, laying in bed next to each other.

Communication will always be a work in progress. But, active listening will always be critical to healthy communication. Ladies and gentlemen, make sure you listen to your spouse. I’ve seen too many brokenhearted men and woman that later wish they had done something before their marriage fell completely apart.

(James 1:19)(NIV)”My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

Confessions Of A Pastor

Posted on November 25, 2014     1 Comment

Not quite sure why I’m sharing all this with you. I do know confession brings healing. And, if God can use this to encourage even one struggling preacher or brother in Christ, it was worth every confession. I can’t speak for every pastor, but I’m pretty sure these things apply to most. We spend a lot of time seeking to understand those God has called us to serve, but maybe there are some things you need to know about us.

#1. I’M HUMAN. Not that I’m telling you something you didn’t already know. But, I’m afraid sometimes people forget that the pastor is human too. I sin, I fail, I fall short, and I certainly don’t have all the answers. I’m just a man who has been called by God to minister to others who just like me are desperately in need of God’s grace, love, truth, and forgiveness.

#2. I HAVE FAMILY. My children just call me dad and need me as much as yours need you. My wife needs me to love her, lead her, and be there for her for better or worse. I have vowed and determined that I won’t ever be one of those guys out trying to save the world, yet failing to be what God has first called me to be at home. Every pastor needs those around him to love His family as much as he seeks to love their family.

#3. I AM OFTEN OVERWHELMED. After over 20 years of ministry experience I’ve only become more aware of my desperate need for divine intervention. A pastor often goes to bed knowing that the greatest things before him are way beyond his control. He can pray, prepare, and put together man’s best laid plans. Yet, He knows that without God’s help, he and the church are bound to fall short. By the way, there is nothing wrong with admitting that you can’t even walk without God holding your hand.

#4. I AM STILL LEARNING MYSELF. I’ve spent nearly half my life in school only to conclude that I still have so much to learn. No pastor has all the answers or always knows what to do. There is a God and we are not Him. We preach God’s word passionately because we know that within its’ pages we can discover all we really need to know to accomplish God’s will. I will always be a student myself even as I seek to lead countless others.

#5. I NEED YOUR PRAYERS. The average pastor hears and receives prayer requests around the clock. Personally, I don’t care where or when you might run into me I’ll always care about what is going on in your life. And, I’m certain that God cares even more my friend. There are no greater words a pastor can hear than, “I’m praying for you.” I would say, thanks because I sure do need it. So, as you ask your pastor to pray for you assure him that you are praying for him. God will in turn pick him and you up in the process.

Dear Grandma & Granddaddy

Posted on November 20, 2014     Leave a Comment

I think I’ve discovered something that can go a long way in helping you process the loss of a loved one. At least I can say it helped me a whole lot to write this letter. 

Dear Grandma & Granddaddy,

Hard to believe it’s been a few years since your eternal transition. Granddad, you always said, “I’ve got high mileage on rough roads.” Well how is that new body treating you? Grandma, I honestly thought you might out live me considering you worked circles around all of us. That stupid cancer took you away from us way too soon.

How am I doing? Just living like you taught me to do. Trying to make the most of this life and make preparations for the next. Things haven’t really changed much since you both left us. Many people are still taking life for granted, acting crazy, and putting all their stock in a life that is sure to disappoint.

I’m so glad I know where both of you are living today. I can’t imagine the sights, sounds, and peace there on those streets of gold. No, neither of you were perfect, but thank God you trusted Jesus as your savior. Yes, I’m still preaching, singing, and doing all I can to tell as many people as possible that “Jesus Saves.”

Grandma, I found that picture of you and Seth. Why didn’t you tell me that as young as 3 years old you were filling him up with coffee. No wonder, he never wanted to take a nap during the day. He still tells me that you told him not to tell. Well, the truth is out now and I’m just glad he got to share a few cups with you.

Why am I writing all of this? I just find it helpful to think about all the smiles and special moments we shared together. No, Grandma I’ve not had a pimento cheese or chicken salad sandwich like yours since you left. Granddaddy, eating peanuts just isn’t the same without you sitting there telling me that we should chew every bite thirty times. By the way, Granddaddy, all those jokes I told you were lame, I find myself repeating them daily. And, if no one else laughs, I just laugh at myself.

Well, you two enjoy that place of paradise where there is no more worry, hurt, pain, or disappointment. I know sooner that we think our appointed time will come and we will see each other again thanks to Jesus. I know I have no way of getting this letter to you in Heaven. So, I’ll just wait until we meet again to catch up and enjoy eternity together. Thanks for all you did and taught me to do.

 Love, Your Favorite Grandson (Oh yes, that was our secret)

God Used The Worst Meal Ever

Posted on November 18, 2014     Leave a Comment

Recently, I was out of town on a spiritual getaway. I had not eaten much of anything all day, so I was very eager to find some good eating. I stopped at the first steak and seafood restaurant I saw and was shown to my seat. The waitress highly recommended the evening special which was a small steak and shrimp smothered in some kind of house sauce. The sides were mixed vegetables and mashed potatoes. I thought to myself this is going to be great, how can you go wrong with that order?

That is until my food was brought to my table. My steak appeared to be still alive when I knew I ordered it Well, Well done. The shrimp and steak appeared to be covered in a dish that I may not serve my dog. The taste of both of these items made me feel like I now knew what “Gravy Train” mixed with leftovers might taste like. The vegetables tasted like cold grass. The mashed potatoes tasted like someone forgot to mash or warm them. Finally, I asked for some bread. No joke, if my eyes were closed I would be certain that someone brought me some “Deer Jerky”.

All this to say, I told the waitress as nicely as I could that nothing on my plate tasted great, but it was not her fault. She actually looked like she could tear up any moment as she so wanted me to be a satisfied customer. I assured her that I would be fine and asked her to please bring me my bill. She brought it out with a smile and I noticed that she had given me a discount. As I signed the credit card receipt, I also took time to write these words which I inserted with my bill.

“Dear Waitress, Just want you to know that your service was great. Even though the food wasn’t. I totally appreciate you giving me a discount and your compassion towards me being satisfied. I’m so glad that even though life isn’t perfect, God still has perfect plan for each of us. In fact, Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you says, the Lord. Plans to prosper you, not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God bless you and your future.” Sincerely, Pastor Craig Crosby.

The restaurant had many outside windows. I actually could see straight to the back. There was my waitress, showing this letter to one of the restaurant host, while smiling ear to ear. I realized that night that even though I didn’t like my meal, it was not a wasted night. God used my dissatisfaction to hopefully help that waitress discover an even greater satisfaction. I personally chalked it up as another divine moment that I could have easily missed if my only concern was my meal.

(John 10:10) Jesus said, “The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. But, I have come so that you might have life to its fullest.” My friends, please don’t ever settle for less!

DIVORCE PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE

Posted on November 15, 2014     Leave a Comment

Put Down Your Guitar

Posted on November 11, 2014     Leave a Comment

     By now millions have heard the news about a recent Garth Brooks Concert. While in the midst of playing music, Garth noticed a lady that was battling cancer in the audience. She was holding up a sign that read “Chemo this morning, Garth tonight, Enjoying the dance.”

     It really touched my heart how Garth Brooks stopped his concert midstream to recognize this lady battling cancer. In fact, he not only noticed her, he serenaded her, held up her sign for all to see, and then gave her the very guitar he was playing. This lady was not only battling cancer, but two weeks prior her dad unexpectedly passed away.

    While holding the sign up on stage for all to see, Garth Brooks then said some very profound words. “I’m one of those guys who says, “If God would just get a big old hand that comes down from the sky and write, I EXIST. Well tonight God wrote this sign.”

     My friends, too often we’re so caught up in our “Own Song and Dance” to notice what the person next to us might be going through. God wants us all to put down our guitar and notice the needs around us. Take the time to notice someone else’s battle, struggle, and be God’s vessel that speaks loudly “I Care About You.”

    Just like Garth Brooks we need to use the stage God has given us to touch somebody’s life. A self-centered life will never bring you happiness or peace. You were created in God’s image and God is anything but selfish. God is love and as believers in Jesus Christ we’ve all been called to share that love with those around us.

(1 John 4:8)(NIV) Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Life Lessons From Peyton Manning

Posted on October 20, 2014     Leave a Comment

Peyton Manning

Sunday night, millions watched quarterback Peyton Manning break Brett Favre’s record for most touchdown passes all time in NFL history. I know some of you reading this could care less about football, but let me share some things we can all learn from a man named Peyton Manning.

1.  HEALTH MATTERS.  Peyton Manning would have never accomplished much if he did not stay healthy. Many athletes go down early in their careers and never play again. It doesn’t matter how much talent or potential you have in this life. If you don’t stay healthy you can’t accomplish much. Peyton has managed to stay healthy mentally, physically, and spiritually, therefore he has continued to thrive. Don’t ever forget the value of being and staying healthy. If you aren’t healthy you can’t be very helpful.

2. WORK SMARTER.   I feel like I have been watching Peyton Manning play football my entire life. Yet, when I realized he was only 38 I knew that I was actually born first. How has this man continued to excel at a point that the average 38 year old would have struggled to even be the team’s water boy? Manning has continued to be a student of the game and life. Wisdom teaches us we must work smarter, not just harder. Prepare and plan before you move forward. Learn how to operate with a sound mind as you know the body will decline in its abilities over the years.

3. LIVE WITH PASSION.  Peyton Manning looks to be having more fun than ever playing quarterback for the Denver Broncos. I believe it’s because he plays with passion. He is driven to play His best and get the ball in the end zone. Remember, anything worth doing is worth giving your all. When you operate with passion you rise above the average and reach otherwise impossible goals. Whatever you do in this life do it all for God’s glory and give it all you have got.

4. ATTITUDE MATTERS. Many people have an attitude, but unfortunately most have the wrong kind. It’s been said that our attitude determines our altitude. You will have a very hard time finding anyone that does not like Peyton Manning. Why? Because he remains humble before God, respectful to others, and always seems to keep a level head. Many great athletes have a shaky career because their attitude stinks. Peyton’s attitude makes him a fan favorite and a person anyone can truly look up to. His attitude is just as much known as his ability to throw the football.

5. FAMILY MATTERS. Many have observed Peyton Manning’s dad and brother. Can’t you see the resemblance? They’re all winners, passionate competitors and humble men. This had to be taught and passed down from somewhere. Too often parents underestimate the importance of the home. Many people beaming with potential never get to see it due to a dysfunctional home. A person’s family can be their greatest cheerleader or their greatest hindrance towards accomplishing greatness.

Congratulations Peyton Manning on the man you have become. Both on and off the football field you have excelled. Thanks for teaching us so many priceless lessons that can be applied to our everyday life. I can promise you this. People will remember Manning’s accomplishments for years to come, but they will also never forget the rareness of his character exemplified before an out of control world.

(Philippians 3:13-14) Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

5 Things The Church Must Hear

Posted on October 15, 2014     Leave a Comment

I still believe God has great plans for His church. We just have to make sure that as humans we don’t mess up those plans. I often remind myself and others. The greatest thing we can do as believers is to stay out of God’s way and let Him have his way both in us and around us. Here are five things the church must hear.

1. NO ONE IS COMING.

Statistics prove what has actually been known for years. Church attendance continues to decline. In fact, 75% of Americans don’t attend church anywhere regularly. Gone are the days that people just show up at church, so don’t hold your breath expecting them to walk in. You can change your music, your sign, and your pastor. But, if you don’t get outside the church walls your church will not grow or exist very long.

2. QUIT TALKING ABOUT THE WHITE HOUSE.

We don’t need to rip apart the White House, but instead address the chaos that is going on in our house and “God’s house.” We need to be of one accord, full of God’s love, focused on His mission, and consistently seeking to make this world a better place. If we’re focused on doing what God has called us to do lives will be changed one soul at a time. Just talking about our country’s shortcomings fixes nothing and only feeds an already negative culture. Too often our churches are known more for what they are against than what they are for.

3. WE’RE STRONGER TOGETHER.

Don’t just pray for your church, but gospel centered churches everywhere. We need to quit throwing bombs at one another and link arms together. I do appreciate what organizations like United Colleton are doing in an attempt to get churches all throughout Colleton County on the same page. I guarantee you in Heaven God will not care about the color of your skin or whether you were Baptist, Methodist, Pentecostal, Lutheran, or whatever you see as the best denomination. In the end, all that will matter is did you know Jesus and did you seek to follow His ways. We all need to learn how to not just celebrate what God is doing in our ministry, but in the ministry of others. Anything less is not of God.

