Do you feel like you’re being attacked from every direction? Like you can’t catch a break no matter how hard you try? The bills keeps coming, the problems keep piling, the stress keeps rising, and you’re doing your best just to make it through the day. Here are some things you should know….

#1:  You’re not Alone.

We all face hardships and will continue to go through valleys in this life. Everyday is a new challenge and brings with it winds and waves. The fact that you have trials does not mean you’re doing everything wrong or that you’re doing everything right. Some of our hardships are the result of poor decisions and habits we need to break. But, even the most righteous man will face adversity in this life. I have learned that I can’t stop the rain from pouring, but I need to make sure that God is my umbrella.

(John 16:33) JESUS SAID….“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

#2:  You’re in a Battle.

This battle is not against the government or your neighbor. This battle is way bigger than what you can see, understand, or control. The Bible tells us clearly that Satan is constantly looking, lurking, and waiting to rain on our parade. He brings temptations that only lead to dead end roads. He tells us we’re worthless, helpless, and hopeless. His goal for difficulty is to bring you down, make you quit, and ultimately turn your back on God. God’s goal for trials is to make you stronger, teach you His faithfulness, and develop you into the man or woman you were created to be.

(Ephesians 6:12)For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

(1 Peter 5:8) Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

#3:  You can WIN.

We talk about faith, but then we operate out of our feelings. Faith has nothing to do with your feelings, but it will change the way you feel. When we’re operating out of feelings we are dependent upon our human emotions and very limited perspective. When we operate out of faith our problems don’t go away, but they are no longer our focus. When we put our total trust in a BIG God, we then see that in God’s hands we just have little struggles. When we are fixated on our BIG problems and just operate out of a little faith we feel overwhelmed, out manned, and hopeless. There are two options in this life. I can operate out of my own strength and knowledge and I will never scale the walls in front of me. Or, I can take the hand of the one who can take me through any storm and help me scale every wall.

(Matthew 17:20)He replied, “Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you. ”

(Hebrews 11:6)And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

(Romans 8:28)And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

(Romans 8:37)No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

(Psalm 18:29)With your help I can advance against a troop ; with my God I can scale a wall.

7 Things That Could Make You HYPER SENSITIVE….

Do you overreact to the slightest remarks, blow things completely out of context, and just look for someone to say something so you can call foul? Do you walk around like a bulldog just waiting for a reason to come unleashed? Are you hyper sensitive?

7 Things That Could Make You HYPER SENSITIVE….

#1: You take everything TOO PERSONAL.

You can’t take everything someone says or does so literal or personal. You may not agree with their thoughts or actions. They may not agree with yours. But, each person has to make their own choices and will answer to the same God. Many just need to take a chill pill, cut the grass in their own backyard, and not take everything others do so personal.

#2: You are BITTER.

 Anyone with unresolved heartache and pain can be triggered at the drop of a hat. Their claws come out and the words fly carelessly because things are so stirred inside. With just the slightest push or word a bitter person begins to vomit and retaliate because of the hurt they feel inside.

#3: You are JEALOUS.

 Some people spend their lives comparing what they have with what others have. When jealously develops it leads to resentment. A person begins to hate and even attack someone simply because they feel they’ve been cheated in this life.

#4: You care way too much WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU.

If you put too much stock in what others think about you, you will stay hypersensitive. Not everyone is going to agree with you, like you, and even love you. You can‘t live to please everyone and you can’t allow everyone to determine your  self-worth.


You think every FaceBook post is about you and everybody is against you. You feel you are the victim in every situation and you’re not going to take it anymore. So, you lash out at people who don’t even have anything to do with your past or pain.

#6:  You are starving for ATTENTION.

Just like kids, many are starving for attention in this life. And, you don’t care how you get it, you want it whether positive or negative. You say and do things hoping to get a rise and response from someone. To that I simply say…..GROW UP! That is not the way a mature person deals with their differences and for sure that is not how a Christ follower should.

#7:  You live in THE PAST.

 All of us have a past, but some have had more difficult ones than others. The question is not do you have a past, but have you dealt with your past? The past can make you better or keep you bitter.  Living in the past for most means wallowing in self pity and seeking to take out my frustrations on others. Listen, the past will continue to pull you down, until you are willing to let it go.

Well, this is not an exhaustive list by any means. But, these are some things that God has been impressing upon my heart of recent in regards to Hyper Sensitivity. I pray that God will help us each in these areas of struggle so that we live more confidently, inste


For most of us Monday means back to the grind, early mornings, and the end to a weekend we wish could last forever. I must admit that I’m right there with you as I feel like sometimes all I do is go from one event to the next. So, knowing that life must go on and weekends don’t last forever here are some things can make a huge difference in the week ahead.

#1 BE POSTIIVE…..So often we stumble into a busy week with dread and the prediction that “It’s gonna be a rough week.” Well this week consider all that might be accomplished, the lives that could be changed, and the memories that can be made. Thank God you have a job, the health to wake up, a family to come home to, and friends who care about you even if 99% of them only dialog with you on Facebook.

#2 BE PROACTIVE….My wife says this is for sure my favorite word. Now, let me say up front that I am not someone who claims to have it all together and I’m surely not the king of organization. However, I do consider deeply what tomorrow might bring and what I can do to make each transition a little easier. Too many people are passive and just hope things work out for the best. No, you can’t control everything, but you can do everything possible to prepare for deadlines, schedule conflicts, and each day’s certain demands. Being proactive will give you the confidence that you have done your best to be prepared and possibly put you ahead of the game. Because you and I both know the unexpected will rear its head this week and that’s when your proactiveness concerning the certain will make things go much smoother.

#3 Be PURPOSEFUL…..Everyday we wake up God has things designed for us to accomplish, people we’re meant to bless, and places we’re meant to go. Start each day by praying “Not my will, but God’s will be done.” Look for God moments and choose to live each moment to the fullest. Each of us are in a season of our lives that will never come again, but brings significant opportunities. Be purposeful in the way you live, love, and lead. Each of us have impact on many other people, but those who have the greatest impact are those who seek to discover and live out their God given purpose each day!


I meet so many people who have a low self esteem, low self worth, and battle with what I call an identity crisis. I’m not sure I can tackle this entire matter in just a short blog because there are so many things that can contribute to these things. Your childhood, your perspective of success, and your overall understanding of this world and how you believe you fit into it all have high impact on the way you feel, think, and operate. Here are some things you need to know about you.


God created you when He knit you together in your mother’s womb. Maybe you’ve never felt wanted, appreciated, or cared about growing up in this life. My friend you are God’s prize creation and you did not just stumble upon this earth. God made you and loves you very much.


God has created each of us different, but all with a purpose. God wants to use your strengths, your weaknesses, your experiences, and even your personality to bring Him glory. No need to compare yourself to others, but rather surrender yourself to God. Allow God to shape you, lead you, and use you to accomplish His will on this earth. Don’t try to be like everyone else, but rather just seek to the best You that God created you to be. God’s word (The BIBLE) is full of instruction for helping us discover our God given purpose on this earth.


So many people allow their past to ruin their present and steal their future. Satan wants you to believe that you are only the lump sum of your past mistakes. HOGWASH. I have seen God time after time use the past, forgive all the mistakes, and take people like you and me places we never thought we could go.When we asks God to forgive us of our sin He forgives and forgets it all. When we allow Jesus to change us from the inside/out we become new creations. The only thing your past does is give God even more ways to receive glory as He takes you to new heights and solid ground.


When you put your little hand in God’s big hand you are then walking with God. God will carry you places never dreamed or imagine. I can tell you from first hand experience that it all begins with just surrendering all you are and are meant to be to the one who created and loves you most. Let go, Let God, and look forward to what He has in store for those who put all their trust in him. Once you discover and remember WHO’S You are and Who you are in Christ you are then destined for a bright future in this life and especially in the life to come!

I pray this blog encourages someone today and should you have any questions on how you can discover life as God intends it to be for you please don’t hesitate to private message me! May God bless you and your family!


I hear people constantly talking about how bad this world has become. I hear parents talking about how terrified they are when it comes to the schools their children attend. I will not attempt to argue with either of these concerns, but I will say that there is no place like home. The home is and always will be the greatest place of influence upon a child. Good or bad, nothing will impact a child more than the home. The reason I don’t worry near as much about my children’s outside influences is the fact that I realize I have the greatest opportunity of influence in my own backyard. At the end of the day they are only in school for so many hours, but they live with me. I consider it my God given responsibility to do everything I can to make our home the place God would have it to be for them. I want my kids to say “THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME.”


Kids experience conflict and challenge everywhere they turn. Home should be a refuge from the storms. We should do everything we can to make our homes a place of peace and protection. We should always be concerned about the bickering, the internet surfing, and the developing hearts of those we are blessed to call our children. No, you can’t guard your kids from everything. But, you can with God’s help create a place that is safe and secure in your arms and care.


