GOD IS THERE

If you don’t know by now, God uses the toughest times in your life to speak to you the loudest.
I guess its the only way he can get our full attention….Here is just a little something I felt inspired to share with you all.

There are times in life you aren’t sure what’s going on around you.
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when everything and everyone seems to be falling apart.
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when you feel like giving up and giving in.
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when you question everything in your life
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when you wonder what’s next
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when the future feels so uncertain
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when you think you are going to break
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when you wonder how much more your heart can take
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when you wonder how you’ll get through this alone
But, you know GOD IS TEHRE
My friends, what an awesome thing to know
That no matter where you go or what you are facing… GOD IS THERE.

God says,
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you”
So, we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?” (Hebrews 13:5-6)

Some Things I’ve Learned About Life

Recently, I took some much needed time to reflect on things that God has taught me through the years. Of course, we’re always learning, but I think the following top ten is worth sharing. Hope you’ll read it and make comments…

 THINGS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT THIS LIFE.

 1.  LIFE IS NOT ABOUT ME. I definitely believe it’s when you understand life is all about God’s glory and not your own agenda that you began to separate yourself from the everyday crowd.(READ: 1 Corinthians 10:31)

 2. LIFE IS SHORT. Most of us when we were younger thought we would live forever. But, after you attend enough funerals and lose enough loved ones you quit taking this life for granted. It’s not until you start living like you’re dying that you begin to make the most of this life.(READ: James 4:13-17)

 3.  LIFE IS HARD. Over the last 20 years I have attended a lot of high school graduations. At, at every one of them I have wanted to run down, grab the microphone, and let every graduate know that life is not going to get any easier. I wake up each day not wanting trials, but expecting trials in this life. And, I ask God to help me be prepared when they come. (READ: John 16:33)

 4.  LIFE IS NOT FAIR. If you live in the same world as me you see what you would call a lot of injustice. And, there is temptation to want to take matters into our own hands. But, God has impressed upon my heart that no this life will never be fair, but in the end God will bring justice.(READ: Romans 14:12)

 5.  LIFE IS NOT MEANT TO BE LIVED ALONE. Anyone who says I don’t need others in my life or I don’t want others in my life doesn’t realize the necessity of relationships. God said in the book of Genesis, “It is not good for man to be alone.” We all have times where we need encouragement, accountability, and an out pouring of God’s love through friends, family, or even a perfect stranger.(READ: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

 6.  LIFE HAS ALREADY BEEN PLANNED. One of the most freeing and exciting things is knowing that God has a plan for your life. And, you don’t need to create your purpose, but rather you need to discover your God given purpose. Rick Warren makes this very understandable and clear in his best selling book “The Purpose Driven Life”. (READ: Jeremiah 29:11)

 7.  THIS LIFE IS NOT THE END. When I realize that I am just passing through this life on the way to the next I find it dramatically changes my perspective. This life is temporary. The Bible says that we will die someday. And, when we die we will stand before God where it will be determined where we spend eternity in Heaven or Hell. I know I am just passing through this world on my way to the next. Therefore, I live each day with eternity in mind. (READ: Matthew 6:19-20)

 8.   THIS LIFE WILL NEVER SATSIFY ME. I meet too many people who are still looking for that perfect lover, that perfect job, or that perfect something. The older I get the more I realize that this life and what it has to offer will never give me fulfillment. Only through my personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ am I able to find peace, comfort, and satisfaction. We all have a God shaped void within us. Nothing else and no one else can fill that emptiness inside of you! (READ: John 4:13-14)

 9.  LIFE DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. God has taught me that it is not my job to try to figure out all that goes around me. Instead, I need to trust God not matter what happens around me.(READ: Proverbs 3:5-6)

 10.  THIS LIFE IS EVER CHANGING.  Everyone one of us are somewhere in life that we’ve never been before. A high school student, a college graduate, just married, a first time parent, a grandparent, on top of the world, then on our way out of this world…..(READ: Ecclesiastes 3:1-2)

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Money Matters

I think we can admit that money is a hot topic in every household. Especially these days when things are tight for most and tough decisions have to made. Maybe you are at a point where you need a financial makeover? Or maybe you just need a renewed perspective when it comes to money? Here are ten things I’ve learned about money and still learning……