4. WHERE ARE YOU?

According to scripture, every believer makes up the body of Christ. Every believer has an important part to play. When you’re not where God has called you to be, the church can’t be all God has called it to be. My friend, you will never find a perfect church. They’re all full of imperfect people, who by God’s grace through faith have been saved by a perfect Savior. If you call yourself a believer in Jesus Christ you should be involved in a local church. Not because going makes you a Christian, but because Christ established the church to be a place believers gather together.

5. SUPPORT YOUR PASTOR.

Trust me when I tell you the following. If you have never been a pastor, you have no idea the challenges of one. Being a pastor has been labeled by some as one of the top five hardest jobs in the world. One pastor will never be able do it all, make everyone happy, or fix all the issues that pop up daily. When it comes to your pastor you’re either with him or against him. You need to pray for your pastor, his family, and his leadership. Choose to be encouraging not a modern day Judas.

(Hebrews 10:25)(NLT) And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.

What Every Sport Fan Needs To Hear

Posted on October 6, 2014     Leave a Comment

Anyone who really knows me has seen my passion for college football. I can rattle off statistics that most don’t care about. I can’t wait for Saturdays. I love to watch every minute of the game. Like most real sports fans during that time I’m in the zone. For those hours anything that can wait, can wait. In fact, after I watch it the first time I’m bound to flip back through it again later, just ask my wife.

Over the last couple of years, both Carolina and Clemson have had great seasons of football. However, this year particular was expected to be rebuilding years for both. Especially since both squads loss some really key players and are playing a lot of young, experienced guys. Sadly, both schools are followed by some fans that never expect to lose a game. Many fans will literally go into a state of depression for days if their team falls short. Many resemble a two year old as they kick, scream, and demand everything to go their way.

Football, just like life has a way of keeping us humble. There are days nothing seems to go right. Times that we just feel like we’ve made every mistake in the book. Of course there is always someone we like to blame for our downfall. The refs are never right unless the other team is being penalized. And, no matter what we just want to win. Nothing less is acceptable.

Now, I want to make this very clear. There is a message in this for all of us. However, I feel especially inspired to share this with those who unfortunately have made any sport their God. Those who actually allow their everyday life to be dictated by a missed field goal, fumble, or lost ballgame. This simply indicates that you are so pre-occupied with what doesn’t matter that you actually think the score matters that much.

At much as I love sports, I have always sought to keep a healthy perspective. First, I tell myself that only one team can win. Secondly, I remind myself that it’s just a game. Thirdly, I seek to make sure it’s always just something I enjoy, not something I worship. Because anything or anyone you worship outside of God, will send your world tumbling.

Now, if this article gets you mad in any way, shape or form it’s clear you have a problem. This indicates that you’ve likely put way too much time, energy, money and hope in a game that will always disappoint eventually. This indicates that you really need Jesus to come into your heart and reveal to you what really matters most. Because with all the other things to worry about in life, Lord help us if football even makes our top 100 list.

I Just Want To Be Happy

Posted on October 4, 2014     Leave a Comment

I hear so many people tell me this from time to time. “I just want to be happy.” Unfortunately, it usually accompanies them wanting to use this statement to justify their actions. The problem is that nowhere in scripture does God’s word tell us to seek happiness. In fact, one could strongly argue that true happiness is not about who you feel, but who you know.

God’s word tell us that we are to love God with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength. Second to this we are to love our neighbor as ourselves. Jesus makes it clear that there are no commandments greater than these. (Mark 12:28-31)

Jesus said, “Seek first God’s kingdom and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33) Often we chase what we want because we think it will make us happy. Often we seek our will, but hope for peace, joy, and happiness that can only be found by seeking God’s will above all else.

Let me wrap this up by simply saying the following. Happiness cannot be found in this world or any set of circumstances. Nothing and no one in this world can give you lasting peace and feelings of fulfillment. Only Jesus offers the road to happiness and lasting hope. Jesus said, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

Please don’t listen to Sheryl Crow when she sings, “If it makes you happy it can’t be that bad.” Our hearts often mislead us down dead end roads. Therefore do as scripture tells us. Guard your heart and let Jesus lead your life.

When You Just Don’t Know ?

Posted on September 15, 2014     Leave a Comment

I have missed over 3 ½ months of work since early March. After trying to catch a lady who passed out grieving her brother, I’ve really never been the same. Doctors say I have a muscle tear and a bulge in my lower back. I’ve been through weeks of physical therapy and have already gotten three steroid shots in the past few months alone. Praise God, I have been released to return back to work at Amedisys Hospice this week.

For sure it’s been an unpredictable journey. We all would like to feel in control. To be confident of what lies ahead. The truth is we never know what tomorrow could bring. We never know what might happen with our job, our family, our health, and in this crazy world. For this reason, we all need to put together a plan and approach that works even when you don’t know what tomorrow will bring. Here is my three fold plan moving forward.

1. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. Looking too far ahead can get you into a world of trouble. It’s like when a football team doesn’t take seriously the opponent in front of them. While they are looking ahead to another opponent they might lose the one they are playing that day. Things can change so much. Jesus tells us each day has enough trouble of it’s on. So, I plan to take one day at a time and seek to follow God’s leading moment by moment.

2. CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN. How often do we worry about things we can’t control. Doing this not only stresses us, but it accomplishes nothing. All I can do is what I can do. With the strength I have, the knowledge I’ve gained, and the opportunities God puts in front of me. I will do my best and trust God with the rest.

3. TRUST GOD WITH IT ALL. There is no sense in fooling ourselves. Apart from God’s help and divine intervention we can do nothing. Ultimately, I have to free fall into the arms of an all knowing, all powerful, and always there God. A God who is bigger than anything I will ever face. A God who can see clearly what is behind and ahead of me. I have to make the slogan that sits on every piece of U.S. currency more than just words. I have to determine in my heart, “In God I Will Trust.”

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)(NIV)

17 Lessons Learned Since We Said, “I Do”

Posted on August 23, 2014     Leave a Comment

17 years ago, we exchanged sacred vows with each other. It’s never been perfect, but it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. We dated 4 1/2 years before we walked the aisle and said, “I Do.” Of course, dating and being married are two totally different things. Here are some things I’ve learned along the way that are critical to any marriage thriving. 

1. Commitment Matters. Too many get married with the option of divorce in mind. We’ve never made it an option. We both meant what we said then and mean it even more now.

2. God’s Grace Is Required. Tests will come your way as early as the honeymoon. Without divine intervention and Christ leading both of you, your marriage will not last and for sure never thrive.

3. Love is an action verb. Please read (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). My wife taught me this one. It wasn’t until about 8-10 years into our marriage that I started realizing my actions will always speak louder than my words.

4. Satan will attack. You have an enemy that does not want your marriage to succeed. Stay on your knees, keep your guard up, and keep fighting with God on your side. Satan will constantly look for ways to not only just disrupt, but his goal is to destroy your marriage.

5. Keep Investing. We often reap what we sow in any relationship. Marriage is no different. The grass is only greener where you water it. Keep dating and keep looking for ways to position your relationship to be healthy.

6. Study Your Spouse. You will never get your masters degree, but you have to keep learning your spouse’s love language. Listen with your heart and ears. Discover what makes them hurt, what makes them smile, and how you can better communicate your love to them.

7. Learn How To fight. You’re going to disagree and you’re gonna have bad days. You have to learn how to control yourself, talk through your differences, and get outside help when necessary.

8. You Don’t Have To Be Right. Too often we just want the other person to hear our side and think like us. Seek more to understand than to be understood.

9. Communication Is Critical. In the beginning all you see is rainbows and butterflies. But, if you live with anyone long enough you’ll reach a breaking point. We have to keep learning how to communicate and live with each other in an understanding way.

10. F.I.D.O. (Forget It & Drive On)  Don’t harbor bitterness inside. Don’t hold yesterday against each other. Forgive, let the past be the past, and love as God loves you.

11. Don’t Follow The Crowd. The average marriage is a total wreck. Not just because it’s two imperfect people, but so many don’t approach marriage with the right perspective. Many have unhealthy boundaries, a fairy tale mindset, and ingredients that will lead to divorce. Don’t follow the crowd, follow God’s word.

12. You Need Cheerleaders. You always need people in your life that love you, know you, and care enough about you to speak into your life. Too many try to be lone rangers. Due to pride, most don’t hear about their marital struggles until things completely fall apart. Surround yourself with the right people and seek wise counsel.

13. Make Time For Each Other. There will always be things and other people fighting for your attention. You have to make your marriage a top priority in your life. Seriously, above the kids, your career, and any hobby you may enjoy. If you don’t make time for them, someone will. No one gets married to spend life alone.

14. Marriage is work. Marriage will always be a work in progress. Keep listening, keep learning, and keep asking God to show you ways things can improve.

15. Only Christ Unites. Often opposites attract. The uniting factor is not what movies or music you like. Both of you need to be seeking God’s will and looking to God’s word for direction. He will not only lead you together, but make your relationship stronger.

16. Prayer Works. Keep your knees dirty and keep praying for your marriage. It doesn’t take long for things to quickly spiral out of control. But, with God’s strength and help you can make it through anything.

17. It Gets Better With Time. Marriage done God’s way will only improve over time. I can honestly tell you that I love my wife more now than before. Our marriage is way stronger today than years ago. When you choose to grow together, learn from your past, and continue to walk in God’s love your relationship just gets sweeter with time. You learn over time that love is much more than a feeling, but  a continuous daily choice to love each other for better or worse.

I pray this encourages some married couple whether you just recently got married or been married for years. If you don’t have a church home, come join me Sundays 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center. Not only will Refuge change the way you think about church. The hour you spend with us will encourage marriage.

BACK TO SCHOOL

Posted on August 18, 2014     1 Comment

No one is more aware that school is resuming than our family. This year our boys will be in grades 10^th, 8^th, 5^th and our youngest will take part in a half-day 4K program. As we dive into another school year, God is opening my eyes to many things.

1. TIME FLIES. I feel like I just graduated from high school myself. Like all parents, I see that time is passing by quickly. Personally, I don’t plan on being one of those parents that looks back with nothing but regret. They are only this age once and I know I will miss them when they’re gone.

2. TEACHERS MATTER. More important that having prayer in schools is the need for truly God called teachers. Teachers that pray, really care, meet students where they are and do all they can to point every child towards God’s best for their life. We need to pray for the teachers and students.

3. OUR KIDS ARE MISSIONARIES. When it comes to where your child attends school I respect whatever your conviction. We all want our kids to be safe and get a quality education. My wife and I have always been of the same mindset that wherever our kids attend we hope they make a difference. We pray they reach out to the lonely, respect their teachers and peers and I’ve seen firsthand that God can use them regardless of their age. Time has proven that friends reach friends. I pray my kids are used by God every day.

4. LIFE IS FULL OF NOT FAIR MOMENTS. Kids will be kids. Prior to the first day of school I have one son who is still begging me to let him switch to another class. Most of his friends from last year are in a different class and he says they will only see each other during recess. Sorry, but I’ve not shed the first tear. I’ve met his teacher and I know she will treat him right. My response, “Son, life is full of not fair moments. This is not the end of the world.”

5. WHAT REALLY MATTERS? Earlier my wife informed me that according to normal standards our boys were not ready for school. Two of them don’t even have book bags. None of them will be wearing even one new piece of clothing and there are still many school supplies to be purchased. We both looked at each other in that moment and agreed. If that is the greatest concerns we have about our children going into this new school year, we are more than blessed. Our kids are healthy, happy and have all the things that money can’t buy. May God bless every school, teacher, student and home this new school year.

DEER HUNTERS & FOOTBALL FANS

Posted on August 17, 2014     Leave a Comment

     Someone reading this will thank me later. Sadly, we are coming up on that time of the year where passions run high, but many things that matter are neglected. Yes, I’m talking about deer hunting and football season. These two hobbies have proven deadly in many relationships overtime. Please allow me to explain why we must keep these things in perspective.

     One, anything you worship will take you off track. Too much of anything other than Jesus is rarely a good thing. It’s one thing to enjoy something, it’s another thing for your life to revolve around it. Make sure your wife doesn’t feel like she is single, your kids don’t feel you don’t care, and that you don’t make football or deer hunting your God. Neither of these things are worth losing your marriage or missing precious moments with your kids.