In our house we are not perfect. But, love is not an option. We want our boys to know that no matter what they do or will do they will always be loved. Our love is not dependent upon their performance, their grades, or their behavior. Sometimes you have to go that extra mile to prove to your children that your love is unconditional and not performance based. This is real easy to say, but much harder to live out on a daily basis.


It’s been said that a family that prays together stays together. This doesn’t mean that bad things don’t happen to good people. But, it is true that the only house that will stand tall and thrive through the years of ups and downs will be the home built on a foundation of faith. Your personal faith or lack of faith in Christ will overflow into everything you do and impact everyone you love. Put Christ first in your marriage, your family, and make God’s word the foundation of your home. If you do what’s right you can’t go wrong! The winds and waves will come, but your house will continue to stand.


To this day I still love being crazy with my crazy family. I grew up where home was a fun place to be. It wasn’t that we went a million places or had everything we wanted. But, we enjoyed each other’s company, played together, and shared a lot of laughs. Every home needs to learn how to loosen up and share the good times of life, love, and laughter. Don’t allow your home to just be a place of function, but have some fun together. Plan something that everyone will enjoy and don’t allow the stresses of life to steal your joy. Make time for fun times!


I understand that anything can happen when my kids leave my sight. I realize that others will expose my children to things that they won’t have been exposed to at home. It’s my job to do my best to instruct my kids along life’s way on the way that they should live. I have to teach them how to love their neighbor, deal with life’s challenges, conduct themselves, and most of all walk with God. This takes time and being intentional in my efforts to prepare them for the many challenges in this life.


Matthew would like to be a great tennis player and a preacher. Joel would like to be a famous singer and the best trumpet player in the world. Seth would like to play football and baseball for the University of South Carolina. Who am I to tell them what they can and cannot do in their lifetime? My job is to give them every opportunity I can to be encouraged, to spread their wings and believe they can fly anywhere God desires for them to be. We can’t beat our children into submission, but rather we must love them towards reaching their God given potential. Look for ways to encourage your child and let them know that God has BIG plans for their lives. Don’t limit their hope, but give them wings to fly!


*DISCLAIMER: Please know that I am not saying this because I think I am a perfect parent. I miss the mark daily! However, I do believe that these are ageless and priceless principles that can keep us all on track as we seek to be the parents God designed us to be! Every word I  share is biblical and even practical ways to stay on track in your parenting journey!


I have four boys, but each of them have entirely different personalities. I have to get to know each child’s skill set, interest, and mindset in order to connect with them in a way they understand. My job is not to control everything they do, but to help them reach their full God-give potential. Don’t ever try to live out your dreams and wishes through your children. Don’t ever push them into a sport, career, or relationship just because it’s what you want. In most all cases your plans will back fire on you. Let them be who God made them to be and look forward to what God is going to do through them in this life.


Your kids must have no doubt that you love them and that they are worth your time. If you are too busy to spend time with your kids then you are too busy. Most of us never feel like there are enough hours in the day to do all that we would like to do with our kids. What is most important is that we consistently spend quality one on one time with each child. This lets them know they have not been forgotten, are dearly loved, and it will keep the communication lines open as they grow up. This should not change as they get older, but becomes even more important as it is real easy to go your separate ways. Many parents quit doing the little things that matter as their kids get older and therefore their hearts grow apart from one another. Love is the bridge to effective communication and parenting.


I spent 11 years as a youth pastor and I once had a parent ask me the following question. What is the hardest thing to deal with as a youth worker? I said kindly, “Parents who tell their kids to do one thing while they’re doing another! It never works. Your words will never override your example. Your words will only carry weight when accompanied by your example. For sure this true statement scares me the most. Statistics say that 80% of children will return back to the roots of they learned at home. From how we treat our spouse, other people, and especially them throughout the years we are making lasting impressions. Daily we must ask ourselves, what kind of men and women will my children be if they follow my example?


Every age is precious and presents opportunity. I’ve got to do the best I can do while I can do it. At every point in your child’s life they need you to be present, alert, and seeking to make the most of the times you have together. From cheering them on at the ball game to talking with them late at night the first time their heart is broken it all matters. Seize the moment and don’t ever overlook their feelings or perspective.


A lot parents make sure their children have a roof over their heads, food on the table, and that they don’t play in the road. But, very few parents have an intentional plan for leading their children in the way they should go. Fortunately, we do have a manual and its call the Bible. We must allow it to lead us, our parenting, and we must encourage our children to let it lead them. We can’t expect the school house or the church house to raise our children. Parents, we must take time along life’s way to instruct and impress upon our children how God has designed for us to live. Trust me, your children will either develop naturally a world view of things or a God view of things. The world’s view will lead them to major disappointment and countless heart aches. God’s view will point them in the right direction and help them keep life in the right perspective.


I don’t know about you but one day of parenting wears my wife and I completely out. Diapers, baths, school, work, sports, homework, supper, bedtime (OH WHAT FUN), and then you get to wake up tomorrow and start all over again. We all must remember that we are on a journey and that parenting is a daily learning and growing process for us and the kids. Don’t judge things by what you see today, but keep pressing forward on your parenthood journey. Do your best every day and make adjustments as necessary.


After you’ve done your best to lead them God’s way you have to trust God completely with them. When you drop them off at school, when they go off to school, when they go out with friends, when they get married, and when they reach that age where they have to take responsibility for themselves you have to let God be God. You continue to make yourself available, coach them when you can, but then you have to pray and trust God to continue to develop them into all that He and you want them to be.




I don’t think there is a parent on the planet that in their right mind doesn’t want the best for their kids. That is something that I rarely question. What I do question is “Do they really know what is best?” Many dads and moms will work countless hours hoping to give their children the American dream. Many will make sure their children have every opportunity possible to succeed. If that means running from one activity to another most parents are willing to sacrifice it all hoping that their son or daughter has even a better life than they had in their life journey. This got me thinking in the midst of a rambling world, “What should I be trying to give my children while I have the opportunity of influence?”

Here is what I’ve seen in my short life here on this earth. Money won’t guarantee happiness. Being voted “Most likely to succeed” doesn’t mean they will. And, giving your kids “things” that only have earthly value won’t make all their dreams come true. Unfortunately, I believe we’ve all been guilty of focusing on the things that later won’t really matter, instead of parenting with eternity in mind.

The bible tells us that there are three things that remain beyond this life….FAITH, HOPE, & LOVE. Seasons of our lives will pass away, trophies will collect dust, and accomplishments will be forgotten. But, FAITH, HOPE, and LOVE will endure forever. This should compel us to do everything we can to give our children all three of these priceless gifts.

#1 FAITH…..The Bible says “What good it it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul.” Many don’t want to face this reality, but we are all going to die. And, when we die we are going to stand before God and face judgement. And, depending on whether we have put our faith and trust in Jesus Christ we will either go to Heaven or Hell. This is not my opinion, this is what we read in God’s word. Knowing this compels me to make sure that I am ready to meet my maker, since death can come at anytime and any age. But, it also compels me to do everything I can to make sure that my boys understand that there is a life beyond this life….it’s called eternity. And, I want them to know that they have a choice in front of them. The can either live by the flesh or live by faith. They can either reject Jesus or accept Jesus. If they accept Jesus into their hearts by grace and through faith they will be saved and go to Heaven. If they do nothing about their sinful condition they will get what we all deserve eternity in Hell.

Now, I don’t just want to make sure that each of my boys have prepared themselves for eternity. I want to teach them to live by faith and with eternity in mind. I want to show them how they can trust God fully regardless of their circumstances, income, setbacks, or short comings. Now, here is the problem for most. You can’t share with someone, something you don’t have yourself. You can’t lead someone, somewhere you’re not going yourself. Living by faith is a lifestyle and must be modeled before our children. If all they think we care about is worldy stuff they too will put their stock in things that will disappoint and fade away. But, if they see our lives being built upon and anchored by faith they too will know how to build a life that will last.

#2 HOPE……There is no doubt kids growing up today see and hear a culture that is in distress and panic. Many don’t know what tomorrow will bring and they are popping pills  and downing drinks trying to extinguish their anxiety. I want my children to know that we each have somewhere we can turn for help. God will hear and answer our prayers. God will take care of us and never leave nor forsake us.

My kids have seen my wife and I on several occassions when money was tight and things were uncertain gather everyone together for prayer. I want my boys to be well prepared for the pressures and stresses this world will throw their way. Therefore, I have to make sure they understand that their hope is not dependent upon their circumstance, their parents, or their abilities. Our HOPE is found in God and God alone. He is our refuge, our provider, our sustainer, our redeemer, our captain, our rock, our coach, our savior, our everlasting prince of peace, our ever present HOPE in time of need. My boys need to see that in the darkest of times we have a constant hope even if everyone else abandons us.