 1.  Society should never be my role model. (Most people are drowning in debt)

 2.  If I don’t manage my money, my money will manage me.

 3.  A budget is always necessary and it frees me to focus on more important things.

 4.  Money is something to be utilized, but never idolized.

 5.  God is my provider and will always make sure I have what I NEED.

 6.   Worrying about money all the time FIXES NOTHING.

 7.   You will never have enough…Learn to be content with what you have…

 8.  Honor God with every dollar and He will bless your every dollar!

 9.  It really is more blessed to give than it is to receive.

 10.  I will give an account one day for how I manage what God gave me in the first place.

 *Not only are these things practical, but everyone one of them are biblical.

3 Things Every Parent Should Know

1.  Your kids need you! More than the bills paid, more than pop corn and the movie, your kids need you. Yes, I know you’ve got to work and you are very busy. But, you must make time to spend with each of your children. As you know, they grow up quick and you will wish you spent more time with them later.

*I have four boys of my own as most of you know. I try as often as possible to have daddy days with each one of them individually. During that time I may take one of them fishing, to get ice cream, or just on a ride with me to do something for someone in need. The main goal is that I spend time with them, letting them know I care, and listening to what is going on in their life. Nothing spells love like TIME. Your kids know when they are a top priority to you and whether they are more important than your work, your church, and any other commitments you might have.

2.  Your kids are watching you!  Yes, I know that’s pretty scary, but so true. Kids are smarter than we give them credit. They see how we treat our spouse, they see how we spend our time, they see how we handle life. One thing we all have to remember is that each day of parenting is an opportunity of preparation. My kids won’t live with me all my life, so it is my God given role to prepare them for life without me. We teach loudest by what we do, not just by what we say. What is your life teaching your child.

*I sincerely believe most parents dearly love their children, but most of us are failing miserably in the area of leading by example.

3.  Your kids are following you. It’s been said that 85% of children will follow in their parents footsteps. So, where are you leading your children. If they follow you dad, what kind of man will they become? If they are following you Mom, what kind of woman will they become? They will learn from you how a marriage should or should not work. They will learn from you how a family should or should not function. Yes, others will have influence on your children, but the primary influencer in the end will be parents. For good or bad, for better or worse, your influence will matter.

*I pray that everyone one of us will fully accept the God given blessing of raising up our children in the way God would have us to do.

I could write much more on this matter. But, I would love for you to add your thoughts. What are some things you believe parents really need to know and make priority in raising their kids?

Aim to Win The Gold

Have you been watching the Olympics? Last I checked Team USA  and China were leading the pack with gold medals. One of the events we’ve racked up the medals in has been swimming. I can only imagine how much hard work, laps, and exhaustion have gone into each participant training for the Olympics. Most of those who win a gold medal have trained all their life, put in countless hours, and dealt with much adversity before they could proudly see their countries flag raised in their honor. We live in a day and time where everyone wants the prize, but few are willing to endure what it takes to get there. Here are some things you want to keep in mind if you’re aim to win the gold.

NEVER SWIM ALONE

 I used to work as a life guard at a camp where every fifteen minutes we blew our whistles and yelled, “BUDDY CHECK”. At that time, everyone had to grab the hand of their buddy and lift them high. Those found without a buddy had to sit a while outside the water. Why? Because everyone needed a buddy just in case something happened. We all need buddies to be there when we’re discouraged or maybe even drowning as life knocks us down. Who’s your buddy? I can promise you that none of us will make it far without others around us, with us, and at times even there to carry us through tough times.

(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their work:
10 If one falls down,his friend can help him up. But pity the man who fallsand has no one to help him up!

PLAY BY THE RULES

Whether we accept them or reject them, God has given us a rule book (THE BIBLE). Those who choose to live by it can’t go wrong, but those who choose to just ignore its instruction and commands will live to regret it. In the end “lack of integrity” will prove costly. Just ask Joe Paterno and his family who not only saw his statue removed, but his legacy ruined.