     Two, following the crowd will get you into trouble. Too often, men we are being led by others instead of leading. Spending too much time around others who have priority issues will always rub off on you. Without meaning to it’s very easy to get swept away by the strong current around you. Football fans remember it’s just a game. Hunters remember that a deer head hanging on the wall means nothing if you lose the love and respect of your family in the process.

     Finally, make sure you consistently aim for balance. I still remember my wife asking me, “Do you have to watch every game of every team?” This was back when under no circumstance did I want to leave the house if any college football game was on television. I have since learned that all my wife was asking was for me to find a balance. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can enjoy doing something and yet still keep life in perspective.

     Please know these words come from someone who has personally struggled in these areas. I’ve watched way too many guys throw out corn to catch a deer, while at home they are losing their wife. I’ve seen just as many football fans get obsessed with a sport that will always have a winner and loser. Don’t let the things you love, lead you to lose the people you love even more!

I’ve Got To Run Away

Posted on August 3, 2014     Leave a Comment

This week has been long awaited by my entire family. I’m one of those guys who often has just a little too much going on. I can’t even remember what it’s like to not have someone calling my name. I’m a local pastor, hospice chaplain, writer, husband, father and person who never feels there is enough time in the day. I do know this, getting away on vacation is really not an option. Here is why:

#1 We all need time to unwind. For me that only happens when I get away from the normal grind, demand, and temptation of helping just one more person. We all need to set aside time to chill, relax, and learn to breath again. I’ve often said, I can only be as helpful as I am healthy. The person who never slows down is headed for burnout. 

#2: We all need time to refocus. Every time I get away from life’s daily demands, I discover things I’ve really been missing. I realize how much my kids need my undivided attention. I realize that the moments in front of me will never come again. I realize that some things can wait and other’s can’t. I generally come back more focused on things that matter most and not so stressed about the things that don’t.

#3: We all need time to have fun. I’ve always enjoyed a good laugh and having a blast. Sadly, too much of my life in the past has revovled around playing rescue ranger. When we take things too seriously our lives become just one big ball of stress. There are times as a pastor I tell myself I don’t have time to have fun like everyone else. There are too many lost souls and people who need me to be available in there time of need. I still believe in what God has called me to do, but I’m convinced I must live more balanced. You should take life seriously, but you also need moments of absolute fun. Oh, the things we laugh about when me, my wife, and four boys get together. 

#4: We all need time to hear from God. Headed to the beach again this year, I always try to take a few prayer walks by the waves. I find that I hear God’s voice even clearer as I’m not thinking about the next appointment or deadline. We all need times daily and often that we get away and just seek to hear from God. He always speaks to our heart when we wholeheartedly seek his heart. 

#5: We all need to make memories. Memories are made as we make the most of the times we have with each other. None of us are promised tomorrow. Nothing brings a brighter smile than pondering the good old days. Being able to look back and say, I’m glad we did that. Things may change, but memories last a lifetime. One of my goals with every vacation is to make memories that last. 

Well, this article is one of the few things left on my to do list before vacation. By the time some of you read this, I’ll be floating down a lazy river, riding waves, walking down the beach, relaxing, and hopefully making memories that will out live me. 

*You’re always welcomed to join me Sundays 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center. Refuge Church will meet you where you are, encourage your soul, and never leave you the same!

Learning To Slow Down

Posted on July 7, 2014     Leave a Comment

Maybe it’s my age, maybe it’s my body speaking, or maybe I’m just learning that moving at the speed of light is rarely a good thing. I know what it feels like to run every time someone calls your name. To go through life like you’ve got something to prove and always have somewhere you have to be. I’ve concluded that not only do I not like living that way, but it’s not good for me or anyone around me.

Oh you’ve not hit that brick wall. You’re still living on the bandwagon that says busier is better, faster is cooler, and you don’t really have a choice living in this day and age. You know, we live in a world that never sleeps. Businesses continue to expand their hours to keep up. Places like Certain stores and restaurants never close as they feed a culture that prides itself in never sleeping.

I understand we no longer travel by horse and buggy. I realize because of technology advances we can send messages to each other in seconds. That everyone on the planet owns a cell phone and half the world a smart phone. I know we have to keep up with the times, but that doesn’t mean we have to live at a frantic pace. Here are some reasons we all need to learn to slow down.

#1 YOU NEED THE REST. I discovered a long time ago that my body has limits. When I run around like a chicken with my head cut off, it takes a huge toll on my health. Running too fast, for too long always has consequences. It can break you down emotionally, mentally, and physical. God never intended for us to go until we collapse or wind up in the hospital due taking on way more than God ever attended. I can promise you that someone reading this right now is headed for a rude awakening. If you don’t slow down, find a balance, and get proper rest. Your body alone will reveal to you that you weren’t meant to always live on the go and copy everything you see others doing in a very unhealthy American culture.

#2 YOU MISS A LOT. Many while chasing the so called American Dream later wake up to the American nightmare. You wake up and realize you missed your children growing up. You wake and realize you should have spent a lot less time running and a whole lot more before God asking Him to lead you step by step. While you’re chasing the next big thing you could very easily miss all that really matters before you. Don’t live life so fast that you neglect those you love most and miss what matters most. Too many run through life chasing an imaginary prize, while never enjoying the gifts God has already given them.

#3: YOU’RE NOT IN A COMPETITION. Best words every spoken is that life is not a forty yard dash, but a marathon. We’re all on a journey that calls for us to seize the moments God puts in front of us. The best way to live out those moments is one day at a time. You don’t get extra points from God for running faster than everyone else. Life is not meant to be a competition between each other, but instead is about bringing glory to God in all we do and say. This is often impossible to do if we’re running so fast through life we can’t hear God’s voice and can’t enjoy a second.

Please know that I’m not sharing this to preach at you. I’ve just concluded that life is not meant to be some rat race. God doesn’t put on us more than we can handle, but we often do. We have to learn how to say no, slow down, and smell the roses daily. Otherwise we will get burnout, miss a whole lot, and discover that much of our running was totally unnecessary.

(Psalm 46:10) He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

Many have recently visited Refuge Church. If you don’t have a church home and would like to learn how to let God lead your everyday life, come as you are this Sunday 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Rec Center. I promise we’ll change the way you think about church.

10 Ways To Find Out If You’re Normal

Posted on May 18, 2014     Leave a Comment

I run into many people, who feel they are the only ones who feel certain ways. They feel abnormal because they wonder if they are the only ones struggling with certain things. Here are 10 things that might indicate whether you’re normal or not.

#1 You feel like you’re on a non-stop Roller Coaster. Your life feels like a reality show full of unexpected events. One minute things are great and the next it feels like all Hell has broken loose. We’re all on this roller coaster called life that is full of seasons of ups and downs, celebrations, grief, good and bad days.

#2 You worry about things you can’t control. You ponder how you can fix things that you know deep down are far from your control. You wish you could control every moment of everyday, but you’re learning that only God has that power.

#3 You wish you had a money tree. If you’re like the average person, your expenses seem to always outweigh your income. You wonder how you’ll pay that next bill, yet God always provides. Just like He takes care of the birds of the air, he continues to take care of you.

#4 You do care what others think about you. It is perfectly normal to want others to only see the best in you, be proud of you, and applaud your efforts. The reality is we can’t please everyone and in the end only God’s opinion will matter.

#5 You struggle to find balance. Most of us choose to fill every hour of everyday with events. We all fight for balance. Between work, family, and other activities there just never seems to be enough hours in the day. Maintaining balance is something we have to constantly monitor and keep in perspective.

#6 Your marriage feels like work. The only married couples I know that never have problems are either still on their honeymoon or they never see each other. Marriage is always a work in progress. It requires constant prayer, faith, and sweat.

#7 Your kids drive you crazy. If your kids are real little you’re just trying to get some sleep. If you have teenagers, you’re trust trying to survive as their hormones rage. And if you’re kids are grown, you just pray every night they make the right decisions. I’m so glad God loves my children more than me and I can always trust Him to watch over them day and night.

#8 You worry about where this world is headed. The more you watch CNN and Fox News, the more you struggle to sleep at night. Listen, this world has been spiraling out of control and full of sin. God is still God, God is still with us, and God can still change anyone and anything.

#9 You can’t make sense of much. I feel I know enough to be dangerous. I’m certain after reading God’s word what God would have me do in this life. Yet, I still have many questions regarding what I see taking place around me. All I know is God’s ways are higher and I have to trust him with even the things that don’t make sense to me.

#10 You long for total peace. We all want a peace and fulfillment that just can’t be found in this life. Our circumstances will change, people will let us down, and this world will never be perfect. Only Jesus can give us a peace that goes beyond all understanding and will last for all of eternity.

If you read this and can’t identify with any of it, you are abnormal. You evidently aren’t human, have wings on your back, or your first name is Jesus. For those who can relate, may this encourage you in some way.

Pre-Plan Your Funeral

Posted on May 5, 2014     Leave a Comment

     A few years ago, I attempted to pre-plan my own funeral service. I considered who I would have speak, the music that would be played and where I might be buried. I know firsthand those things have importance. However, I concluded I was totally missing one very important truth.  

     If you’ve ever seen a tombstone you’ve seen engraved a birthdate, a dash, and a date of death. Out of these three things, the only one I have control over is my dash. After preaching countless funerals, I’ve concluded that the following things will be evaluated after I draw my last earthly breath.

#1: What Was Your Passion? Did I live for things that really matter or did I spend my time doing things that won’t matter a hill of beans years from now.

#2: What Were Your Priorities? Many might say their faith, their family, and their friends. But, your true priorities will be determined by those around you who see your passions lived out.

#3: What Did You Accomplish? Each of us, are given talents, opportunities, and resources. It is not about comparing ourselves to each other. Did you do all you could, while you could, with what you had?

#4: How Deep Was Your Love? Many details in life will be forgotten. Exact dates and times will not always be remembered. But, a person’s love transcends time and leaves a forever impact. Nothing you will ever share or buy for someone will go further than the gift of your love. Love displays itself through relentless sacrifice, above and beyond effort, and a grace that knows no bounds.

#5: How Did You Finish?  Many feel they have wasted their life. But, as long as God grants you another day there is opportunity to finish strong. Forgive who you need to forgive, let go of what you need to let go, and do what God has called you to do. “Fight the good fight, keep the faith, and finish your race.”

#6: How Many Lives Were Touched? You don’t have to be someone in the spotlight to be someone special. We all have the chance to touch every life we encounter in some way. Who did you make smile? Who did you help out when no one else would? Who found their way to Heaven because you lived out your faith and shared your faith on a daily basis?

#7: Where Are You Now? It’s what goes through everyone’s mind when their love one leaves their sight. Where are there now and how are they doing? Scripture is very clear about how this is determined. Those who choose to believe in Jesus for the forgiveness of their sin and the promise of eternal life in Heaven will be saved. But, those who don’t choose to put their faith and trust in Jesus Christ will bust Hell wide open. God sent Jesus in hopes that you might find salvation.

(John 3:16-18)(ESV) 16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.

     At the end of my life, the only thing that will take place is someone will facilitate my burial, but I will have preached my own funeral.One day, I will make an eternal transition. Life as I know it will be no more. Folks will gather to celebrate and reflect upon my life. All that will matter is what I did with my dash.

If I Was 18 Again

Posted on April 25, 2014     Leave a Comment

  Oh, to be 18 years of age again. Many graduate and think they have arrived. As I watch young people everywhere make careless decisions, I just had to shed some light on this matter. Maybe a young man or woman will benefit from reading this insight. Here are five things I wish I would have realized when I was just 18.

#1: My Parents Aren’t Stupid. Every parent was once a young man or woman. Times may have been a little different when they were your age, but most things are still the same. Your parents have learned things along life’s way that could spare you unnecessary heartache. Listen to their advice and try to learn from their experiences both good and bad.

#2: My Choices Impact Everything. Too many live with a “I can do what I want” mentality. Most young people are just looking for the next thrill or attraction. I can make you this promise. If you follow the majority you will be disappointed. You will find yourself in relationships that lead to heartache. You will make decisions that could haunt you the rest of your life. Your choices today will highly impact your tomorrow.