#3 LOVE……We all throw this word around loosely and quickly. We love our kids. Well if we love our kids we should do what is best for them not sometimes, but all the times. A)Love them Like Jesus…..This means love them despite who they are and who they become. A parents love should go beyond all others and beyond what we feel about situations. We should be their greatest cheerleader and their greatest coach. We should love them enough to talk with them about the everyday issues of life. We should love them enough to walk with them through dark valleys and assure them that we will remain by their side through it all. B)Love them to Jesus. I sincerely believe that my greatest job as a parent is to prepare my boys to live without me, not to live with me. I want them to their own faith, hope, and love. I want their marriages to be way above average and their families to be a blessing for all they come in contact with. Everyday is an opporuintiy to lead, guide, and model faith, hope, and love. I don’t want to look back as many parents have shared with me through the years and say, “I wish I would have done that…..”

My friends if you still have children living within the home that are under the age of 18. We have a responsibility and a tremendous opportunity to prepare our children for life. Make sure that you’re living each day with the end in mind. Make sure you do everything you can from this moment forward to model and pass on to your children these greatest gifts.

(1 Corinthians 13:13)And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.


If you live on this imperfect planet full of imperfect people you will be hurt, misunderstood, and treated unjustly at some point. Even Jesus the only perfect person to grace this planet faced this reality. It is so important that each of us understand where much of this behavior comes from and that each of us are capable of this hurtful behavior. Here are many of the reasons people say and do hurtful stuff.


We’ve all been guilty of saying things about people that we have not observed first hand or received from a credible source. We’re ignorant of what we’re sharing, but we share it as if its certain truth. What is spoken out of ignorance becomes a rumor that can hurt someone deeply and majorly disrupt their life.


This is probably the chief reason people say hurtful stuff. Anytime a person is still operating out of an unforgiving heart, a jealous spirit, and a deep rooted bitterness expect that person to operate like an animal with rabies. When we operate out of bitterness we naturally do and say things that we believe could make the other person hurt like us and make the score at least even.


I have always said that trials in this life either make us bitter or better. Adversity does have the potential to build our character, but it for sure reveals our character. As we grow up and develop greater character we learn how to step back and not be so quick to react in the heat of the moment. Character is a reflection of someone’s heart condition and out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.


Many of the grumpiest and most defensive people you know fall in this category. It’s been said that misery loves company. The most miserable people I know are the loudest, most defensive, and most destructive people I know. Like a person drowning they quickly pull others under water even though you may sincerely be trying to help them. These people only want what we all want, PEACE. But, because they are miserable they make others miserable simply by association.They are acting out the overflow of where they are and not everything they do should be taken so personal.


Tell me you’ve not spoken words that you wish you could take back. Anytime we speak before we think it’s rarely a good thing. Anytime we speak everything we are thinking we are bound to say careless words that negatively affect others lives. The Bible makes it clear that we need to be slow to speak because our words do matter.


We all deep down are like little kids. We will take attention anyway we can get it….Positive or Negative. Feeding a negative person with attention associated with their behavior is just adding fuel to a fire. It just keeps it burning and burning. Believe it or not, one of the best ways to limit “potty mouth” is to not be quick to react and feed them with attention that only fuels their behavior.


Parents our kids will follow our patterns and examples. There are a lot of grown children raising children these days. There are for sure a lot of homes where God’s way is never mentioned. Behavior and for sure attitudes are contagious. There does come a point where each of us can’t just blame the homes we grew up in and the things we deal with in this life. We have to take responsibility for our actions and realize we will give account for every action and word spoken.


We are all instruments made for God’s glory. However, there is some truth to someone saying, “The Devil Made Me Do It.” At all times, we are either being led by the Spirit of God or the Flesh. The flesh is sinful and can quickly spout out words that pierce like a knife and make people around feel worthless. Anytime I’m not being led by God, I’m allowing the devil to lead my thoughts and my actions. We can’t ever expect someone full of the devil to act like they are full of God.

 I would like to wrap all this up by saying the following. We need not compare ourselves to one another or point the finger at others for all they have done. We are all sinners in need of God’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness! Rather, we need to pray for each other and deal with the junk in our own trunk. Yes, someone may have hurt you for one of the above reasons, but you have to let it go. God will bring justice in the end and you won’t fix anything by dwelling on the uncontrollable. Take account for your own actions and pray for even those who persecute you. God loves you and God loves them. Jesus died for us all……Praise God, Praise God!

 (Matthew 12:36)But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.




Christians, Preachers, & Politicians

Anyone that knows me has rarely if ever heard me talk about politics. Over the years I’ve heard many imply that preachers and politicians have a lot in common. Honestly, I have never liked the comparison, but I will admit that I can see some comparision. Personally, I have never felt like I was trying to win man’s approval or was I trying to make a name for myself. All I know and still know is that God has called me to be a pastor and I accept that responsibility. Now, I will admit that I have watched a good bit of this year’s republican and democratic conventions for probably the first time in my life. And, though I am still praying and processing my vote, several things stood out that I feel preachers, politicians, and any professing Christian needs to hear.     

#1:  People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

When people look into your eyes they want to see your heart. They want to know that you genuinely care about them. People are surrounded by people who just use them and treat them like they don’t really matter. As Christians we are ordered by God to love others as ourselves. This love is more than a sales pitch, more than a kind gesture, but an ongoing display of genuine love for mankind. It’s ok to say you don’t like everything others do, but love for someone is not an option. There has never been a time and there will never will be a time that love doesn’t matter. People matter to God and they should matter to us. Your love for people should always trump your opinion of people.

 #2:  No one likes to be force fed the truth.

I don’t have to tell anyone that there is a huge disconnect between most churches and their surrounding communities. Some would say it’s just the signs of the times. Others would say it’s because churches have not kept up with today’s times.  Now, I would not argue that either one of those haven’t played a part of the problem. But, here is something that I know is a barrier. Anytime, Christians, Preachers, or Politicians seek to force their beliefs upon someone else it rarely works in a positive fashion. I know countless people who grew up feeling they were forced to abide by certain religious practices that to this day want nothing to do with those practices or those people. This has nothing to do with whether there was truth to what they were taught or that these were intended for their good. The bottom line is your approach to carrying any message to another matters a lot. For example, when I preach I never back down from telling the truth regardless of my audience. I preach what I best interpret the Bible has to say about life and eternity. However, I never do so without laying a foundation of clear love for people and that I am speaking on behalf of God. It is time for us each to realize that the truth will not and should not change. But, the way we deliver most truth to others must! We must do so with grace, understanding, compassion, and a Christ like love. And, then once we’ve spoken the truth and the facts, leave the choice of accepting that truth to others.

 #3:  Trust is built over time.

I’ve always believed that I must earn the right to be heard by someone. Some people are quick to trust anyone, but most of us have been burned over time. We all walk around with scars and even some open wounds from past hurts and disappointments. Trust must be built and can’t be bought. Whether a politician, preacher, or Christian we have to gain people’s trust before we can expect anyone to listen to our message. This is built through the display of true character, compassion, and consistency over time. Remember, building trust is a process, not an event. We must all do the little things that will make a big difference when it comes to earning the trust of those we hope to lead.

 #4:  People want hope, not more chaos. Many people won’t  listen to any debates because they’ve heard enough politic bashing over time. Many people won’t walk into a church because they’ve seen as much chaos within the church as they have outside the church. Many don’t want what most professing Christians have because their lives and lifestyles appear more chaotic than theirs. Not that life is full of butterflies and sunshine, but people are looking for hope. In the midst of chaos and great stress people are looking for hope. People are looking for a reason to wake up another day and look forward to the future. Often times we are heard more for what we’re against than what we are for in this life. Our greatest words of hope are covered by chaos and criticism of one another.




Are you drowning in stress? Tired of carrying the same burdens, getting the same calls from bill collectors, and dealing with the same constant chaos both at work and home? I believe most of us feel we’re caught on a merry go round that is making us both sick and tired. What can we do? What should we do when we feel overwhelmed by life’s demands?

Here are three great places to start……

#1  TALK WITH SOMEBODY….Often times we just need a shoulder to cry on and  a safe place to vent. Confessing our heartache, frustrations, and many short comings is often times the begining of healing. Like the relief that comes from throwing up when you have a bad virus is the relief we find when we just get things off our chest that aren’t meant to stay there. You just feel better afterwards! Maybe you need some advice and a fresh perspective as you approach life issues. Maybe you don’t need answers or fixing, but just someone who cares by your side as you process your overwhelming feeling. *Don’t look for someone you think has all the answers, but someone you know that cares about you and what you’re going through.It can make a world of difference and bring some instant relief!

(James 5:16) Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.

#2  TURN “EVERYTHING” OVER TO GOD….There is nothing in your life that doesn’t matter to God. God tells us to “Cast all of our cares upon Him because He cares for us.” Prayer is the only way to find true relief and the assurance that you’ve placed things in good hands. Some things you just need to give to God and trust him with the results. Some things are a matter of ongoing prayer as you seek God’s ongoing strength, guidance, and peace in the midst of an otherwise unbearable situation. So, why don’t you turn “everything” over to God right now. Your marriage, your children, your finances, your work, your past, your present, and for certain your future. It will take a mountain off your shoulders as you put things on God’s broad, loving shoulders.