 (Psalm 1:1-3) Blessed are those who do not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take  or sit in the company of mockers,
but who delight in the law of the Lord and meditate on his law day and night.
They are like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers
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 PACE YOURSELF

We live in a world that loves to run from one thing to the next. Instead of taking one day at time we long for instant success with our fast food and pay at the pump mentality. Slow down and view life as a marathon, not a forty yard dash. Seek  to do things God speed, not your speed. Don’t miss the moment in front of you because you’re rushing to get to the next. Those seeking to live at the frantic pace of this world often burnout and never finish what they started.

 (James 4:13-15)13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.”

 KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE

A greater purpose and goal can keep us motivated when circumstances make us feel like giving up. It’s real easy to get side tracked by details and it’s critical that we keep in mind why we’re doing what we’re doing. There are times that only my desire to please God keeps me pressing forward. There are many times that the greater good being accomplished takes my mind off the distractions surrounding me.

 (1 Corinthians 9:24) Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.

(Philippians 3:14) I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

VIEW ADVERSITY AS A BUILDING BLOCK

Things are going to happen and come your way that you did not invite. During this time God is shaping you, developing you, and building you into the person He has created you to be in this life. God will use even the most painful times to make you stronger and ready for what lies ahead in your life. God is in the business of taking what appears to be a mess and creating something beautiful.

(James 1:2-4)Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

(Job 23:10) But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.

 KEEP SWIMMING

Maybe you can’t see it and you certainly don’t feel like it, but you have come a long way. Don’t give up now. Keep swimming, keep striving, and keep trusting God for the growth and the victory that only He can bring in your everyday life. God has created you with His purposes in mind. As long as you have air to breathe God has a purpose for your existence. Don’t let anything and anyone take you off course, but keep swimming towards God’s best for you and your family. Through your faithfulness and because of God’s faithfulness, God will take your further than you ever dream or imagine.

(Galatians 6:9)Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

 

A TRIBUTE TO MY WIFE

           I bet you didn’t’ know that I have four kids and my wife has five. Some people have wondered if our house is a zoo, I would like to confirm those thoughts to be accurate. Ok I must admit that we don’t have nine kids, but my wife does count me as one of her boys. She actually says I am not only the biggest, but by far the highest maintenance. This post is not about information, but giving affirmation to a woman I dearly love and value.                                                                             

         Aimee and I dated for 4 ½ years and have now been married for 15 years come this August 23rd. During this time we have been blessed with four boys who are very close to turning 13, 11, 9, and then you have Asher who is a 2 ½ year old bundle of energy. Needless to say, they keep us busy. In fact, one of us stays really, really busy. Her name is Aimee Crosby. I wanted to take the time to give this more than deserving tribute to my wife.

            First of all, her support is off the charts. I knew before I ever got married that I would have to marry someone way beyond average if they were to endure the ups and downs of being a pastor’s wife. We have physically moved our entire family and belongings ELEVEN times in only 15 years of marriage. Our biggest leap was when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas while our first son was only five months old. My wife has supported me through college, seminary, youth ministry, church planting, and now hospice chaplaincy. She has stood by my side when others would have run away and she has loved me when others would have only been bitter.

            Secondly, she defines “Real Love”. Aimee has taught me true love not by what she says, but what she embodies. As, a 94 year old lady once told me, “Pastor, love is such is strong word.” Yes, I have been as guilty as any of just using love as a word. I recall that moment a little over five years ago that I realized my wife was not the problem, but that I had a lot to learn from her. From her I have learned that “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Some people talk a lot (That’s me) and then some people love a lot (That’s her). It is the love displayed greatest that speaks the loudest. I have come to understand that my wife may not be as verbally expressive as me, but her actions speak for themselves.

          Finally, she is irreplaceable! I admit that in the past I have joked that if something happened to her, I would quickly remarry. Well, maybe I would and maybe I wouldn’t. Actually, I don’t want to think about life without her. What I do know is that I will never find someone with such love, support, and patience to put up with me and all that goes with my calling in this life. You see, Aimee does not see us as individuals, but as partners in this life. She knows that we are a team and has always gladly been willing to play her irreplaceable part behind the scenes. Nothing against many other ladies, but she is not one of those ladies who demands things her way. She is not one of those people who thinks “Me first” in a me first world. She just wakes up each day and seeks to be the best wife she can be and the best mother our kids could as for in this life.