#3: Friendships Matter. You may have heard of this thing called “peer pressure.” We’re all influenced by what others think, say, and do. One of the most underrated things in life is friendships. We all need them and in some form or fashion we will all have them. Choose your friends wisely, because you will often become like the company you keep. This doesn’t mean you should act like you’re better than everyone else and stick to yourself. But, be careful who you spend most of your time with because it’s a proven fact that “bad company corrupts good character.”

#4: Now Is The Age Of Opportunity. There is a lot of truth in someone saying, “you only live once.” The truth is you are only young once. Those who are between the ages of 18 to 25 have much in front of them. Now is the time to get your education. Now is the time to pray about who God would have you marry. Now is the time to begin with the end of life in mind. Now, are moments that just won’t come again. Enjoy your youth, seize the moments and understand every decision matters.

#5: My Faith Can’t Wait. There is a belief when you’re young that most things can wait. One thing that can’t wait is your faith development. You can make all the plans you would like. You can marry whoever you please. And you can try to play your own God. But, realize that if God is not the foundation for all you pursue disappointment is right around the corner. Regardless of your age, you need a close relationship with God. You need God’s word to shape your thinking and shed light on your way. I encourage you to read your Bible more than your text and Facebook messages. Get involved in a Christ centered church and surround yourself with those seeking God’s good, pleasing and perfect will.

(1 Timothy 4:12) Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.

Young or old, you’re always welcomed at Refuge Church. I guarantee you we will change the way you think about church. www.RefugeChurch.org

When Life Knocks You Down

Posted on March 7, 2014     Leave a Comment

     I still recall the words of a man years ago who had just loss all his family’s belongings in a house fire. He said, “Pastor, I sure would rather be on the other side of things. That is reaching down to help you up.” Over time, I’ve come to understand exactly what this wiser man meant. It’s always tougher when you’re the one down, feeling overwhelmed and not sure what might happen next. We all prefer to feel strong and in control.

     Recently, my back was injured ministering to a grieving family. I’m writing this article after being bedridden for several days and counting. Only God knows how long it will take to heal. It’s definitely not a position I’m used to playing. I’ve been reminded how much your mind goes wild when all you can do is look up at the ceiling. Quite frankly, I feel like “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up.” I now deeply apologize for all the times I made fun of that commercial.

     I’ve ministered to hundreds who have found themselves in unexpected moments and desperately needed to hear words of life. The words I share with you are words I will first digest myself as I find myself down, but not out. Whether you’re a preacher, teacher, mom, dad, or child you will have moments you need to hear the following words of truth.

#1: THIS TOO SHALL PASS. Scripture is clear,  life is full of seasons. Some we wish we didn’t have to endure. Good or bad each season will pass. Difficult seasons can feel like eternity, but time has proven it is still just a season. Sometimes from our view, it’s nearly impossible to see beyond where we are, what we’re going through, and how we’ll ever make it beyond this point. Have no fear, God has a plan, and part of that plan is to use even this season to grow you, strengthen you, and ready you for the next. It doesn’t have to make sense to be totally used by God.

#2: GOD HAS NOT & WILL NOT FORSAKE YOU. Normally the first thought in your mind is “Lord, What have I done to deserve this?” God’s word is clear that hard times come to us all the good, the bad, the rich, the poor, the righteous and sinful. Some things are the consequences of poor decisions and bad choices. Many things occur so that God may continue to prove his unfailing love and faithfulness. One of the greatest promises given to us by God is that He will never leave us, nor forsake us. Regardless of our shortcomings, circumstances, and who abandons us in our greatest time of need. God is with us, for us, and will fight for us.

#3: NOTHING TAKES GOD BY SURPRISE. Ever wonder if what you’re going through is simply an accident? From God’s viewpoint, accidents don’t exist. There is nothing that takes God by surprise. He sees the present and He can already foresee the future. God is never taken off guard, nor can His plans be derailed. God has plans to use even our toughest moments to take us places otherwise impossible. Our circumstances may be ever changing, but our God is never changing.

No matter where life finds you today, tonight, or in the future I pray these words sink deep into your heart. We all battle our own humanity, shake our heads at times, and wonder if God knows what is going on down here. Thank God, He has not and will not ever leave, nor forsake you.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”    – Jeremiah 29:11

A Bus Hit Our Family

Posted on February 5, 2014     2 Comments

Recently, we had a Monday our entire family won’t soon forget. After hearing my wife shout, I lept out of my bed still half asleep. She says, “Help, Boo just got hit by a bus.” I ran as fast as I possibly could to rescue our cocker spaniel who was no match for a school bus. Face to face, I knew things didn’t look too hopeful. I scooped up our beloved furry friend of several years and took him to safety. Within minutes he drew his last breath and that’s when many realities surfaced.

#1 I LOVED THIS DOG. Now, I will quickly admit that I’m not a big time dog lover. I hate dog breath, I hate cleaning up after dogs, and I don’t view dogs as equal with humans. But, as I looked into those eyes one last time, I realized there was an unspoken bond. He always sought to protect us from potential harm. No matter what he was always by my side. He was there when we brought my youngest home from the hospital. He loved the same family I loved. And, deep in my heart I was very grateful for the moments we shared.

#2 MY KIDS LOVED HIM MORE. Nothing hurts more than seeing your kids hurt and cry their eyes out. As we all gathered around Boo’s graveside it was obvious we were burying much more than a family pet. We were saying goodbye to unconditional love, a best friend, and a member of the Crosby family. Written all over their faces was the fact that nothing would ever be quite the same from this point forward. Even though I know time heals all wounds, I knew change was in the air. This would prove itself to be very true as they each struggled to settle down and sleep that night.

#3 HE WILL BE MISSED. Sometimes you think they just cost money, make messes and create extra work. In reality, he provided things in the family that were necessary. In just one day God showed me just how much a dog can mean to a family. Flooding through my mind are countless memories Boo shared with our family. I recall how much He looked after us all. I watched him form an undeniable bond with each of my boys. On more than a few occasions I watched my three year old hug this furry critter to death. I can still recall the day we brought Boo home and how excited the family was about this new family addition.

#4 THERE IS A DOGGY HEAVEN.  Nowhere in the Bible does it say an animal has a soul. But, it does make clear that God created every living creature. Why would God create something or someone he doesn’t plan to care for? No, I don’t think an animal has to know Jesus in order to go to Heaven. And, I don’t think any animal has an eternal soul. But, somewhere within me I believe there is a doggy Heaven. That there is a place where there is no more hurt, pain, suffering or goodbyes. A place just the opposite of what Boo or any of us have observed while living on this earth.

#5 HEALING TAKES TIME. Sure, I know we just lost a dog, not a person. And, I know many tougher losses will follow. But, for now it hurts to say goodbye. Most of my grieving is not even over the dog. I grieve for my kids, the changes that will follow and all the trigger moments sure to come. As with any loss, you are reminded that only God knows what tomorrow will bring. You are reminded that what lies in front of you is never guaranteed. And, you’re reminded that healing is never an event, but always a process of moving forward one step at a time.

     Well, I can just hear the mixed reviews over this article. The preacher must have lost his mind writing a full article about losing a pet. In ways I can’t explain, God used this dog to speak to my heart. To remind me that life is precious and tomorrow is not promised. To remind me that many things we take for granted today will be seen as priceless blessings tomorrow. Well, scripture does say that confession is the beginning of healing, so I feel better already. To Boo and all the pets that have left us, we will see you later dear friends.

*Pastor Craig Crosby invites you to join him on Sundays 10:30a.m. @ the Colleton Recreation Center (280 Recreation Lane, Walterboro, SC). Refuge Church will “Change The Way You Think About Church.”

The Freaks Come Out At Night

Posted on December 31, 2013     Leave a Comment

     There is no doubt in my mind that most can relate. You go to lay your head down to sleep and then your mind goes wild. You do your best to count sheep, but all you can do is ponder stress. Flooding through your head is what you didn’t do, what others might think, and all that could happen next. I think there is a lot of truth to “An idle mind is a devil’s work shop.” You must know the freaks come out at night. Here are some truths to counter the lies and settle your spirit.
     First of all, only what God thinks really matters. People waste way too much time wondering how they are viewed by others. At the end of the day, God will issue your report card. If you know in your heart you’ve done your best, you can rest in peace. When you know your motives are pure and efforts were great you can rest in knowing God sees what may appear unnoticed. I learned a long time ago that pleasing everyone is not possible. Instead, all I can do is my best and trust God with the rest.
     Secondly, often times the ghosts are just in your head. Your own lack of self -confidence leads you to rip your own self apart. Your desire to be in control makes you unsettled because you know you’re not. Your unhealthy perspective of others and yourself makes you jump to ridiculous conclusions. Instead of counting sheep you keep chasing rabbits. What if this, what if that, and why this and why that. The reason it’s so important to meditate on God’s word day and night is so you can chase out the lies with the truth. Knowing who you are and whose you are in Christ can keep you from being overwhelmed by an identity crisis.
     Finally, the freaks come at night when we choose to ponder the negative over the praiseworthy. What we watch on television (such as CNN), what music we listen to, and what conversation we’re exposed to can easily rattle our spirits. We can shift from feeling everything is wonderful to everything is awful in just minutes. You must guard your heart and mind from things that will only provoke freakish thoughts.
     This post comes from a man who has many times been up late pondering. Pondering is a good thing when we seek to allow God to examine our hearts. However, restlessness associated with constant worry and negative thought processing is never God’s will for your life. Be still and know God is God. Know that God is in control. Know God will meet all your needs. Know that you will never be perfect this side of Heaven, but God still loves and forgives you. Know that no matter how long you live the freaks will come out at night. Have no fear because God is here!

     Jesus says, “Come unto me all who are weary and heavy burdened and I will give you rest.”

Cry Your Eyes Out

Posted on December 26, 2013     1 Comment

     I’ve always been a pretty sensitive guy. My heart goes out to anyone going through a tough time. I hate to see another person hurting and I’m always looking for a way to lend a helping hand. While my compassion for others has only grown over time, I’ve found that I don’t cry very often. I guess God knew I was in need of a flood of tears.
     I deal with so many crisis situations that nothing surprises me anymore. Broken marriages, suicidal souls, terminally ill patients, and those struggling to keep their lights on is a daily reality. However, I’ve learned that we’ve all got limits as to the amount of crisis we can intake. Recently, I reached my maximum capacity of grief and only prayer, processing, and tears could get me through this time.
     I’ve heard some very ignorant people say “real men don’t cry.” Well, I prefer not to be a real man if that is the case. Tears literally flush the soul. Often we try to stop the tears from falling. Many tell friends and family to suck it up and deal with it. Yes, we all have to deal with what is in front of us. But, part of dealing with it is working through the hurt, the pain, and heartache associated with this life.
    So many things in this life leave you speechless and overwhelmed. At that moment, you must surround yourself with necessary support. Scripture tells us two or better than one because when one is down the other can pick him up. You have to find someone who cares about you and can journey with you through your griefs. There is nothing worse than feeling like you’re in a dark hole all alone. Call your momma, your daddy, your best friend, whoever you know cares, but call somebody.
    As you process your feelings and faith, don’t be afraid to cry. The tears say you are dealing with the pain. The tears are God’s way of flooding out of your system the things that have built up over time. Deep grief strikes you when you least expect it. Like a virus that has just surfaced, you are suddenly emotionally distraught. You know in your heart that you will feel so much better if you just cry a river.
    I guess I just saw and heard too much. My heart was crushed as I felt helpless to deal with the needs around me. I could feel the tears swelling within my soul. I knew I had reached my limit. Suddenly, I just had to pull on the side of the road and cry my eyes out. I could hear God’s voice saying, “My child, just get it out, I’m here for you and its going to be ok.” I cried, I prayed and I felt so much better after that Heavenly cleansing. Maybe you just need to cry it out. I promise you will feel better afterwards. I’m certain God is pro-tears. John 11:35 says even “Jesus wept.”

What Are You Worried About?

Posted on December 6, 2013     Leave a Comment

For some reason, worry always seems to catch us off guard. Just when it seems like things are going well and life feels in control. Suddenly, you run into another moment that leaves you feeling uncertain and wondering how you can make it through what lies ahead. You would think with enough life experience we would know we’ll be alright, but we still have to remind ourselves.

A. God is God. Just because I’m in panic mode doesn’t mean God has left his throne. All I see is what I see, all I feel is what I feel, and all I know is what I know. Thankfully, there is a God and I’m not Him. He is still all knowing, all powerful, and always in control. No matter the situation and how things might seem, God is never taken by surprise. How settling it is to know that God is still God.