(Philippians 4:6-7)Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

#3  LET GOD BE GOD……I tell myself this often. Craig, there is a God and you’re not him! I am convinced that most of us think we’re Super Man or Wonder Woman. You can’t do everything and you can’t be everything to everyone. Trust me, I’ve tried in the past only to realize that I am not “All Powerful”, “All Knowing”, or able to be “All Present”. The great news is God is aware of everything, able to do anything, and able to be everywhere at once. *Trying to hold the world in our hands will always be far beyond our abilities. So, Let Go and Let God Be God!

(Psalm 46:10) He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”


If you live long enough you will have someone hurt you. Most heartache comes from relationships that seem so promising and secure, but blow up before we can really make sense of anything. Yes, things develop over time and we can see signs as we look back, but the pain is still real. Picking up the debris from a 9-11 encounter with someone is not an event but a process. Because I counsel so many people dealing with relationship hurt this topic is very dear to my heart and possibly relevant to your life. Here are some things you must know when you feel hurt deeply by someone you really cared about and thought this would never happen.

#1 Step away and cool down  It’s been said that sometimes you can’t see the forest for the trees. Even Jesus had to step away from the crowds, cool down, and refocus on the task at hand. If you react out of your heaviness you are bound to say and do things that are out of character. These things will just add to your regret and prolong your pain.

(Luke 5:16)But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

#2 Recognize your real enemy. Satan is always seeking to destroy relationships and people in the process. Understand that you are in more of a spiritual battle than a physical battle. Otherwise, your words and actions will resemble that of a school boy who feels they have something to prove. As we mature, we have to learn that some of the biggest battles in this life aren’t won with our fists or with words but on our knees.

(1 Peter 5:8) Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

#3 Process the Misunderstanding. Whether you or they were mistaken I promise you there was some level of misunderstanding. Often the misunderstanding works both ways as we don’t always know what we think we know. We are often so blinded by our own perspective, feelings, and pain that we can’t see the bigger picture. It is very easy for there to be a breakdown of communication between two people. Process what you may have misunderstood about them and what they may have misunderstood about you. This may not fix anything immediately, but it will help you deal with things with a much greater understanding. Not everything has a rhyme or reason. However, many times someone’s behavior is fueled by their level of understanding or misunderstanding.

(James 5:16)Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.

#4 Pray for peace. We will never be able to fully know how, but peace comes when we let go and let God have control of the situation. Turning things over to God assures you that everything is in good hands. Turning things over to God takes the weight of the world off your shoulders. Just a word of great importance…Don’t just ask God for mercy, but repent of any way you may have stepped out of line in your actions. Your prayers should not be about God just fixing them, but you asking God to heal you both.

(Philippians 4:6-7) Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

#5 Leave Justice to God.  There is always a great temptation to take matters into your own hands. We want to show them they don’t mess with us. We want to prove that we were right and they were wrong. We want to make them hurt like they hurt us. These are all normal feelings to have when your heart is racing and your blood pressure is rising. Fortunately, we don’t have to take justice into our own hands. God will have the final say and justice will prevail in the end. Either on this side or the other side of eternity.

(Galatians 6:7) Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. People reap what they sow.


Knowing that 60 % of marriages end in divorce I decided to reflect on some things I’ve discovered make the difference between a marriage that is lucky to survive versus one that thrives. Here are seven things that set great marriages apart from the average. I pray it encourages your relationship in some way, shape, or form.


Aimee and I both knew each other before we got married. We dated for over 4 years before getting married. No, I don’t think there is any magic number of months or years that a couple must date before marriage. But, I do believe that two people should at least have a true idea of who they are marrying before they walk that aisle and say “I Do”. You need to do a background check and most of all a character check of the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with on this earth. Time reveals a lot of things and character is one of them.


We learned how to fight before we got married and we continue to learn. Over time we’ve learned how to fight and make up each day. Until you’ve had some major disagreements and learned how to resolve those together you can’t have a deep relationship. Don’t be afraid of conflict, but see it as an opportunity to grow closer together even if you are worlds apart. No relationship is without conflict and there will always be differences that must be worked out. Any time I hear a couple tell me that they’ve  never had a major disagreement that lets me know two things. One, they aren’t married. Two, they have not really gotten to know each other. They just have a surface, puppy love relationship. Learn how to fight and deal with everyday conflict with love and understanding. Don’t let things pile up until you explode or the other person is packing their bags to leave.


Feelings come and go. Beauty is fleeting. But, faith is eternal and the glue necessary for keeping any marriage solid and two people on the same page.Does it matter that they aren’t a Christian? You bet it does. Does it matter that one of you see faith as a huge priority and the other person doesn’t? Absolutely. Most marriages that end in divorce do so because their relationship is built around circumstantial feelings and wishful thinking. The scripture is clear that unless a house or a “marriage” is built on Christ “The Rock” it’s foundation is destined to collapse. We started out united in faith and that continues to be the greatest bridge in our relationship.We both know that faith is the glue. For most couples “Faith is an after thought and something that each person keeps in their pocket. The truth is without God’s help and grace, no marriage can be what God created it to be. The only thing that separates a great marriage from a train wreck is God’s goodness and power to bring oneness between two imperfect people.


Nothing is a greater “Red Flag” to me than a couple who says the kids come first and they are our world. Well guess what, you are raising your kids to one day leave, but you and your spouse will be living together the rest of your lives. If you build everything around the kids now you will have no relationship apart from them later. Maybe you don’t have kids, but the two of you never spend quality time together due to work or outside interests. Make time for each other or you will drift apart even if you live in the same house. We have always taken time for “US”. A lot can get in the way of a marriage. Work, Kids, etc…You have to make time for your relationship. You can’t build around kids, work, or anything else. I love my kids to death, but my kids know that “Momma” comes first. I love being a pastor, but I don’t put it above being a husband.


A great marriage takes two people wholeheartedly committed to loving, cherishing, and honoring one another as long as they both shall live. We have never seen divorce as an option. We don’t look for a way out of our issues, but for the best way to get through the adversity in this life “Together”.  I’ll never forget a gentleman I worked with several years ago who was happily married. This man had been married for over 20 years and one day we were eating lunch together. While he was eating lunch I saw him reading something he pulled out of his wallet. I said, What are you reading so seriously over there? He said, “This is a copy of my wedding vows I promised to my wife years ago. I pull them out from time to time so that I can remember what I promised her.” Wow, I thought to myself. This man takes his wedding vows very seriously and he had a great marriage to prove it.


Many ignorant people think the grass is always greener on the other side. Oh, if I could only find the right person and the perfect person things would be perfect. We both know there are no perfect marriages. The grass is not always greener on the other side. When you get married you go from one imperfect person to two imperfect people seeking to become one. Every marriage is a challenge and every couple has to learn over time how to love and understand the person they’ve chosen to marry.


We both understand LOVE is more than feeling. You hear people saying all the time that they’ve fallen in and out of love with someone. You may grow frustrated, grow apart, or grow not to appreciate the person they have become. But, love is a choice. Love is to choice to care for someone no matter what they may do or say. This doesn’t mean you just let someone do whatever they want to do with no consequence or accountability. But, it does mean that love is risky. You have to put your whole heart out there. Love should not be dependent upon how I feel otherwise you will leave early. But, Love is a commitment to love , cherish, and honor your partner come rain, snow, or sunshine. For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health as long as you both shall live.

(1 Corinthians 13:4-8)   Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

15 Things You Might Not Know About Us

Every marriage made in Heaven has a story of how God brought two people together. Looking back it is always amazing to see how God’s will is not limited by distance or circumstance. In celebration of our 15 Years of Marriage here are : 


1) Aimee was born in El Paso, Texas and I was born in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. Her dad served in the Army and my dad served in the Marines.

2) We met at St. George High School, but never started dating until I graduated and Aimee was a junior.

3) Early into dating, Aimee and I both attended a Youth Bible Study. Later that night, out in my car I had the joy of leading my wife into a life changing relationship with Jesus.

4) Aimee did not grow up going to church often and I never even thought about being a preacher.

5) Aimee and I both attended Charleston Southern University. GO BUCS!

6) We went to seminary at SWBTS in Fort Worth, Texas. We moved 18 hours away from all family and friends with our first child Matthew who was 5 months old at the time.

7) In just 15 years of marriage we’ve moved all of our stuff and belongings to 12 different locations and homes. We still have things that have been boxed for years.

8) In the last 15 years God has called us to serve at seven different churches as youth pastor, associate pastor, founding pastor, and presently chaplain at Hospice.

 9) Aimee and I have both been in what could have been life ending car wrecks. Aimee broke the windshield with her head, was covered in blood and came home two hours later from MUSC hospital. I was hit head on by a drunk driver who ran straight through a stop sign at 55 mph. Both cars were more than totaled and we both walked away with no major injuries. I guess that proves we both have hard heads and that God has the final say!