        Some of you may never get the opportunity to meet my wife Aimee or to know what she does behind the scenes. But, trust me when I tell you that she is more than just my bride of 15 years. She is why someone came up with the saying “Behind every good man is a good woman.” Aimee Crosby I love you and appreciate you more than you will ever know.

What’s Keeping You Up At Night?

It’s been exactly one week and counting since the tragic loss of my co-worker’s 19 year old daughter. My heart is still heavy and my mind still racing at 4 a.m. in the morning. Shouldn’t I be moving on by now? After all, not only am I a Christian, but I ‘m a hospice chaplain. Shouldn’t I have enough faith and experiences to soar through this time in my life. Why is knowing that she is in a much better place than me not enough to settle my every thought? Here is the truth about grief.

            Grief is a process, not an event. You don’t just wake up the next morning after a deep loss and say, “Hey, I’m ok, let’s put all this behind me.” Sure, we all just want to move forward, but grieving is never that simple. When someone you love is missing in your life it takes time and a whole lot of adjustments before a person can find a new normal in this life. You need time to accept the reality that they are really gone. You need time to process your deepest thoughts and feelings. And, you need time as you learn daily how to trust God time and time again with this new reality.

            Here is what I am deeply afraid is the perception of even most Christians. Most people believe that if I have faith, then I shouldn’t still battle the flesh. If this is the case, then everyone’s faith is shallow. The truth is that the flesh is always pulling on me, which is why I need faith to pull me through the days and the nights. You can wholeheartedly believe that God has a greater plan and will take care of you, yet still be processing your human emotions. Yes, there is a God, but you’re not Him. We can’t see what He sees and we don’t know what He knows.

            God’s word talks about there being a battle within us. There is a tug of war between the flesh of man and the spirit of God. Only the spirit of God can give us peace, joy, and happiness. However the flesh can make us stir crazy and worry to death about everything. In our heart of hearts we know that only God can handle things, but in our flesh we feel like the weight of the world is on our shoulders.

            Now, I don’t know what might be keeping you up at night. But, I do know that grief is a journey. A journey we can’t get through alone. A journey that usually takes longer than we would like it to take. A journey that is necessary if we are to find real peace and real perspective in this life. Here is what God has led me to continue to do…..

 KEEP PRESSING FORWARD….(Philippians 3:12) 12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.

KEEP PRAYING….(Philippians 4:6-7) Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

KEEP PERSPECTIVE… (2 Corinthians 4:8)We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.

KEEP PEACE…(John 14:27) Jesus said,  “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

 

           

Dealing With Change

     There are many things we are still trying to figure out about this life, but one thing is for sure, life is a series of changes. At home, at work, and in society we deal with constant change. Some people like change, most people don’t, but regardless of your preference things are always in the process of changing. Here are three keys to dealing with change!

 1.      EXPECT Change….If you don’t expect change you will daily be taken by surprise and disappointed. Change and trials often go hand in hand. Usually what makes something a bigger trial is that we just didn’t see it coming our way. No, we cannot predict what will happen today or tomorrow. But, we can ask God to help us to be prepared for the changes that are sure to occur both in and around us.

 “Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.” (James 1:2-4)(The Message)

 2.      EMBRACE Change….. You either see things as accidents or divine appointments. I believe that everything happens for a reason and will either leave us bitter or better. A person who fights with change is always trying to turn back time and make things like they used to be. The person who embraces change may not like what is happening, but is determined to see something good come from their present season of life.

 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under Heaven.”  (Ecclesiastes 3:1)(NIV)

3.      TRUST GOD through Change….God is the only one who is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Despite what is going on around you, God is always with you and for you. God will protect you. God will provide for you. God will develop and anchor you on the inside, while everything is changing on the outside.

 “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.” (Hebrews 6:19)

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Complicated Grief

I’ve buried countless people and have been by the dying bed side of a couple hundred. But, this time was different for some reason. Maybe it was because it was so unexpected, maybe it was because it hit so close to home, and maybe it was because it just felt terrible in so many ways. Earlier that day we had no idea that our co-worker and friend would tragically lose her 19 year old daughter in a car accident later that evening. Days later we are left with the God sized task of not only accepting this reality, but figuring out a way to move forward. After many tears, prayers, and searching God’s word I think I’ve found some comfort and direction as we seek to move forward. I sought to answer these three critical questions during the funeral of Allie Murdaugh, a very special young lady who has touched the lives of so many in her short life here on this earth.