B. God is Here. I may feel alone in the battle, but God is always by my side. He has promised to never leave, nor forsake me. Even if I’ve made mistakes, made the wrong choices, and everyone appears to have abandoned me. God has not and will not leave my side. What a comfort to know that regardless where life takes me, God will never leave me.

C. God is Faithful. Over time I’ve learned that pondering God’s faithfulness in the past can bring much peace in the present. Has God ever not been there? NO. Has God ever not worked things out? NO. Has God always provided a way, a means, and a how to carry me through the present struggle? Absolutely YES. The same God who has proven Himself faithful in the past will prove faithful in the present and future.

 Jesus said, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” -Matthew 6:31-34

Read Before “Black Friday”

Posted on November 4, 2013     1 Comment

Every Man For Himself

I’m afraid we’re only a few weeks away. That dreaded day when blood is shed and no one is safe with a shopping cart. It’s the busiest shopping day of the year, the day after Thanksgiving. I’m hoping to get this message to you before the madness begins and it’s too late. Forget about black Friday, I’m worried about broke Monday.

Now, I think it’s important you know that I have four boys ages 14, 12, 10, & 3 that can’t wait for Christmas. In fact, they can’t wait for Santa to come down that chimney bearing all kinds of gifts. Now, I can’t tell Santa what to do with his money, but I would like to spare you some unnecessary heartache when it comes to your holiday purchases. Here are three ways to save money this Christmas.

 #1: Set Limits. I don’t know how much money you make or how much you spend for Christmas. However, I do know the average American spends WAY too much money buying Christmas gifts. Don’t tell me you can’t pay your light bill, then go out and buy your son a brand new 4Wheeler. Every year people who are broke head out and spend money like its water. Listen, Christmas should be a blessing to your family, not a burden. If what you buy creates more stress, gives you less time together, and gets your lights cut off then Houston I think we’ve got a problem. Honestly, I don’t think my wife and I have ever spent more than $100 per child for Christmas. There have been times where $50 per child was our limit. You need to set limits, stick to them, and throw away those plastic cards that you call money.

2: Resist The Peer Pressure. So many people say they don’t care what other people think, but everything they do speaks otherwise. Who cares if your neighbor buys their child a huge flat screen? Who cares if the rest of your family buys laptops like they are blow pops? Who cares what anyone else does? Most who spend outrageous amounts for Christmas can’t afford it either, but their mind tells them they have no choice. You do have a choice and you can choose to be responsible. Don’t be compelled by outside pressures that you have to spend a certain amount of money for this Christmas to be great.

3: Let Jesus Take Center Stage. Manger Scenes will find themselves in many homes during this time of the year. Many will say “Remember the reason for the Season.” Yet, many will turn around and make Christmas all about being busy and buying lots of things that don’t have to be purchased. Listen, the average child I know does not need another toy, a new phone or a laptop. The average child needs to know they are loved unconditionally by you and Jesus. When we make Christmas all about the gifts, we overlook the greatest gift. That gift did not cost you anything, but cost God everything. His only son Jesus.

We all need to know that if we never receive another gift in our lives, the greatest gift has already been given. He was born in a manger, lived on this earth, and died on a cross for our sins. Through Jesus we have the promise of eternal life in Heaven and peace on this earth no matter what life throws our way. “She will bear a Son; and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.” -Matthew 1:21

Can’t Take Much More?

Posted on October 17, 2013     1 Comment

You wonder just how much more you can take. Your strength is gone, troubles surround you, and you wish you could catch your breath. Every direction you look there is something you can’t control. One more thing and you will certainly collapse under the stress. What should you do at this point? I can’t exactly tell you, but here are some things you should know.

#1 YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Often we think we’re the only ones with trials and troubles. At some point, we start thinking we must have done something wrong and God is punishing us. Yes, poor decisions bring consequence. However, difficulty comes to us all. The rich, poor, right, or wrong all face a daily dose of challenges. Jesus told “In this life we would have trouble, but to take heart because he has overcome this life.”

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.” – 1 Peter 5:8-9

#2 THIS TOO SHALL PASS. I’ve found it comforting to know that everything this side of Heaven is simply a season. Things won’t always be this way. You won’t always feel what you feel right now. (Revelation 21:4) Tells us
One day, there will be no more hurt, pain, heartache, or suffering. For the old order of things will have passed away. “     

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens” – Ecclesiastes 3:1

#3 GOD IS WITH YOU. One of the greatest promises made to every believer is that God is with us. He is with us through the good, bad, and ugly. God has promised to never leave, nor forsake you. You may feel you’re sitting in that bed crying tears alone, but God is there holding you. You may feel you are in a battle all by yourself, but God is fighting for you. You may lose everything and everyone that you hold dear in this life, but God will never leave your side. Write it down, bank on it, and don’t ever forget it.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10

#4: GOD WILL SUPPLY YOUR EVERY NEED. Whether its strength, protection, provision, patience, or an outright miracle God will supply your every need. I had doubts recently about some things and God reminded me of some things. “Who gave you that job? Who gave you those children? Who kept that car running? Who paid those bills before? Who made a way where there seemed to be no way? Who? At that moment, my faith was strengthened by knowing that God has and always will supply my every need.

“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19

If you’re like most, life has knocked you down a time or two. Especially in the lowest of valleys we have to know God is with us, He will supply our every need, our struggles will not last forever, and we’re not the only ones with problems. Hope this has encouraged you in some way.

For weekly encouragment with other believers join me @ Refuge Church. We meet every Sunday night 6p.m. @ the Colleton Recreation Center. (280 Recreation Lane, Walterboro, SC 29488)

Just say “Thank You”

Posted on October 8, 2013     Leave a Comment

Recently, I received a note from someone I had the joy of helping this past year. As I read their thoughtful words it reminded me that a simple “Thank You” still has power. Just as much as kids these days need to be taught to respect their elders, all of us need to know the importance of saying “Thank You.” I’m hoping these words prompt you to say a more than deserved “thank you” to someone who’s blessed your life. Here is why…

“Thank You” says I’m grateful for what you’ve done. Don’t ever assume those around you feel appreciated. From the total stranger that stopped to help you in your time of need. To the family member or friend who has always been by your side. Hearing your words of thankfulness is the least you can do to let them know their efforts were not in vain.

“Thank You” breathes life into a possible weary soul. Sometimes we feel that we’re just wasting time and making little difference. A sincere thank you has a way of picking up a person’s soul and motivating them to keep on keeping on. Your letter, email, phone call or personal words could be just what someone needs to gain a second wind. Your “thank you” will motivate someone to continue being a blessing.

“Thank You” confirms that a life has been touched. In a world full of negative news and things that need to change. Nothing feels better when you lay your head down at night than knowing you touched someone’s life. Believing that someone, somewhere has a smile on their face and joy in their heart because of your contribution to their life. A thank you becomes a keeps sake that is forever in a person’s heart.

Don’t ever forget the power of saying “Thank You.” Someone could be on the verge of quitting their job and your simple, sincere thanks could change their mind. A thank you cost you nothing, but still matters much in a world that tries it’s best to steal our self-worth. Whether it be a pastor, teacher, friend, parent, grandparent, or someone you just met when a thank you is deserved, a thank you should be given.

“Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Carolina or Clemson: Who’s Better?

Posted on September 28, 2013     Leave a Comment

This time of year, you are bound to run into someone who is passionately cheering on their favorite college team. Here in the state of South Carolina its either “Go Gamecocks” or “Go Tigers”. If you’re standing beside a passionate fan you can bet they will quickly let you know where their allegiance stands. I’m a huge Gamecock Fan and my older brother is a full blooded Tiger maniac. We both would do anything for each other, but when the two teams play in late November there is no doubt who we’re each cheering for. Now, here is what I know about most passionate fans.

1: You are loud and proud. Passionate fans are known for doing things out of the ordinary. No telling what they might wear on their head, paint on their body, or yell until they’re hoarse. They are full of team spirit and they hope to convince the world that their team is the best.

2: You will do anything to watch the game. You show me a guy who loves his team and I will show you a guy who will just about do anything to watch his team play. Outrageous prices are paid for tickets and parking. Schedules are rearranged and many special events are missed all for the sake of the game. To the passionate fan, watching the game is not an option.

3: You will do whatever it takes to support your team. The passionate fan makes great sacrifices to see his team succeed. He gladly gives up time, money, and even certain relationships in hopes that his team gets a victory.

This all got me thinking about the people of God. Where is the passion? Where is the sacrifice? Where is the relentless commitment that it will take for us to the reach the world for Jesus Christ? Believers, we are all on the same team. Churches we are all on the same mission.

I’m convinced that believers everywhere must rise up and live passionately for their God. Believers everywhere must become willing to do whatever it takes to build the kingdom of God. Believers everywhere must come off the bench and get wholeheartedly in the game. Otherwise, we will continue to see our churches decline and this world will continue to fall apart. Why? Because we’ve lost our passion for what matters most and many actually think a football team winning is more important than soul winning. What is your greatest passion?

“Jesus said,  “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. … Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be. … – Luke 12:34

What No One Wants

Posted on July 24, 2013     Leave a Comment

Recently, I started back working out at the gym. I’m not as young as I once was, but I still enjoy playing sports. The other day I went out to play a game of pickup basketball. It was pretty obvious to me that the young guys had no plans of putting this old man on their team. I left that evening never having played a game, but most of all remembering what it feels like to not be picked. No, I didn’t go home and cry tears on my pillow, but God did use this to remind me what everyone on earth is feeling deep within.

 #1: NO ONE WANTS TO BE LEFT OUT.                       

I observe many people (adults included) who are not mindful of those around them. All they seem to care about is getting higher up the ladder and in the game themselves. Nothing could be further from what God would have us to do. God’s will is that we always be mindful and sensitive of the thoughts and feelings of others. It’s called the golden rule which was created by Jesus who said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” I don’t care what you’re doing you should always seek to be as inclusive as possible. The opposite of this would be called Selfish.

#2: NO ONE WANTS TO FEEL WORTHLESS.           

Our job as God’s ambassadors is to come along side, encourage, and inspire those around us to understand just how crazy God is about them. God created you, formed you in your mother’s womb, and God doesn’t make accidents or junk. Making people feel like they don’t measure up, aren’t good enough, and below your level does nothing to make this world a better place. Doing this only makes that person feel worthless, when they are indeed priceless in God’s eyes.

#3:  NO WANTS TO NOT BE ACCEPTED.

Many people will do many things they would not otherwise do just to feel loved and accepted by others. They just want to fit in, be normal, and most of all feel accepted by others. Unfortunately, many people create clubs and clicks that are for certain members only. God wants us to love people just the way they are, unconditionally, with no strings attached. God never operates out of favortism and neither should we at anytime. If you like to be selective in who you accept into your made up club, shame on you. I pray you’ll consider the impact it has on so many.

I do have great news for all who at some point will feel left out, worthless, or not accepted. God loves you just the way you are. God sent his only son Jesus to die on a cross because your soul is priceless to him. My friend, if you choose to accept God’s grace and believe in Jesus as your Savior, God will gladly accept you into His kingdom.

“For God so loved the world that He gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life.” – John 3:16

What Defines Success?

Posted on July 22, 2013     Leave a Comment

I don’t believe there is a person on the planet who wants to be considered a failure. Unfortunately, there are many who feel they have failed and even more that have a wrong perspective of success. Please allow me to explain myself.

For many, success is having more than everyone else around them. A better job, a bigger house, a nicer car, and being a person that others just wish they could be like. We live in a very competitive culture where everyone is fighting for top dog, wants to win the lottery, and just simply believes that bigger is better. The more I have the more successful I have become. Unfortunately, many who have chased this idea of the American dream have discovered that it has little to do with success or true happiness.

Then there are those who just stay busy. They want others to see their many accomplishments and popularity. They want be a part of every club, win every type of award, and surround themselves with trophies that make them feel better about themselves. It’s as if life is one big pageant and they have to win the crown. After all, we all know there can only be one winner and the rest are losers.

We don’t say that, but that’s the way culture presents it. Only problem with this is it would mean not everyone can achieve success. After all, there is only one champion and we can’t win every competition. So, this measure of success leaves many feeling unsuccessful.