10) In October 2004, we literally left everything to start a church in St. George, SC my hometown. We left all income, lived with family for six months, and our boys were 5, 3, & 1 at that time. All we knew was God was in charge and we were clueless. I worked two jobs, plus the church, and within six months GracePointe Church was the largest church in Upper Dorchester County.

11) On our 10th anniversary Aimee and I went on our first every cruise together to the Bahamas. I sang her about a 100 songs at karaoke, whileshe rolled her eyes until I quit.

12). Aimee has put together practically every piece of furniture in our home. I do however, cut the grass and help with house work! I may turn my man card in after telling you this, but the truth is the truth. It just boils down to she actually reads the directions!

13) In 15 years we’ve been blessed with four healthy boys. They are now in 8th, 6th, and 3rd grade…(Oh and there is a 2 ½ yr old that runs wild . Aimee deserves 4 gold medals because each of these big boys came into this world basically 9 pounds or bigger a piece.

 14) We have gone on some kind of “Couple Only” retreat every year we’ve been married. We both have always believed that we must make time for our relationship.

 15) Aimee and I have a much closer relationship today than we ever had when we first started out. We’ve learned and are still learning how to communicate and live with one another in an understanding way. I’ve gotten a lot smarter over time. I actually listen to my wife!










“15” Reasons I Love My Wife

I still recall that night God spoke clearly to my heart, “Craig, you have found the one you can’t live without. “ It was then, I knew my search was over and that Aimee Lynn Perrin was meant to be my lifelong partner. By God’s grace, she said YES after I proposed to her at a window seat in California Dreaming. Finally, after dating 4 ½ years we both walked the aisle, exchanged sacred vows, and began this amazing adventure called marriage on August 23, 1997. Today, we celebrate our 15th Wedding Anniversary. As part of this celebration I’ve written the following: “15 Reasons I Love My Wife”.


Radiates both Inside & Out


Makes life more colorful


Keeps her by my side


Makes her my greatest cheerleader


Keeps her strong and focused


Never leaves me lonely


Forgives my countless mistakes


Brings many words of wisdom


Moves my heart to love her more


Gives me room to fly


Keeps me honest and grounded


Takes me places I could never go alone


Shines through countless acts of unselfishness


To honor, love, and cherish me daily brings joy to my heart


Changed my life on August 23, 1997…..I can’t imagine life without her!

 Aimee, as long as there is breath in me I will Love, Cherish, and Honor You

For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer

As long as we both shall live

-Love Craig




Woke Up On The Wrong Side?

I woke up earlier than usual to help my wife get our boys ready for their first day back at school. Aimee headed one way with our middle school boys, while I headed to the elementary school with a 3rd grader and a two year old by my side. I must admit that I woke up with the wrong perspective. Thinking to myself, “Oh Lord, why do I have to get out of this bed so early and why do I have to take these kids to school?” Man, did I need a major attitude adjustment. By 8a.m. my entire perspective was changed as I found myself saying, “thank you God for another day with my kids, teachers who care, and a job where I know we have the opportunity to make an eternal difference.

            What about you? Are you looking at life as a glass half empty or half full? A pessimistic attitude can be very contagious and someone like me could be contributing to ungratefulness. Now, I know deep down that we’re all thankful for the blessings in our everyday life. We are thankful for jobs that pay the bills. We are thankful for family and friends by our side. And, we’re even thankful for the opportunities our children have to learn (we just wish they could do that in the evenings)! Seriously, we all know we’re blessed by God with anything we have, but sometimes we fail to thank him amidst our present frustration.

            I have decided that from this moment forward I will wake up and say, “Thank you God I woke up” instead of “Oh Lord, Do I have to get up?” I will give thanks to the God who created me, has given me a daily purpose, and a family to share the ups and downs of life with. What about you? Will you give thanks for what you do have or throw fits over what you don’t? Will you see this day as just another day or a God-made day? Well, I have to get to work. God bless you all!

(1 Thessalonians 5:18)give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

(James 1:17)Every good and perfect gift is from above,coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights,who does not changelike shifting shadows.


College football is about to kickoff not that I’m counting down the days. Millions will tune in to watch their favorite teams. Gamecocks, Tigers, Panthers, and countless other fans will fill the stands or enjoy the game on TV, internet, or radio. Will you be one of them? Before you get swept away by football mania let’s put this sport into perspective. My wife will quickly tell you that my favorite television station by far is ESPN and my favorite sport by far is college football. I’m one of those guys who hopes to watch every game regardless of who’s playing, but I don’t want to take things too far. Here is when football is the devil…

When football IS YOUR LIFE…They call them football widows. Just like some ladies won’t see their husbands much this fall because of their hunting obsession the same will hold true for those who live for the upcoming football season. When the sport itself becomes bigger than life it will throw your entire life and priorities out of order. Don’t let it!

When football CHEATS YOUR FAMILY…Everybody needs a hobby, but when it becomes an obsession everyone around you pays dearly. Several years back my wife asked me a very fair question. She asked, “Do you think on Saturdays you can limit yourself to just one ball game so that we can actually do something together as a family.” It was at that moment that I realized my family was suffering from what I viewed as a harmless game. It’s fine to enjoy watching ball games, but if your spouse and kids hate you during the season it’s not worth it.

When football is MORE THAN JUST A GAME….I love South Carolina football, but I remind myself before and after every ball game that it is just a game. One team will win and another team will lose. To put things into greater perspective, a year from now no one will care who won that day. It’s just a game! You’re not playing and it won’t affect your overall future in life. Don’t forget it or you are bound to be disappointed because undefeated seasons are rare.

 When football is YOUR GOD…There is no arguing that many worship the game of football. Countless hours and billions of dollars will be spent on the sport. You worship whatever you care the most about, give the most to, and do the most for. People who can barely pay their light bill will purchase season tickets. People who give nothing to support their local church will pay hundreds to watch a sport that holds no eternal value. When football itself dictates your life and perspective more than God’s word you have crowned football as your God, which is a very dangerous play to be.

(Matthew 6:19-21) 19 Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.


             My granddad was one of the hardest working men I’ve ever known. He was a very successful business man, made a lot of money, and helped a lot of people throughout his  87 years. The only thing he never learned how to do was take a vacation. Maybe it was his upbringing, his generation, or just his preference. If he ran into you enjoying a weekday apart from work he would call it “unapplied time”. I would tell him then what I still believe now, “I love me some unapplied time.”

            I was raised to work hard and to carry your weight in this life. Every day I wake up and ask God to use me as a living sacrifice that brings joy to His heart and hope to others. However, I believe we all need to know when it’s time to get away. Granddad worked six days a week and then went to church all day Sunday. I can’t recall a single time he really got away the entire time I knew him. He did take us to his lake house periodically. But, even those days consisted of picking up pine cones, burning debris all day and then heading back home with a belly full of sardines. I thought we were going to have fun, fish and go swimming. It never happened. Here is why I’m so passionate about vacation.

 VACATION IS A TIME TO “RUN AWAY” from the everyday, routine, and stressful things of life. Yes, it will all still be there when you return, but you need a break. Whether you go to the beach, the mountains, or somewhere you’ve never gone before make sure you leave behind the demands and deadlines.

 VACATION IS A TIME TO “RELAX”. Catch up on sleep, prop your feet up in the air, and make life as easy as possible. I feel really sorry for those who never learn how to relax, have fun and enjoy “unapplied time”.

 VACATION IS A TIME TO “REFOCUS” on what matters most. If you don’t break away and slow down you’ll never be able to evaluate where you are and where you’re headed in this life. Maybe some family time is long overdue. Maybe you and your spouse are drifting apart. Maybe you need time to ponder and pray about some very important decisions that lie ahead.

 VACATION IS A TIME TO “RECHARGE”. The longer you keep going through the motions of life the closer you are to burnout. Everyone needs their strength restored, their stress reduced, and their passion in life renewed.

 VACATION IS A TIME TO “REFRESH”. Anything gets old after a while and you just need a change of sights and sounds. Get out, smell the roses, and put your toes in the sand God made. When it’s all said and done you will return to work better and stronger.

 I wholeheartedly believe that a good vacation is critical to maintaining a healthy lifestyle, a healthy family, and a healthy perspective. I usually plan our vacation time months in advance because I don’t see it as an option, but a necessity!


They are family, friends, co-workers, classmates, neighbors, acquaintances and even church members. You stumble into them and know that a war awaits. They raise your blood pressure and always seem ready to fight. They are “Complicated People.”

Usually we do our best to avoid them. If we see them coming our way we seek to run or hide. If we recognize their name on the caller ID we don’t answer. Should we have to encounter them we pray God gives us patience and deliverance. Sometimes complicated people are avoidable, but sometimes they aren’t. Complicated people force us to put together a different game plan when it comes to dealing with their unpredictable behavior. Here are some things we should do….