 Question #1: WHY DID THIS HAPPEN?

To that I quickly confess….I DON’T KNOW, but GOD DOES.

None of this makes sense from our perspective.

But, that doesn’t mean that God doesn’t have a plan.

(Proverbs 16:9) In their hearts human beings plan their course,
but the Lord establishes their steps.

 (Ecclesiastes 3:1-2) There is a time for everything,and a season for every activity under the heavens:    a time to be born and a time to die….

 From our view things appear to be accidents. God only has APPOINTMENTS.

Hebrews 9:27 it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:

Now, I realize that many will say, “How can you say this is God’s will?”  I’m not saying that everything that has happened was God’s will, but I am saying that God is never taken by surprise and that God has numbered our days. Only God knows when we will be born and when we will die.

 Question #2: WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?

 I believe most of us are still in shock and the reality of this has not clearly set in.

Right now, it is more like a bad dream where you wish you could just wake up and it not be true.

Here is what we must do if we are to move forward…

1.RUN TO GOD

*You can turn many directions to drown your pain but only God can give you true help and healing.

(Psalm 121:1-8) I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,the Maker of heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot slip—he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.

The Lord watches over you—the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all harm —he will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore

 2. TRUST GOD’S PLANS

(Proverbs 3:5-6) Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.[
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 It is perfectly normal and human to ask, “WHY?”
But, ultimately we have to trust that God has a higher purpose than we can see at this time.

Scripture says God’s thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways.

3. WALK WITH GOD DAILY

God sent His son Jesus so that He could have a personal relationship with each one of us.

Our feelings and circumstances will change like the weather but God is the only one who is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow.

Alesa, one thing I have learned during our time of working together at hospice is that you have a real and ongoing relationship with God through his son Jesus Christ.

It was just last Friday that you posted the following scripture on your facebook status…

(Psalm 31:5) (GNT) I place myself in your care. You will save me, LORD; you are a faithful God.

 Question #3: WHERE IS ALLIE NOW?

 As some of us saw and others heard about…

Allie was in a very bad car wreck late Wednesday afternoon.

Those who saw her last didn’t see the beautiful girl they once knew as Allie Murdaugh.

Let’s make this very clear. Allie is not only ok, but she is better than that.

You see, when a believer in Jesus Christ dies we don’t grieve for them, we grieve for us.

Why? Because we miss them and want them to be around forever.

A couple of days ago, when Allie drew her last breath on this earth she did not die, but she transitioned to a real and unbelievable place called Heaven.

(Revelation 21:4) says this about Heaven…He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’[a] or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away

 (2 Corinthians 5:17)“If anyone is in Christ, he or she is a new creation. The old has gone and the new has come.”

 No, Allie Murdaugh was not here on this earth nearly as long as many would like but she is now in the safe arms of Jesus.

She is in a place of complete peace, joy, and eternal happiness.

Why? Because Allie received God’s grace and forgiveness and placed her faith in Jesus Christ.

(John 3:16) For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

 (Romans 10:9) If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

(Many ask, but how can we know she’s in Heaven)(1 John 5:13) I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.

 Yesterday, one of the gentlemen who worked at Herndon’s Funeral home was getting the chapel ready for the service. For a few moments he sat that big picture of Allie you saw on your way in (leaned up against the second to last pew) as he went to go get something. When he got back what he saw gave him chills and I believe will give us some confirmation. The sun was beaming through the stained glass window and the only thing lit up was the face and the smile of Allie. He said it was as if she was glowing, radiating with joy. It was such a sight that he ran and got some of the others to come and look at it themselves.

 Today, we celebrate not for ourselves, but for Allie and the new life that she has because of God’s grace and through her faith in Jesus Christ.

*We all must continue to keep this family in our prayers and offer whatever support we can.

*Should anyone reading this want to know more about how they can know Jesus Christ as their personal savior and ever present friend, please feel free to message me on facebook or email me at scraigcrosby@gmail.com. Allie, rest in peace!

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WHAT IF?