Finally, there are those who think that success is all about who works the hardest. If I just try harder and spend longer hours working harder success will come. Sorry, but worker harder alone does not determine success. I actually think many try hard every day to accomplish great things only to still feel empty, sized up by humanity, and still feeling like a failure. This brings me to this very important question we all must wrestle with, “What Defines Success?” I think I’ve got a good idea if you’re interested.

Success is relative to who you are, where you are, and what God has called you to do in this life. In other words, success is going to look different in each of our lives, but the process is the same for everyone. Success according to God’s word is completely dependent upon you surrendering everything to God. This is more than you just asking God for His blessing, but a sincere act of the heart.

(Proverbs 16:3) says, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” In other words, seek His way, His path, and His will in your everyday life.

This and this alone is the measure of success. My dad used to sing a song when I was a child that said, “When it’s all been said and it’s all been done. He will ask you, “Did you go my way child? Did you know my son?” The “He” being referred to here is God our creator, the one who breathed life into us all, and has destined each of us for greatness.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you, not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

Too many times we take the present and the future into our own hands. We determine our own measure of success and we march to the beat of our own drum. But, the Bible is clear that at the end of this life we will each give an account of ourselves to God. Therefore, only what God thinks will matter in the end and measure success.

When you die, it won’t matter how much money you have in the bank. It won’t matter how many friends thought you were a success. But, your success will be determined by what God told you to do and your response to His orders. Did you go where He wanted you to go, do what he wanted you to do, and say what He wanted you to say?

Maybe in the past you’ve done things your way and tried to play your own God. My friend, God is rich in mercy and is more than willing to forgive your sin. You can turn things over to God right now and begin a new journey. But, if you let this world determine your definition of success you will end up brokenhearted and disappointed in the end.

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” – Proverbs 16:3

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When You Can’t Take Anymore

Posted on July 16, 2013     Leave a Comment

If I had a penny for every time I’ve heard these words, “I just don’t know how much more I can take.” Of course, this is often an indication that someone is about to either blow up or experience a nervous breakdown. Someone reading this right now is feeling like they’re going to crumble if just one more thing happens. I hope you’ll keep reading.

Before I go any further, you need to know that you are not alone. We all have limits and we all face adversity. Jesus told us that “In this life we will have trouble.” As long as you breathe there will always be trouble. Every day you wake up you will face challenges from sun up to sun down. It is a great misconception to think that the chaos around you will completely come to an end. Many things transpire that we have no control over, but we must learn to cope.

One, you must understand that God uses adversity to shape us, grow us, and bring glory to himself. None of us enjoy storms, but each one is an opportunity to grow. To grow in our perspective of what really matters most. To grow in our realization that we aren’t in control and never will be. And, to grow in our faith that God will always be there for us. Even if all else fails God will not let you go and He will even use the chaos around you. That is if you let Him!

Secondly, you need to understand that your response to life’s adversity does matter. Go ahead and scream, cry, and pour your heart out to God. The first place to turn is your Heavenly Father who loves you more than anyone, who is big enough to handle all your emotions and powerful enough to calm every storm. The first storm God wants to calm is the one raging within you. You must choose to trust God totally with all that is weighing so heavily on your heart and mind. You can choose to fall apart or you can choose to fall on your knees. God promises to lift up and restore those who humble themselves before him. I can speak from firsthand experience that God will give you the strength you need and the peace that nowhere else can be found.

Thirdly, you need to understand that God doesn’t make mistakes. Yes, everything happens for a reason and in his hands everything becomes an appointment, not an accident. Sure, we will continue to make mistakes. But, God’s grace is sufficient and His mercies are new every day. Don’t over analyze everything that has happened in your past, that is happening in the present, and that could happen in your future. Trust God to be God, lay all your burdens at his feet, and move forward by seeking His good, pleasing, and perfect will.

Listen to me, when it comes to finding peace there is only one way it can be found. It’s not found by more money in the bank, a new house, a new job, or a better family. The only way to find peace in this life is to enter into a relationship with Jesus Christ, God’s son who gave his life for you. He will not disappoint, He will not forsake, and He will supply all your needs. Giving you just what you need when you feel you can’t take anymore.

Jesus said, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

Can’t You Do Something?

Posted on June 30, 2013     Leave a Comment

Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’m just too worked up about other people’s business. But, it still keeps me up at night, on my knees daily, and sometimes in tears when I consider how most people live on this earth. Maybe I should just live carefree like many, mind my own business, and let those around me worry about themselves. Only one problem, the Jesus in me won’t let me.

My friends I would be lying if I said I’m not upset about many around me who act like they could care less about their fellow man. Can’t you see that family in need? Can’t you at least take time to listen to that person who is dying inside? Can’t you try to share Jesus with that soul that was not brought up around the truth? Can’t you do something other than sit there like you have nothing to offer?

The Bible tells us that our attitudes and our actions are to be the same as that of Christ Jesus. Jesus loves people more than anything. Red, yellow, black and white they are precious in his sight. Jesus lived a life of unselfishness. Jesus considered others needs before his own. Jesus went out of his way to do what he could for every hurting, helpless, and harassed soul he encountered. He was moved by compassion, genuine love for people, and the need that was before him. If you aren’t daily seeking ways that you can be a blessing to others it’s likely because of one of the following things.

One, you aren’t opening your eyes. The needs are everywhere and God wants to use you to answer someone’s prayer. Two, you have grown cold to what you’ve seen around you. I sincerely believe it’s not awareness, but true Christ like compassion that moves one to action. If you’ve become calloused to the needs around you then you need to ask God to awaken your heart. Even most churches have quit trying to reach beyond themselves. That is one of the reasons no one is running to many of those churches. Thirdly, many are just too busy. If you’re too busy to help others then you are too busy. Loving your neighbor should be a lifestyle, not an event. Your church shouldn’t have to sponsor an event for you to do a good deed. You simply need to look for ways to show God’s love and be Jesus where you live, work, and play.

Well, I pray this article does one thing for sure. Moves you, moves me, and move others to reach out to our neighbor. Take the time to do what will not only bring a smile to their face, but warm your heart in the process. After all, I think you can do something to help.

Keys To “REAL RELATIONSHIPS”

Posted on June 18, 2013     Leave a Comment

My friends, some things you have to see to believe. Others things you have to hear to understand. Most people have surface relationships, not real relationships. Recently, I was reminded how real fellowship with one another takes place. It has nothing to do with where you’ve come from, where you are, or who you are with at the time. A forever bond is created between two or more folks when the following principles are at work.

#1: There Must Be REALNESS.

Whether at church, at home, at work, or driving in a car with a friend you can’t have closeness without realness. Being real requires that you acknowledge the truth and the war that is within you. If you’re hurting you say it. If you’re mad you admit it. And, if you care you show it. Realness is the process of taking off your mask, letting down your hair, and discussing life as it really is the good, the bad, and the ugly. If realness is not present all you’ve done is gathered together, but realness will bring you together. Not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Realness is the beginning of real relationship. It’s the beginning of you connecting your life story with someone else’s story.

#2:  There Must Be BROKENNESS

Talking to anyone who is full of themselves is rarely a pleasant experience. Only brokenness can put us all on the same level. When a group of broken people come together we each share hurt, pain, and disappointment in common. No one feels better than anyone to their right or left. Because we each realize that we are each broken just in different ways. Brokenness levels the playing field and knocks down the barriers of pride that often stands between us.

#3:  There Must Be CONFESSION.

Scripture tells us that confession brings healing. It also brings us one step closer in our knowledge and understanding of one another. You can’t have a deep relationship with anyone until they know your story and you know their story. We must not be afraid to bear our soul to those around us if we expect to have quality relationships. Our past ups and downs shape us into the people we have become. And our confession of our struggles and stress help those around us know who they are really dealing with. Only through confession can the barrier of misunderstanding start to be removed.

#4:  There Must Be UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Unconditional Love must be present in order for friends or family to feel safe in bearing their soul to another. In order for real relationships to be cultivated there must be a lavishing of God’s grace, forgiveness, and sincere compassion. When someone shares their sorrows, struggles, or frustrations there should be no pointing of fingers or casting of stones. Condemnation will push us apart, but love will pull us together.

#5:  There Must Be CHRIST

Every church and every group of people is full of differences. We all have many different interests and preferences. There are so many things that can separate us from oneness. Jesus Christ creates a bridge like nothing else. We must all see ourselves created by, loved by and accountable to the same God. We must each recognize our need for Jesus Christ our Savior. And, we must understand that Christ wants us to love one another, walk with one another, and encourage one another in this journey called life.

My friends, these principles are critical in producing real relationships anywhere and anytime. These work at home, church, school, your workplace, or with total strangers. Wherever these principles don’t exist there will only be surface and superficial relationship. I personally want no part in any relationship that is not real and rewarding to all involved. Because how can you have a “real relationship” when you’re not able to be real with each other?

3 Things God Hates

Posted on June 14, 2013     Leave a Comment

I actually encountered each of these things today in one form or another. These aren’t the only three things that we should be concerned about, but they should definitely top each of our list.

 #1: God hates RACISM. 

I don’t care what you’ve been through or how you feel about other races. God hates racism and any favoritism for that matter. Even as churches we reflect a segregated culture. Did you know Sunday mornings is still the most segregated time in America? God created every soul and ever soul matters to God. We must refuse to allow racism to grow roots in our hearts, in our families, and for sure in our churches.

“My dear brothers and sisters,how can you claim to have faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ if you favor some people over others?” (James 2:1)

 #2: God hates SELFISHNESS.

I’m so tired of seeing people hurt, relationships ruined and families torn apart because of people only concerned with their own selfish desires. Dads, Moms, Brothers, and Sisters, we must get over ourselves. Don’t allow greed, bitterness, and your own selfish agenda to ruin what matters most. I meet families every week who are torn apart over a family estate or because someone simply chose to go their own selfish way. We must refuse to be selfish, pig headed fools otherwise it will ruin countless lives.

#3: God hates PEOPLE DYING AND GOING TO HELL.

I left a patient’s house today with a heavy heart. I knew from talking with him before that he was raised in a Godless home. Never did he go to church in over  80 something years of his life. Now with only days or weeks left to live, I pray that He chooses to accept Jesus into his heart. I’ve done my very best to share and show God’s love to him and his family. But, the wall around his heart is as thick as I’ve ever encountered. However, I can’t just stand by and do nothing knowing this man is in for a very rude awakening. I must pray earnestly and do my very best to lead this man to Jesus. Why, because Jesus went to the greatest degree to make a way for his salvation.

Each of us must realize that 7 out of 10 in this world don’t know Jesus. As Believers we have all been called by God to spread the good news that Jesus died, Jesus cares, and Jesus Saves. There should not be a day that goes by that we don’t each share Jesus with at least one lost soul.

^“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.” (John 3:16-18)

When Life Throws A Curve Ball

Posted on June 12, 2013     2 Comments

     Recently, my oldest son Matthew spent eight days at MUSC Children’s Hospital. The surgery had been expected for months to repair his sunken chest, but what would happen next was not expected. Sure, I knew in my mind his recovery would be painful and the results would be worth it. What I didn’t expect was seeing my son, holding his chest, struggling to breathe, while begging for relief. I felt helpless and overwhelmed as the man in the recovery room said, “I’m sorry sir, but this is one of the most painful procedures we do here. Right now there is nothing else we can do to ease his pain.” It was at that point that I left his mom by his side, while I took a much needed prayer walk.

     Obviously things worked out because my 13yr old son is home and recovering well. But, at that moment, I felt rocked to the core, powerless, and all I could do was fall on my knees. I have a feeling that many of you have been there and will likely find yourself there again. Whether you’ve watched a loved one suffer, watched life as you once knew it disappear, or experienced firsthand some other unexpected life crisis. This I know, it always feels different when things happen in your own backyard.

     I must admit, I was a bit disappointed in my own crisis management skills. As a pastor and hospice chaplain, I have been by the bedside of so many experiencing every imaginable kind of life crisis. However, none of those experiences seemed to help when faced with my own crisis. As I sought to gather myself and find peace amidst the uncertainty, here are the only things that brought me through the storm.