Complicated people aren’t trying to be complicated, they just are complicated. There is no rhyme or reason as to what they say or do. They are like a baby full of milk who has been shaken and then throws up on whoever might be near them at the moment. It’s not personal, but simply a reflection of a battle raging within them. Complicated people are dealing with a volcano on the inside that keeps erupting on the outside. Each of us operate out of where we are and out of the overflow of our heart’s condition.

(Luke 6:45) “Good people bring good things out of the good stored up in their heart, and evil people bring evil things out of the evil stored up in their heart. For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.”


Saying too much to a complicated person is like pouring gasoline on a fire. It just flares things up and increases the chaos. Complicated people wait for you to say anything that might even seem the slightest bit offensive so that they might have a cause to defend.Don’t ever think you can win a battle of words with someone who is not healthy enough to carry on a healthy conversation. Listen to what they are saying and consider deeply what is necessary and beneficial to say. Saying a bunch of words may make you feel better at the moment, but if all you do is stoop to their level nothing good will come from it.

(James 1:19-20) 19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because our anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.


The most complicated people are flat miserable. They feel unloved, unappreciated, and that no one really cares. They take on a seemingly carefree attitude when in all actuality they just want to be accepted, loved, and appreciated. Often times when someone is starving for attention they will take it any way they can get it (Positive or Negative).The greatest sign that God lives within us is God’s love pouring through us. Complicated people don’t need some love, they need more love.

(1 John 4:11-13) 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit.


There are times we have to step away. You stick around complicated people too long and you will soon become like the company you keep. Scripture tells us that even Jesus found it necessary to step away from the crowds and complicated people. Notice, I did not say run away, but step away. Take time to refocus, regroup, and recharge in God’s presence. This will allow you the opportunity to look proactively instead of reactively at life’s challenges.

(Luke 5:16) Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.


Only God can heal the hurting, harassed and helpless. None us can fix anyone or change someone’s heart. Only God can heal them and give them peace from the inside/out.

I believe one of the areas we fail miserably in as Christ followers is our lack of prayer and especially prayer for those we feel oppose us. Instead of wishing them harm, pray they find God’s peace and purpose in their life. They matter to God, so they should matter to us. Their words may be sharp, but their pain is deep. They may act very careless, but inside they feel hopeless. Pray that God heals the root of what is bothering them and that they might soon be able to process what is tormenting them.

(Matthew 5:44) But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,


If you don’t know by now, God uses the toughest times in your life to speak to you the loudest.
I guess its the only way he can get our full attention….Here is just a little something I felt inspired to share with you all.

There are times in life you aren’t sure what’s going on around you.
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when everything and everyone seems to be falling apart.
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when you feel like giving up and giving in.
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when you question everything in your life
But, you know GOD IS THERE.
There are times when you wonder what’s next
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when the future feels so uncertain
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when you think you are going to break
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when you wonder how much more your heart can take
But, you know GOD IS THERE
There are times when you wonder how you’ll get through this alone
But, you know GOD IS TEHRE
My friends, what an awesome thing to know
That no matter where you go or what you are facing… GOD IS THERE.

God says,
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you”
So, we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?” (Hebrews 13:5-6)

Some Things I’ve Learned About Life

Recently, I took some much needed time to reflect on things that God has taught me through the years. Of course, we’re always learning, but I think the following top ten is worth sharing. Hope you’ll read it and make comments…


 1.  LIFE IS NOT ABOUT ME. I definitely believe it’s when you understand life is all about God’s glory and not your own agenda that you began to separate yourself from the everyday crowd.(READ: 1 Corinthians 10:31)

 2. LIFE IS SHORT. Most of us when we were younger thought we would live forever. But, after you attend enough funerals and lose enough loved ones you quit taking this life for granted. It’s not until you start living like you’re dying that you begin to make the most of this life.(READ: James 4:13-17)

 3.  LIFE IS HARD. Over the last 20 years I have attended a lot of high school graduations. At, at every one of them I have wanted to run down, grab the microphone, and let every graduate know that life is not going to get any easier. I wake up each day not wanting trials, but expecting trials in this life. And, I ask God to help me be prepared when they come. (READ: John 16:33)

 4.  LIFE IS NOT FAIR. If you live in the same world as me you see what you would call a lot of injustice. And, there is temptation to want to take matters into our own hands. But, God has impressed upon my heart that no this life will never be fair, but in the end God will bring justice.(READ: Romans 14:12)

 5.  LIFE IS NOT MEANT TO BE LIVED ALONE. Anyone who says I don’t need others in my life or I don’t want others in my life doesn’t realize the necessity of relationships. God said in the book of Genesis, “It is not good for man to be alone.” We all have times where we need encouragement, accountability, and an out pouring of God’s love through friends, family, or even a perfect stranger.(READ: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

 6.  LIFE HAS ALREADY BEEN PLANNED. One of the most freeing and exciting things is knowing that God has a plan for your life. And, you don’t need to create your purpose, but rather you need to discover your God given purpose. Rick Warren makes this very understandable and clear in his best selling book “The Purpose Driven Life”. (READ: Jeremiah 29:11)

 7.  THIS LIFE IS NOT THE END. When I realize that I am just passing through this life on the way to the next I find it dramatically changes my perspective. This life is temporary. The Bible says that we will die someday. And, when we die we will stand before God where it will be determined where we spend eternity in Heaven or Hell. I know I am just passing through this world on my way to the next. Therefore, I live each day with eternity in mind. (READ: Matthew 6:19-20)

 8.   THIS LIFE WILL NEVER SATSIFY ME. I meet too many people who are still looking for that perfect lover, that perfect job, or that perfect something. The older I get the more I realize that this life and what it has to offer will never give me fulfillment. Only through my personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ am I able to find peace, comfort, and satisfaction. We all have a God shaped void within us. Nothing else and no one else can fill that emptiness inside of you! (READ: John 4:13-14)

 9.  LIFE DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. God has taught me that it is not my job to try to figure out all that goes around me. Instead, I need to trust God not matter what happens around me.(READ: Proverbs 3:5-6)

 10.  THIS LIFE IS EVER CHANGING.  Everyone one of us are somewhere in life that we’ve never been before. A high school student, a college graduate, just married, a first time parent, a grandparent, on top of the world, then on our way out of this world…..(READ: Ecclesiastes 3:1-2)

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Money Matters

I think we can admit that money is a hot topic in every household. Especially these days when things are tight for most and tough decisions have to made. Maybe you are at a point where you need a financial makeover? Or maybe you just need a renewed perspective when it comes to money? Here are ten things I’ve learned about money and still learning……

 1.  Society should never be my role model. (Most people are drowning in debt)

 2.  If I don’t manage my money, my money will manage me.

 3.  A budget is always necessary and it frees me to focus on more important things.

 4.  Money is something to be utilized, but never idolized.

 5.  God is my provider and will always make sure I have what I NEED.

 6.   Worrying about money all the time FIXES NOTHING.

 7.   You will never have enough…Learn to be content with what you have…

 8.  Honor God with every dollar and He will bless your every dollar!

 9.  It really is more blessed to give than it is to receive.

 10.  I will give an account one day for how I manage what God gave me in the first place.

 *Not only are these things practical, but everyone one of them are biblical.

3 Things Every Parent Should Know

1.  Your kids need you! More than the bills paid, more than pop corn and the movie, your kids need you. Yes, I know you’ve got to work and you are very busy. But, you must make time to spend with each of your children. As you know, they grow up quick and you will wish you spent more time with them later.

*I have four boys of my own as most of you know. I try as often as possible to have daddy days with each one of them individually. During that time I may take one of them fishing, to get ice cream, or just on a ride with me to do something for someone in need. The main goal is that I spend time with them, letting them know I care, and listening to what is going on in their life. Nothing spells love like TIME. Your kids know when they are a top priority to you and whether they are more important than your work, your church, and any other commitments you might have.

2.  Your kids are watching you!  Yes, I know that’s pretty scary, but so true. Kids are smarter than we give them credit. They see how we treat our spouse, they see how we spend our time, they see how we handle life. One thing we all have to remember is that each day of parenting is an opportunity of preparation. My kids won’t live with me all my life, so it is my God given role to prepare them for life without me. We teach loudest by what we do, not just by what we say. What is your life teaching your child.

*I sincerely believe most parents dearly love their children, but most of us are failing miserably in the area of leading by example.

3.  Your kids are following you. It’s been said that 85% of children will follow in their parents footsteps. So, where are you leading your children. If they follow you dad, what kind of man will they become? If they are following you Mom, what kind of woman will they become? They will learn from you how a marriage should or should not work. They will learn from you how a family should or should not function. Yes, others will have influence on your children, but the primary influencer in the end will be parents. For good or bad, for better or worse, your influence will matter.

*I pray that everyone one of us will fully accept the God given blessing of raising up our children in the way God would have us to do.

I could write much more on this matter. But, I would love for you to add your thoughts. What are some things you believe parents really need to know and make priority in raising their kids?