     We all know deep down inside that anything is possible in this life. We have dreams, hopes, and we have fears. Our greatest fears normally consist of those “What If” moments that we know are possible, but we pray we never personally face in our lifetime. Tonight, one of my dear friends and co-workers faced one of those “What If” reality moments that we all pray we never face.

     Her daughter was on her way back home when the SUV she was driving flipped and ejected her through the window. Allie was her oldest daughter and a freshmen in college. Shortly after her accident a police officer knocked on their door to inform them that their daughter had been in a very bad accident and was rushed by helicopter to a nearby Hospital.

     Upon arrival at the hospital, her mom and dad were informed that not only was their daughter in critical condition, but that unless God chose to perform a miracle there was nothing doctors could do to keep her stay alive. Practically anyone would have said before this car accident occured that their daughter had all of life in front of her.Even with this not being my child,  I found myself standing there in shock, disbelief, and hurting so deeply for this couple who I know dearly loved their little girl.

     So many things go through your mind. Could this really be happening? Is this reality or am I having a bad dream. Earlier that day, things seemed like just another day. Everything seemed safe and certain until that officer showed up at their door. All of sudden a “What If” moment that no parent wants to experience was experienced. About six hours later when Ali’s heart quit beating in that ICU room that “What If” became reality.

      Now, I would never suggest that we should ever wake up and hope for bad things to happen. However, I do believe that we all have to live each day with the realistic perspective that the  “What If” could happen at anytime. What if one of my loved ones are not here tomorrow? What if I never have another chance to talk with my wife, my children, or one of my friends again? What if things don’t work out the way I planned?What if, What if, What if?

            There are endless possibilities to what could happen at the end of any day. And, I would like to suggest that we don’t dwell on the “What Ifs”, but rather live with the “What ifs” in mind. Don’t wait on that “What If” moment to happen, but do all you can while you can to make the most of the moment in front of you. Because we don’t know what will happen tomorrow or even by the end of the day. Make sure God is your anchor today, so that you won’t fall apart tomorrow. Tell those you love how much they mean to you now and don’t take a single moment you have together for granted. Because as I was reminded tonight a “What If” moment can happen when you least expect it.

(Colossians 4:5) says, …”Make the most of every opportunity.”

 (James 4:13-17) 13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” 16 As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. 17 If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

 

           

When You Feel Like Giving Up

We’ve all been there…..tired, frustrated, and just ready to throw our hands up in the air. I QUIT is what we want to shout, but for some reason we continue to hold on with everything we have to keep things together. Usually this indicates at the very least that something has to change and it needs to change soon. So, what do you do when you feel like giving up, but you know in your heart that you can’t? There are three things that will always be a factor regardless of our season in life.

 1. PERSPECTIVE

            Sometimes we just find ourselves in a funky place emotionally due to stress, fatigue, or frustration. It’s been said that our attitude will determine our altitude. Maybe you need to surround yourself with more positive people and places. Maybe you need to quit seeing the glass half empty and instead look at it as half full. Maybe you just need to step back and allow God to give you a more positive perspective towards work, home, and others. Maybe you have some pain from the past or present that needs to be dealt with before you can see anything through a healthy set of eyes. I can tell you this for sure, anything healthy begins with a healthy heart because perspective flows out of the heart.

 2. PROCESS

            Sometimes our approach to life just stinks. Maybe you are clearly just trying to do too many things at once. Maybe you need to develop self discipline. Maybe you need to learn how to set healthy boundaries. Maybe you need to allow someone with greater insight to assess your life processes, which may be creating way more difficulty than you might think. Processes are always subject to change, but process is always important. How you approach something or someone will either create peace or absolute chaos. Some people never make process changes so nothing changes. You have to recognize when your approach to life must change in order for you to expect a positive change.

 3.  PRIORITIES

            These are things you value most. We all have them, but many times they are put on the back burner. For instance, many say their family is top priority, yet their family continues to get leftovers. Time is like money, you have to tell it where to go. Every one of us needs to determine our priorities and then make every effort to guard those priorities. For example, I purposely plan time with each of my boys. As a pastor, there is always someone who would like to talk and needs help. But, raising my boys is a high priority for me so I purposely make time for them. And, I do the same for my marriage. Knowing and establishing priorities is huge. Having the best processes in place is critical and maintaining a healthy perspective will always determine our life persective.

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.(Galatians 6:9)