#1 GOD IS STILL THERE. We may feel alone, but we’re never alone. We may wonder where God is at the moment, but the truth is He has never left our side. “God is our place of safety. He gives us strength. He is always there to help us in times of trouble.”(Psalm 46:1)

#2 GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL. When life as we know it comes unglued we are tempted to come unglued as well. Quickly, we can find ourselves in panic mode and feeling like everything is spiraling out of control. That’s when our faith must not be in our limited ability, but God’s unlimited ability. “Jesus said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” (Mark 10:27)

#3 GOD IS STILL AT WORK. It’s hard to see when caught up in the moment. But, God is always at work even when man says there is nothing more that can be done. One of the most quoted scriptures found in God’s word is Proverbs 3:5-6 which says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

#4 GOD STILL HAS A PLAN. I’m a firm believer that there are no accidents, only appointments. What takes us totally by surprise never takes God by surprise. All our days are numbered and life’s moments are orchestrated by a God who holds today and tomorrow in his hands. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

#5 GOD IS STILL GOD. Nothing settles the soul more than knowing that God is still God. God is ALL knowing, ALL powerful, ALL loving, Always there and ALWAYS able to do immeasurably more than we could ever dream or imagine. “He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” (Psalm 46:10)

Life is full of ups and downs. There are times when you really don’t know what hit you. A sudden and unexpected storm can send shock waves to your heart. Before you know it your mind is flooded with uncertain thoughts as you quickly find yourself somewhere you’ve never been before. These are some things we must each remember when life throws us a curve ball.

Why God Likes Facebook

Posted on June 3, 2013     Leave a Comment

Back in 2004, Facebook had only 1 million active members. That number has grown to well over 1 Billion active users here in 2013. Many children, teenagers, adults, moms, dads, and even grandparents are daily posting pictures and comments for the world to see. Many on the outside looking in can’t make sense of all the craziness, but I actually think God likes Facebook.

#1: Facebook brings people together.

We live in a world that does everything possible to tear us apart from family and friends. Facebook is doing all it can to reunite us to our friends and loved ones. With just a few clicks we can see what’s going on in the lives of many we could never visit in one day. Considering the fact that God never meant for man to do life alone, I believe Facebook does as good of job as any at bringing us all together.

#2: Facebook encourages many people.

As I write this, I am sitting by the hospital bed of my 13 year old son, who is recovering from a major surgery. Through Facebook, I am encouraged by countless folks letting me know they are thinking of us and praying for us. As I share updates, others are able to share words that lift me up and keep me feeling we are not alone in this journey called life. You can bet that anyone on Facebook will receive many more birthday wishes than the ones without an account.

#3: Facebook touches a lot of lives.

Facebook gets messages out quicker than CNN. It makes us aware of someone passing, someone having a hard day, or someone celebrating a memorable event. Our church Facebook page Refuge Walterboro connects us with at least 2,000 folks weekly. I can’t speak for everyone, but I know personally that Facebook touches hearts and souls. I’ve actually read posts before that moved me to tears and a better life perspective. As people share life changing stories, post meaningful scriptures, and choose to communicate positive messages the world becomes a better place. Trust me, people read your posts and you never know how a soul is touched by your post.

#4: Facebook keeps people connected.

Not only does Facebook bring us together, but it keeps us together. It has become a network that has drawn over one billion folks together. Through pictures, messages, and life events we are often brought together. At times we rally together for causes greater than ourselves. When life is too busy we’re able to make a quick post that lets someone know we’re thinking about them. Through Facebook we can keep in touch with classmates, friends and family no matter how far we live apart. You feel sometimes like you’re able to see into the hearts and lives of each other. It keeps us connected as we share life’s ups and downs with one another.

#5: Facebook gives my Grandma something to do.

I use to think, “Why would my Grandma want to be on Facebook?” Now, I think, “Why Not?” Even if a person can’t leave their home, is bed bound, or can’t speak Facebook becomes a great wayt to connect with others. I still can’t believe my last living Grandparent just joined the Facebook family. When my Grandma friend requested me recently, I really did think it was a sign of the end times. Now, I just see it as a sign of the times. I think Grandma finally decided that even God likes Facebook.

Tribute To Big J.O.E.Y.

Posted on May 23, 2013     2 Comments

I’ve been a part of a few hundred funerals, but none more inspiring than recent. Cars lined the street and the parking lot was full as many gathered to celebrate a man who touched so many lives. Death never comes at a welcome time when you lose someone you love, but there is no doubt this man left plenty behind. His wife should feel loved, his children should be proud, and his friends should thank God just to have known him. I wanted to reshare some of the words I spoke at his funeral that came from the heart. Feel free to add comments below that many can read for years to come!

Joey was a man as many would say, with a BIG HEART. He loved his family.He loved his friends.And, he even loved total strangers. As a pastor, celebrating a pastor. I felt compelled to share either 3 points and an invitation or use an acrostic to share with you what God has put on my heart. I chose the acrostic, J.O.E.Y. To describe this dearly loved man of God.

The J stands for JOLLY.

Joey loved to laugh and to have a good time. He often had some joke to share and could find some reason to laugh with you, for you, or at you. I can see Joey’s smiling face right now.Dressed up like Jolly Old Saint Nick. With a child on each leg, grinning from ear to ear. (Proverbs 17:22) A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.

 The O stands for ON A MISSION.

Joey was not a perfect man, but there was never a doubt in my mind that He had been called by God to preach the gospel. Everywhere he went he lived ON A MISSION. I know his family had to make many sacrifices and endure many hardships because of this mission. Joey took very seriously God’s call into the ministry. And, he was not your average pastor. He had a sincere love for the down and out,those who were fatherless, those who were struggling, and most of all those who were lost. I guarantee you there is someone here today who is a better man or a better woman because Joey Branch lived ON A MSSION. Joey and I had many conversations that were dominated by the theme…How Could We Touch One More Life…..And ignite others to do the same. Joey lived to make this truth known. (John 3:16) For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

 The E stands for ENCOURAGING.

I’ve seen Joey when he was up and when he was down. No matter what he always sought to encourage me. Back in early 2005, when God led me back to South Carolina and my hometown, St. George,SC to start a church, Joey was the first pastor to come alongside me. He met with me, listened to me, and encouraged me to follow God’s call in my life.  Joey Branch encouraged us all to LOVE ONE ANOTHER. Joey Branch encouraged us all to LOVE OUR FAMILY. Joey Branch encouraged us all to LOVE JESUS. Don’t use your past as an excuse, but a platform that God can use. Joey was always encouraging someone to seek God’s best and nothing less. (Hebrews 3:13) says, But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,”

 FINALLY, The Y stands for YEARNED FOR GOD’S WILL

I wholeheartedly believe, that until Joey drew his last breath here on this earth, he Yearned for God’s will to be done. In His life and in the lives of those around him. He prayed as Jesus prayed, “Not my will Father, but your will be done. On earth, as it is in Heaven.” How many times did he preach that you heard the words….“Here is what God has laid on my heart.”And, I believe if Joey were able to speak today, He would say this to his family and friends:

*Smile or “Rejoice” , God has blessed us all in many ways. Live for Jesus every day. Be encouraged by the fact that I am with God and God is with you. And, seek God’s will daily because you don’t know when your day of departure from this life to the next is coming.

(James 4:13-17) ¹³ Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” ¹⁴ Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. ¹⁵ Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” ¹⁶ As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. ¹⁷ If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

 *May we all live with the same passion, compassion, and purpose as our dear friend Joey Branch!

Never Give Up On Anyone

Posted on May 6, 2013     Leave a Comment

THIS IS AN AMAZING STORY OF A MAN CHANGED THROUGH THE FAITHFULNESS OF A FRIEND AND CIRCUMSTANCES. I found this man’s story on the internet and believe its worth sharing!

Some of you may already know my story or parts of it. Others have no idea. It’s amazing what it takes for God to finally get our attention. In my case there were two things that worked together that God used to shake things up in my world and get me to look at Him once and for all. Those two things are a childhood friend and the days immediately after 9/11.

I won’t go into all of the detail of what my life looked like pre-9/11 but a summary would be, I was a selfish, self-centered, former drug dealer and drug user that though it was all about me and that I had everything figured out. If you asked I would say I believed in God, was a pretty good person, and because I had never robbed a bank or killed anyone, I would go to heaven.

Fast forward to 1999 when I ran into a childhood friend I had seen off and on throughout the years named Ben Garcia. We were partners-in-crime in many adventures growing up but now there was something different about him and he wanted to tell me all about it. Because “I had it all figured out” I didn’t need to hear about how his life had changed and the role God played in it. In my mind me and God were cool and I had nothing to worry about.

For two years, 730 long days, he continued to invest in me without giving up. It didn’t matter how much I avoided him or blew him off, he hung in there. How many times have you tried to invest in someone and wanted to give up because you weren’t seeing any progress being made. I’ve been there. What he was doing was planting and watering the seeds that God would make grow later.

 Tuesday, September 11th, 2001 shocked me and shook me like it did most people that were witnessed to the horrific act of terrorism. But what really got me was what I witnessed during the days to follow. I remember watching television and seeing images of women and children holding up poster board signs with pictures of their loved ones that were missing after the buildings collapsed that said, “Have you seen my father?” “Have you seen my husband?” It made me think of all the guys that went to work that day never dreaming that they would lose their life when the World Trade Center crashes to the ground after having 747′s slam into them.

I thought about all of those men who went to work thinking how fortunate they were to have awesome jobs in the World Trade Center, nice houses, cool cars, and great families. I thought about all of those men who went to work that day thinking they had it all figured out like I did. I think thought, “What if they were wrong?” which led to me think, “What if I’m wrong?” What if I didn’t have everything figured out the way I thought I did? What if God and I really aren’t cool like that?

I called my buddy up and asked him what time church started that Sunday and he told me. Sunday, September 16th, 2001 I walked through the doors of a converted warehouse in South Fort Worth that Waves of Faith used to call home. I was blown away. I had no idea a church like that existed. That was 11 years ago this Sunday. I won’t recap everything that’s happened since then but I will tell you that I, along with half of Fort Worth (maybe only a slight exaggeration…), would have never imagined that as I write this I am now a pastor, getting ordained at the very same church I walked into in 2001. That I’ve been to India three times on mission trips. That God would use me in spite of me in the ways He has. I would have never in my wildest dreams imagined that. But God did. He knew how He would use me long before I was ever a thought, a blip on the radar on anyone on planet earth. But not only does God have a plan for me, He has a plan for you too. It’s an awesome plan and beyond anything you could ever imagine.

Think for a minute about the people in your life that God wants to use you to reach them? How many times have you wanted to give up? Hang in there, you never know how long it will take or what God might want to use to shake things up in their world just like He did in mine.     

My friends I see this type scenario play out time and time again @ Refuge Church. People relentlessly, unconditionally love those on the outside. Then, suddenly life happens and hearts end up changed on the inside. 

When “Quit” Is Not An Option

Posted on May 6, 2013     1 Comment

You feel like everything is coming down on you at once. It’s hard to breath, to see beyond what’s in front of you and everything within you just wants to yell, “I QUIT.” Been there, done that, got several T-shirts. I bet anyone who has ever taken on the noble task of commitment or leadership has been there. Here are some suggestions on what to do when quitting is not an option.

#1 Remember what you’re fighting for.

I’ll never forget a gentlemen who was about to take his own life. He had the gun in hand, bullets to spare, and said he had enough of this life. While on the phone with him I pondered what I could say that might change his mind. I asked, “Do you have any pictures in your wallet?” He said, I do and he pulled out a wallet size photo of his little boy. I said, “Sir, look at that little boy, who you know loves you very much. He is worth fighting for.” This man agreed and began weeping. He said, “My boy would not know what to do if I took my life.” My friends many times we need to remember what we’re fighting for in order to make the journey worthwhile.  Whether a marriage, a child, or any other cause much greater than yourself, remember what you’re fighting for. This will motivate you when many things fail.

#2 Increase Your Support Group

It’s been said, “No man is an island.” And, no man alone will be able to accomplish great things alone. Too often our pride keeps us from reaching out for help. Many leader types are guilty of trying to put the whole world on their shoulders. Be honest with those around you. Many times those nearest to you can see that your plate is full and they are just looking for a way to help. Be honest about your limitations, the fact that you are overwhelmed, and your need for others to step up. People who genuinely care about you and the mission will step up to the plate.

 #3 Adjust Your Approach

You’ve heard it said, “If at first you don’t succeed then try, try, try again. Life is a series of adjustments as we live and learn what is best. Sometimes, we have to punt the ball away and live to play another down. Every day will not go as smooth as others. Sometimes we discover that how we are going about things just isn’t the best for us or those around us. Ponder and seek advice and how you might adjust your approach to life and reduce some stress in the process.