Aim to Win The Gold

Have you been watching the Olympics? Last I checked Team USA  and China were leading the pack with gold medals. One of the events we’ve racked up the medals in has been swimming. I can only imagine how much hard work, laps, and exhaustion have gone into each participant training for the Olympics. Most of those who win a gold medal have trained all their life, put in countless hours, and dealt with much adversity before they could proudly see their countries flag raised in their honor. We live in a day and time where everyone wants the prize, but few are willing to endure what it takes to get there. Here are some things you want to keep in mind if you’re aim to win the gold.


 I used to work as a life guard at a camp where every fifteen minutes we blew our whistles and yelled, “BUDDY CHECK”. At that time, everyone had to grab the hand of their buddy and lift them high. Those found without a buddy had to sit a while outside the water. Why? Because everyone needed a buddy just in case something happened. We all need buddies to be there when we’re discouraged or maybe even drowning as life knocks us down. Who’s your buddy? I can promise you that none of us will make it far without others around us, with us, and at times even there to carry us through tough times.

(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their work:
10 If one falls down,his friend can help him up. But pity the man who fallsand has no one to help him up!


Whether we accept them or reject them, God has given us a rule book (THE BIBLE). Those who choose to live by it can’t go wrong, but those who choose to just ignore its instruction and commands will live to regret it. In the end “lack of integrity” will prove costly. Just ask Joe Paterno and his family who not only saw his statue removed, but his legacy ruined.

 (Psalm 1:1-3) Blessed are those who do not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take  or sit in the company of mockers,
but who delight in the law of the Lord and meditate on his law day and night.
They are like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers


We live in a world that loves to run from one thing to the next. Instead of taking one day at time we long for instant success with our fast food and pay at the pump mentality. Slow down and view life as a marathon, not a forty yard dash. Seek  to do things God speed, not your speed. Don’t miss the moment in front of you because you’re rushing to get to the next. Those seeking to live at the frantic pace of this world often burnout and never finish what they started.

 (James 4:13-15)13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.”


A greater purpose and goal can keep us motivated when circumstances make us feel like giving up. It’s real easy to get side tracked by details and it’s critical that we keep in mind why we’re doing what we’re doing. There are times that only my desire to please God keeps me pressing forward. There are many times that the greater good being accomplished takes my mind off the distractions surrounding me.

 (1 Corinthians 9:24) Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.

(Philippians 3:14) I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.


Things are going to happen and come your way that you did not invite. During this time God is shaping you, developing you, and building you into the person He has created you to be in this life. God will use even the most painful times to make you stronger and ready for what lies ahead in your life. God is in the business of taking what appears to be a mess and creating something beautiful.

(James 1:2-4)Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

(Job 23:10) But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.


Maybe you can’t see it and you certainly don’t feel like it, but you have come a long way. Don’t give up now. Keep swimming, keep striving, and keep trusting God for the growth and the victory that only He can bring in your everyday life. God has created you with His purposes in mind. As long as you have air to breathe God has a purpose for your existence. Don’t let anything and anyone take you off course, but keep swimming towards God’s best for you and your family. Through your faithfulness and because of God’s faithfulness, God will take your further than you ever dream or imagine.

(Galatians 6:9)Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.



           I bet you didn’t’ know that I have four kids and my wife has five. Some people have wondered if our house is a zoo, I would like to confirm those thoughts to be accurate. Ok I must admit that we don’t have nine kids, but my wife does count me as one of her boys. She actually says I am not only the biggest, but by far the highest maintenance. This post is not about information, but giving affirmation to a woman I dearly love and value.                                                                             

         Aimee and I dated for 4 ½ years and have now been married for 15 years come this August 23rd. During this time we have been blessed with four boys who are very close to turning 13, 11, 9, and then you have Asher who is a 2 ½ year old bundle of energy. Needless to say, they keep us busy. In fact, one of us stays really, really busy. Her name is Aimee Crosby. I wanted to take the time to give this more than deserving tribute to my wife.

            First of all, her support is off the charts. I knew before I ever got married that I would have to marry someone way beyond average if they were to endure the ups and downs of being a pastor’s wife. We have physically moved our entire family and belongings ELEVEN times in only 15 years of marriage. Our biggest leap was when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas while our first son was only five months old. My wife has supported me through college, seminary, youth ministry, church planting, and now hospice chaplaincy. She has stood by my side when others would have run away and she has loved me when others would have only been bitter.

            Secondly, she defines “Real Love”. Aimee has taught me true love not by what she says, but what she embodies. As, a 94 year old lady once told me, “Pastor, love is such is strong word.” Yes, I have been as guilty as any of just using love as a word. I recall that moment a little over five years ago that I realized my wife was not the problem, but that I had a lot to learn from her. From her I have learned that “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Some people talk a lot (That’s me) and then some people love a lot (That’s her). It is the love displayed greatest that speaks the loudest. I have come to understand that my wife may not be as verbally expressive as me, but her actions speak for themselves.

          Finally, she is irreplaceable! I admit that in the past I have joked that if something happened to her, I would quickly remarry. Well, maybe I would and maybe I wouldn’t. Actually, I don’t want to think about life without her. What I do know is that I will never find someone with such love, support, and patience to put up with me and all that goes with my calling in this life. You see, Aimee does not see us as individuals, but as partners in this life. She knows that we are a team and has always gladly been willing to play her irreplaceable part behind the scenes. Nothing against many other ladies, but she is not one of those ladies who demands things her way. She is not one of those people who thinks “Me first” in a me first world. She just wakes up each day and seeks to be the best wife she can be and the best mother our kids could as for in this life.

        Some of you may never get the opportunity to meet my wife Aimee or to know what she does behind the scenes. But, trust me when I tell you that she is more than just my bride of 15 years. She is why someone came up with the saying “Behind every good man is a good woman.” Aimee Crosby I love you and appreciate you more than you will ever know.

What’s Keeping You Up At Night?

It’s been exactly one week and counting since the tragic loss of my co-worker’s 19 year old daughter. My heart is still heavy and my mind still racing at 4 a.m. in the morning. Shouldn’t I be moving on by now? After all, not only am I a Christian, but I ‘m a hospice chaplain. Shouldn’t I have enough faith and experiences to soar through this time in my life. Why is knowing that she is in a much better place than me not enough to settle my every thought? Here is the truth about grief.

            Grief is a process, not an event. You don’t just wake up the next morning after a deep loss and say, “Hey, I’m ok, let’s put all this behind me.” Sure, we all just want to move forward, but grieving is never that simple. When someone you love is missing in your life it takes time and a whole lot of adjustments before a person can find a new normal in this life. You need time to accept the reality that they are really gone. You need time to process your deepest thoughts and feelings. And, you need time as you learn daily how to trust God time and time again with this new reality.

            Here is what I am deeply afraid is the perception of even most Christians. Most people believe that if I have faith, then I shouldn’t still battle the flesh. If this is the case, then everyone’s faith is shallow. The truth is that the flesh is always pulling on me, which is why I need faith to pull me through the days and the nights. You can wholeheartedly believe that God has a greater plan and will take care of you, yet still be processing your human emotions. Yes, there is a God, but you’re not Him. We can’t see what He sees and we don’t know what He knows.

            God’s word talks about there being a battle within us. There is a tug of war between the flesh of man and the spirit of God. Only the spirit of God can give us peace, joy, and happiness. However the flesh can make us stir crazy and worry to death about everything. In our heart of hearts we know that only God can handle things, but in our flesh we feel like the weight of the world is on our shoulders.

            Now, I don’t know what might be keeping you up at night. But, I do know that grief is a journey. A journey we can’t get through alone. A journey that usually takes longer than we would like it to take. A journey that is necessary if we are to find real peace and real perspective in this life. Here is what God has led me to continue to do…..

 KEEP PRESSING FORWARD….(Philippians 3:12) 12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.

KEEP PRAYING….(Philippians 4:6-7) Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

KEEP PERSPECTIVE… (2 Corinthians 4:8)We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.

KEEP PEACE…(John 14:27) Jesus said,  “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”



Dealing With Change

     There are many things we are still trying to figure out about this life, but one thing is for sure, life is a series of changes. At home, at work, and in society we deal with constant change. Some people like change, most people don’t, but regardless of your preference things are always in the process of changing. Here are three keys to dealing with change!

 1.      EXPECT Change….If you don’t expect change you will daily be taken by surprise and disappointed. Change and trials often go hand in hand. Usually what makes something a bigger trial is that we just didn’t see it coming our way. No, we cannot predict what will happen today or tomorrow. But, we can ask God to help us to be prepared for the changes that are sure to occur both in and around us.

 “Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.” (James 1:2-4)(The Message)

 2.      EMBRACE Change….. You either see things as accidents or divine appointments. I believe that everything happens for a reason and will either leave us bitter or better. A person who fights with change is always trying to turn back time and make things like they used to be. The person who embraces change may not like what is happening, but is determined to see something good come from their present season of life.