#4 Get Some Rest

It’s been said, “You can’t fix stupid.” Well, it’s definitely true that you can’t fix tired except to get some much needed rest. Take it from someone who has tried to keep going and going even when my body was exhausted. Being tired affects everything from your energy, your perspective, and your ability to deal with adversity. If you need to take a few days off work, take them. If you need to get in the bed early, get in it. I’ve often said, you should never make a big decision when you know you are too tired to think straight.

#5 Pray About Everything

Too often we plan before we pray. Too often we talk to everyone else about our problems, but we’ve not really lifted those burdens up to our almighty, all-knowing, all-loving God. (Philippians 4:6-7) says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and mind in Christ Jesus.

#6 Realize, you are not alone.

Too many times we think we’re the only one on the planet that has hit a brick wall. Anyone who has ever succeeded before us has failed, gotten frustrated, and felt like giving up. The difference between those who succeed and those who do not is staying the course. Wake up every day and ask God for direction, strength, wisdom, and to continue to carry you through the storms of this life. If you know you’re where God wants you to be, doing what God wants you to do, keep moving forward.

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”(Galatians 6:9)

MAKING THE MOST OF YOUR TIME

Posted on April 14, 2013     Leave a Comment

“…How short is life, and how full of trouble! 2 Like a flower, we blossom for a moment and then wither. Like the shadow of a passing cloud, we quickly disappear. 5 You have decided the length of our lives. You know how many months we will live, and we are not given a minute longer. (Job 14:1,2,5)

I still can’t get out of my head what that 94 year old lady told me at the nursing home that day. She said, “I just blinked and I was here.” Wow, I thought to myself. This lady feels like life has passed her by in the blink of any eye. I was like, God help me make the most of what little time I have on this earth. Here are things I seek to do everyday of my life so that at the end of my life I won’t feel like life has just passed me by.

#1: Make the most of the PRESENT MOMENT. Too often we miss what’s right in front of us because we’re too busy planning ahead. We look back and realize that when we were children we had no real worries. Teenagers many wish they could trade places with you as you are living in the golden years. Adults we all know how quickly times change and we better make the most of the season we’re in because before we know it a new season will be upon us.

#2: Make the most of EVERY DAY. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not promised, and today is a gift that’s why they call it the present. Today we all have opportunities that will not come again. Today, you can make a difference in the lives of those around you. Today you can choose to love like you’ve never loved before. Today you can choose to give God your whole heart, life, and future. Today, you better do whatever it is you know you should do because tomorrow is simply no promised. Statistics prove that at least 10% (1 out 10) of us will die suddenly. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you may only be able to do today! Make that phone call, forgive that friend or family member, and make things right with the one who knows all, sees all, and will judge all.

#3: Make the most of YOUR DASH. One day each of us will have a head stone that reads BORN ——- DIED. Just so you know the lady I quoted above is no longer with us here on planet earth. She passed on from this life to the next and it was as if “she just blinked” and it was her time. My friends, we all must learn to live like we’re dying before we’ll ever begin to live life to its fullest.

I pray these words transform your life as much as they’ve transformed mine! I love this song by Rascal Flatts….Check it out. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUUSB5JzuqA

5 REASONS TO QUIT YOUR JOB

Posted on March 26, 2013     Leave a Comment

Without knowing your exact situation, I would never say, QUIT YOUR JOB. I understand we all have to work and make a living to pay the bills. However, here are five reasons you might need to look for new employment.

#1: YOUR HEART AIN’T IN IT

At any organization, some people are hired and others are called. People who are hired do just enough to get by and go home. They are just there for a paycheck. People who are called believe God has appointed them to their position. The job may be challenging and the pay may not be a fortune. But, when you feel God has called you to do something, compensation is just icing on the cake. At Amedisys Hospice, where I serve as chaplain we’ve adopted a worthwhile slogan, “If your heart ain’t in it, don’t put your hands on it.”

#2: YOUR HEALTH CAN’T TAKE IT

I’m a big believer that health must come before help. If you aren’t healthy you can’t do much of anything in a very healthy way. We all know that some jobs are more taxing than others. But, with any job you have to consider whether you are physically and emotionally healthy enough to do the job. No job on the planet is worth taking years off your life or causing you to have a complete nervous breakdown. Some issues may be related to the season you’re in right now. But, some things may be overwhelming for health reasons. Whatever your job, you must consider your present health and its potential on your health.

#3: YOUR FAMILY IS DYING

There is no amount of money in the world worth losing my marriage over. There is no pay check worth missing my kids growing up. If your job does not allow you to keep your priorities in order, you should definitely start looking around. Too many people have worked their lives away while losing everyone they were working for in the process. Don’t do the same!

#4: YOUR GIFTS DON’T LINE UP

Sometimes you and the job just don’t match up. I’ve worked with people who were just not cut out for the job they were doing. I’ve worked a few jobs that weren’t good fits for me. You need a job that allows you to live out your God given passions. You need a job that matches up with your God-given gifts and experiences. You will never be happy doing a job where nothing comes natural. If you and your job don’t match up there will be many times you will want to throw up and so will those around you.

#5: YOUR CONSCIENCE IS KILLING YOU

Your conscience is… “An inner feeling or voice viewed as acting as a guide to the rightness or wrongness of one’s behavior.” If you are ashamed of what you’re doing then you shouldn’t be doing it. If what you are doing is dishonest, selfish, and just plain wrong you shouldn’t be doing it. You don’t have to be selling drugs on the street corner to be doing something wrong. If any part of your job brings into question your integrity you either need to get it fixed or put in your resignation tomorrow.

Well, this is an article I’ve been working on for weeks. I’m just getting a chance to bring these thoughts to you and I pray they help you find God’s best for your life. This was not intended to be some exhaustive check list, but I hope it provides some guidelines towards discovering healthy employment.

DON’T FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS

Posted on March 25, 2013     Leave a Comment

I know way too many people who have chased the “American Dream” only to discover a real American nightmare. Sure, every one of us would like to be somebody and make something out of our lives. But, the way most go about it will not lead to a happy ending. Here are some thoughts that need to be changed by most Americans.

#1: “Make Something Out Of Yourself”

We live in a society that loves to size up our worth. In fact, we’re all guilty to a certain degree of judging one another. People are often measured by their clothes, cars, careers, and even the company they keep. My friends, God doesn’t show favoritism and he already thinks you’re somebody. You are God’s prized creation and there is no one else exactly like you. You don’t have to do anything to be someone special because God made you awesome. You have nothing to prove, you are not an accident, and you are somebody.

(Ephesians 2:10)  For we are God’s Masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

 #2: “Be All That You Can Be”

On one hand, this statement sounds great. We all should make the most of our time, talents, and opportunities. But, being all that you can be is so limited. Being all God has created you to be will take you to places you could never dream possible. Why? Because it’s not about what you can do, but what you are willing to allow God to do through you? As children of God, we don’t create our purpose in life, instead we discover it. God has wired us all for certain jobs, certain relationships, certain paths, and certain missions. God tells us in his word that He has created us for good works that he has prepared for us in advance. In life, you don’t have to chase down opportunity. Rather, you need to seek God’s face, God’s will, and walk through the doors God opens for you. You can settle for alternatives, but only God knows the perfect plans for your life.

(Proverbs 19:21) Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.

(Jeremiah 29:11) For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

#3: “It’s My Life”

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard someone say this, “It’s my life, I can do whatever I want with it.” You’re right it’s your choice what you do with your God-given life. However, at the end of this life it will be God who will fill out your report card. The Bible is clear that “Each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.”  This life is simply preparation for the next. This life is temporary, but eternity is forever. When you draw your last breath you will stand before God. And, either you will have gone God’s way or your way. Scripture says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” Why? Because a wise man is one who realizes that God is in charge and only what God wants will matter in the end.

(James 4:13-17) Look here, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.” How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone. What you ought to say is, “If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that.” Otherwise you are boasting about your own plans, and all such boasting is evil. Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.

My friends, God has amazing plans for your life. I pray you slow down long enough to discover those plans. Don’t look at the world through your own eyes. Don’t chase the American dream which continues to lead countless people down a dead end street. Seek God’s will and trust God’s plans for your life. You will then find a life that is both fulfilling and rewarding.

WHEN LIFE IS KILLING YOU

Posted on March 14, 2013     Leave a Comment

There are times you feel stuck, overwhelmed, and without a moment to breathe. You wish you could take a vacation, but you just can’t get away. You wish you could stop the madness, but things just keep getting crazy. You wish a hot bath and a good night sleep would make things all better. But, you wake up still feeling stuck and stressed. Here are some thoughts on how you might find some relief at this time in your life.

#1: Rest When You Can.

When life is wide open your pit stops matter more than ever. You can’t stay wide open every minute and expect to feel your best. You’ve got to make yourself get in the bed, take a break, and step away from the madness.

(Luke 5:16)Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

 #2: Take One Day At A Time.

If your life is anything like mine, its best you just look at what’s in front of you at the moment. Adding tomorrow’s concerns to today’s will only increase your stress and can keep you from getting anything done. Many times you just have to take one moment and one day at a time.

(Matthew 6:34) Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

#3: Work smarter, not harder.

Sometimes the way we are approaching life just isn’t working out. Adding more to your plate if you’re already exhausted is not the answer. Figuring out a much wiser approach to life in order to reduce the chaos could be a huge step to peace. I’ve always said, “Keep doing what you’ve been doing and you’ll keep getting what you’ve been getting.” Life is not a race, but a marathon. Pace yourself, yet aim for God’s best.

(James 1:5)If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

 #4:  Put First Things First.

Not everything in your life is urgent. Too often we schedule every minute of our lives and then we wonder why life feels so crazy. Sometimes you have to back up and punt. For example, if your family and your faith development are last on your list then you need to make some serious changes. Don’t allow some hobby, some sport, or even your job to put things that should be first, last on your list.

(Matthew 6:33)Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

 #5: Run To Jesus

There are seasons in life that all we can do is hold on to Jesus. Sure, you can seek to drink your blues away and medicate your pain. However, you still have to wake up eventually and face reality. The reality is life is hard, but God is good. We all need to take responsibility for our choices in life and never forget that Jesus is the key to life. Jesus is the only one who can fill your emptiness, heal your broken heart, calm your greatest fears, and give you peace despite your situation.

(Matthew 11:28) “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

My friends, I will be the first to admit that I have to remind myself of these things daily. Life can quickly get out of hand and we can all lose focus of what matters most. I do know this, we are not alone in this battle and there is always hope in Jesus for a brighter tomorrow.

10 Reasons To Smile

Posted on March 1, 2013     Leave a Comment

In this world full of doom and gloom it’s so easy to get caught up in what is going wrong. We can quickly decide to throw a pity party and of course we love to invite others to join us. I wholeheartedly believe the only way to get rid of the negativity is to counter it with lots of thanksgiving.

 (Philippians 4:6-7) tells us that the key to peace is bringing our requests to God WITH THANKSGIVING and then God will give us a peace that passes all our understanding. Here are some things you might thank God for today!

 #1 PROVISION

Thank you God for providing for my daily needs physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

#2 PROTECTION

Thank you for watching over me day and night and shielding me from Satan’s countless arrows.

#3 PEACE

Thank you for a peace that goes beyond my understanding, my circumstance, and my feelings of certainty.

 #4 PURPOSE

Thank you for giving me a reason to wake up each day and opportunities to serve you.

#5 PRAYER

Thank you for the honor of calling on your name anytime and anywhere. Thank you for the answered and unanswered prayers in my life.

#6 PRESENCE

Thank you for always being there through the good and the bad. Thanks for never leaving my side even when I’ve strayed from your side.

#7 PROSPERITY

Thanks for working things out for my good and your glory. It amazes me how you can turn so little into so much.

#8 PROPHECY

Thank you for your eternal word which never changes. Thanks for giving us revelation of things to come and preparing us to face eternity.

#9 PARADISE

Thank you for sending Jesus to save my soul and securing me a place in Heaven. I can’t wait to inherit my mansion and live forevermore in that place where every day is perfect.

#10 PEOPLE

Thank you for family, friends, and even total strangers that touch my life in so many ways.

(Philippians 4:8)(The Message) says, Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.