 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under Heaven.”  (Ecclesiastes 3:1)(NIV)

3.      TRUST GOD through Change….God is the only one who is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Despite what is going on around you, God is always with you and for you. God will protect you. God will provide for you. God will develop and anchor you on the inside, while everything is changing on the outside.

 “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.” (Hebrews 6:19)

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Complicated Grief

I’ve buried countless people and have been by the dying bed side of a couple hundred. But, this time was different for some reason. Maybe it was because it was so unexpected, maybe it was because it hit so close to home, and maybe it was because it just felt terrible in so many ways. Earlier that day we had no idea that our co-worker and friend would tragically lose her 19 year old daughter in a car accident later that evening. Days later we are left with the God sized task of not only accepting this reality, but figuring out a way to move forward. After many tears, prayers, and searching God’s word I think I’ve found some comfort and direction as we seek to move forward. I sought to answer these three critical questions during the funeral of Allie Murdaugh, a very special young lady who has touched the lives of so many in her short life here on this earth.

 Question #1: WHY DID THIS HAPPEN?

To that I quickly confess….I DON’T KNOW, but GOD DOES.

None of this makes sense from our perspective.

But, that doesn’t mean that God doesn’t have a plan.

(Proverbs 16:9) In their hearts human beings plan their course,
but the Lord establishes their steps.

 (Ecclesiastes 3:1-2) There is a time for everything,and a season for every activity under the heavens:    a time to be born and a time to die….

 From our view things appear to be accidents. God only has APPOINTMENTS.

Hebrews 9:27 it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:

Now, I realize that many will say, “How can you say this is God’s will?”  I’m not saying that everything that has happened was God’s will, but I am saying that God is never taken by surprise and that God has numbered our days. Only God knows when we will be born and when we will die.


 I believe most of us are still in shock and the reality of this has not clearly set in.

Right now, it is more like a bad dream where you wish you could just wake up and it not be true.

Here is what we must do if we are to move forward…


*You can turn many directions to drown your pain but only God can give you true help and healing.

(Psalm 121:1-8) I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,the Maker of heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot slip—he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.

The Lord watches over you—the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all harm —he will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore


(Proverbs 3:5-6) Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.[

 It is perfectly normal and human to ask, “WHY?”
But, ultimately we have to trust that God has a higher purpose than we can see at this time.

Scripture says God’s thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways.


God sent His son Jesus so that He could have a personal relationship with each one of us.

Our feelings and circumstances will change like the weather but God is the only one who is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow.

Alesa, one thing I have learned during our time of working together at hospice is that you have a real and ongoing relationship with God through his son Jesus Christ.

It was just last Friday that you posted the following scripture on your facebook status…

(Psalm 31:5) (GNT) I place myself in your care. You will save me, LORD; you are a faithful God.

 Question #3: WHERE IS ALLIE NOW?

 As some of us saw and others heard about…

Allie was in a very bad car wreck late Wednesday afternoon.

Those who saw her last didn’t see the beautiful girl they once knew as Allie Murdaugh.

Let’s make this very clear. Allie is not only ok, but she is better than that.

You see, when a believer in Jesus Christ dies we don’t grieve for them, we grieve for us.

Why? Because we miss them and want them to be around forever.

A couple of days ago, when Allie drew her last breath on this earth she did not die, but she transitioned to a real and unbelievable place called Heaven.

(Revelation 21:4) says this about Heaven…He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’[a] or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away

 (2 Corinthians 5:17)“If anyone is in Christ, he or she is a new creation. The old has gone and the new has come.”

 No, Allie Murdaugh was not here on this earth nearly as long as many would like but she is now in the safe arms of Jesus.

She is in a place of complete peace, joy, and eternal happiness.

Why? Because Allie received God’s grace and forgiveness and placed her faith in Jesus Christ.

(John 3:16) For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

 (Romans 10:9) If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

(Many ask, but how can we know she’s in Heaven)(1 John 5:13) I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.

 Yesterday, one of the gentlemen who worked at Herndon’s Funeral home was getting the chapel ready for the service. For a few moments he sat that big picture of Allie you saw on your way in (leaned up against the second to last pew) as he went to go get something. When he got back what he saw gave him chills and I believe will give us some confirmation. The sun was beaming through the stained glass window and the only thing lit up was the face and the smile of Allie. He said it was as if she was glowing, radiating with joy. It was such a sight that he ran and got some of the others to come and look at it themselves.

 Today, we celebrate not for ourselves, but for Allie and the new life that she has because of God’s grace and through her faith in Jesus Christ.

*We all must continue to keep this family in our prayers and offer whatever support we can.

*Should anyone reading this want to know more about how they can know Jesus Christ as their personal savior and ever present friend, please feel free to message me on facebook or email me at scraigcrosby@gmail.com. Allie, rest in peace!





     We all know deep down inside that anything is possible in this life. We have dreams, hopes, and we have fears. Our greatest fears normally consist of those “What If” moments that we know are possible, but we pray we never personally face in our lifetime. Tonight, one of my dear friends and co-workers faced one of those “What If” reality moments that we all pray we never face.

     Her daughter was on her way back home when the SUV she was driving flipped and ejected her through the window. Allie was her oldest daughter and a freshmen in college. Shortly after her accident a police officer knocked on their door to inform them that their daughter had been in a very bad accident and was rushed by helicopter to a nearby Hospital.

     Upon arrival at the hospital, her mom and dad were informed that not only was their daughter in critical condition, but that unless God chose to perform a miracle there was nothing doctors could do to keep her stay alive. Practically anyone would have said before this car accident occured that their daughter had all of life in front of her.Even with this not being my child,  I found myself standing there in shock, disbelief, and hurting so deeply for this couple who I know dearly loved their little girl.

     So many things go through your mind. Could this really be happening? Is this reality or am I having a bad dream. Earlier that day, things seemed like just another day. Everything seemed safe and certain until that officer showed up at their door. All of sudden a “What If” moment that no parent wants to experience was experienced. About six hours later when Ali’s heart quit beating in that ICU room that “What If” became reality.

      Now, I would never suggest that we should ever wake up and hope for bad things to happen. However, I do believe that we all have to live each day with the realistic perspective that the  “What If” could happen at anytime. What if one of my loved ones are not here tomorrow? What if I never have another chance to talk with my wife, my children, or one of my friends again? What if things don’t work out the way I planned?What if, What if, What if?

            There are endless possibilities to what could happen at the end of any day. And, I would like to suggest that we don’t dwell on the “What Ifs”, but rather live with the “What ifs” in mind. Don’t wait on that “What If” moment to happen, but do all you can while you can to make the most of the moment in front of you. Because we don’t know what will happen tomorrow or even by the end of the day. Make sure God is your anchor today, so that you won’t fall apart tomorrow. Tell those you love how much they mean to you now and don’t take a single moment you have together for granted. Because as I was reminded tonight a “What If” moment can happen when you least expect it.

(Colossians 4:5) says, …”Make the most of every opportunity.”

 (James 4:13-17) 13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” 16 As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. 17 If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.



When You Feel Like Giving Up

We’ve all been there…..tired, frustrated, and just ready to throw our hands up in the air. I QUIT is what we want to shout, but for some reason we continue to hold on with everything we have to keep things together. Usually this indicates at the very least that something has to change and it needs to change soon. So, what do you do when you feel like giving up, but you know in your heart that you can’t? There are three things that will always be a factor regardless of our season in life.


            Sometimes we just find ourselves in a funky place emotionally due to stress, fatigue, or frustration. It’s been said that our attitude will determine our altitude. Maybe you need to surround yourself with more positive people and places. Maybe you need to quit seeing the glass half empty and instead look at it as half full. Maybe you just need to step back and allow God to give you a more positive perspective towards work, home, and others. Maybe you have some pain from the past or present that needs to be dealt with before you can see anything through a healthy set of eyes. I can tell you this for sure, anything healthy begins with a healthy heart because perspective flows out of the heart.


            Sometimes our approach to life just stinks. Maybe you are clearly just trying to do too many things at once. Maybe you need to develop self discipline. Maybe you need to learn how to set healthy boundaries. Maybe you need to allow someone with greater insight to assess your life processes, which may be creating way more difficulty than you might think. Processes are always subject to change, but process is always important. How you approach something or someone will either create peace or absolute chaos. Some people never make process changes so nothing changes. You have to recognize when your approach to life must change in order for you to expect a positive change.


            These are things you value most. We all have them, but many times they are put on the back burner. For instance, many say their family is top priority, yet their family continues to get leftovers. Time is like money, you have to tell it where to go. Every one of us needs to determine our priorities and then make every effort to guard those priorities. For example, I purposely plan time with each of my boys. As a pastor, there is always someone who would like to talk and needs help. But, raising my boys is a high priority for me so I purposely make time for them. And, I do the same for my marriage. Knowing and establishing priorities is huge. Having the best processes in place is critical and maintaining a healthy perspective will always determine our life persective.

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.(Galatians 6:9)